At times in life, we all go through periods where we are just not ourselves. It could be for any reason. Honestly, it really does not matter what that reason is.
The problem with being an adult is life. life stress, life woes and just life in general. With everything that we face in our life these days, there’s no surprise that we face depression and go through times of unmotivated behaviour and attitude.
It is ok to be depressed when you shouldn’t be!
The last few weeks for myself and for Emma haven’t been that great! and that is me being 100% truthful. We have countless family and friends saying that we are being silly because there’s so much coming this year! which is so true and in no way am I denying these facts!
We have a wedding to look forward too in literally 6 months now. then there is the fact that we are moving house in 2 weeks. There are so many things on the calendar that I get confused at the best of the times. So why are we feeling so crap?
Well besides the obvious reason. The continued lack of immune system, our bodies fighting off colds and sickness that feel like they have been attacking at us for years now. Limbo seems to be a pretty hot answer.
Today I seem to have had a real big epiphany and it has really helped me. Basically its this…
It does not matter.
Yep pretty simple right? Why are we spending so much time trying to pull ourselves back to normal, when we have so much change coming and the fact is normality will happen by itself on its own accord.
Ok, honestly I have probably been told this by someone else. You know that dreaded word for me, patience. Sometimes I can be the most patient person in the world, other times I really don’t have it in me.
That’s the thing with depression and mental health, sometimes it takes us longer to realise the obvious. Which is so annoying! However, we really are all in a similar boat, going through very similar things. We just need to take time for ourselves.
What to do if you are going through a down period?
Remember that you are not alone.
There will always be someone that will be there to listen to your feelings. If you cant find a friend or family member to speak to, try seeking advice from a doctor or counsellor.
Switch off and get outside.
Sometimes a change of scenery can really help our moods. Getting away from the 4 same walls, and getting some fresh air in our lungs can really be a positive re-enforcement for all of us.
Do something that you enjoy
It can be so hard to feel motivated to do what we need to when we are feeling down. So stop and take a break! do something that you actually enjoy. Your motivation will come back when it is ready. I promise.
If you feel that you need help getting your motivation back up, how about checking out this post on Monday motivation here.
Try not to worry about the things outside of your control.
Firstly I want to point out the fact that I’m really suggesting that you try not to worry. I just want to make it clear that I know how hard it is to ‘try not to worry’ in fact, I am the worst for it. Who knows where I get it from but my brain normally races 500 steps ahead of where I am at all times. Constantly worrying when I am not in control. I am not being a hypocrite though. the times I have stopped worrying have really helped me regain focus, but it is ok when you can’t get these thoughts out of your head. You are not alone.
Write it down!
This is my favourite piece of advice that I stand by so often in so many different aspects of life. When your fighting depression and overwhelming limbo of feeling down you, write it down. What is it making you down? Write every single thing in a list, and then go through that list. Either by your self or with someone close to you. Face the list one by one.
Stop saying your fine.
Finally, it is ok to admit that you are not ok! it doesn’t matter how many times I’ve heard this phrase. We are all still doing the same thing. We are telling people that we are OK, and Fine when things are not ok. Be open to talking! take the weight off your shoulders! who knows you might feel better after you have admitted that you are not OK.
Seeking help for depression
Sometimes our feeling down spells last a lot longer then we would hope they would. It is OK to ask for help. It is completely normal to ask for help. In fact, I am asking you to seek help!
There are varies helplines and agencies that you can contact to seek advice. Such as the Samaritans.