March 2020 | Wrapping up the month.

Hey guys! and again Happy April!.. not that these last few weeks have been happy for many of us. It feels pretty strange to be doing a round-up this month because it is just such a strange time right now, especially as I have been sharing so much with everyone about the move and coronavirus already. But I am wanting to stick to a routine as much as possible this year! especially when it comes to my blog. So what has been happening in March 2020?

What has been happening in March 2020?

Coronavirus & Lockdown.

Obviously The coronavirus, AKA Covid-19 has been affecting the world in such a dark way this month. A worldwide Pandemic, leaving many countries including the UK in a state of lockdown. So we are all now confined to our homes and should be avoiding all social situations, only leaving the house for essentials. The world is a scary place to be in right now. As our key workers battle to keep us safe and alive.

We are really grateful in this house for our electronic devices where we can video call and virtually see our families and friends. I’ve been calling all my family every day and keeping in touch with them via video call.

If you are feeling bored or lonely and you need support, you can always reach out to me on one of my socials or send me an email!

We moved into our first home!

The biggest thing to happen to us in our relationship yet. We knew the move was coming as the farm we were living on was sadly being sold. I absolutely love our new house! we got the keys to our house on the 20th March 2020. Which will always remain a special date now. Of course, I miss the farm as well. As we have been in lockdown since moving into the house, we have had plenty of time to make it from a house to home.

Unpacking and putting things away didn’t take us too long, we spent long days in the first week searching for all our belongings and giving them homes. We had to be fair had are stuff packed up for so long that we were pretty excited to get our belongings back out of storage.

Bella is settling in really well with the house move as well. She loves lying in the sun in her new garden. She loves it, but definitely missing her grandad and Millie dog. We can tell.

The Craft room.

So Im pretty much guessing that this room is gonna be where I spend a lot of my time! Crafting and using it as an office.

Today I actually spent most of the day painting the frames of our notice boards pink so that they look pretty in the room. The craft room is full of colour, unlike the rest of the house. I can’t wait to show everyone the room when it is complete.

March 2020

Blog things

With the coronavirus making it impossible for me to work on my business plans and development right now, I am planning to be spending a lot more time on my blog and its contents in the next few weeks. Including a bit of a blog makeover. As well as beginning to release a completely new project. So watch this space for that one! ♡

Our wedding plans

So obviously with everything that is going on in the world right now, and with no clear idea on how long we will be in lockdown, and social events are cancelled until further notice. We do still have small hope that this will have calmed down by our wedding. We are unable to make a decision on what to do about our date at the moment. We are already missing out on special events that have already been cancelled. such as hen doos. So I am trying to remain positive, and plan ahead with a plan B. If that makes sense. Hopefully we will know more soon.

March blog posts

Why you should not be worried about being in a depression down spell.

What exactly is self care and why do we need it?

Talking the effects of the Coronavirus/Covid-19

Social Distancing 101. Creative things to do whilst your bored.

Our first home together, What we’ve done so far.

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Coronavirus aka COVID-19 – Talking the effects of the virus.

I am pretty certain, if you are like me anyway, you are pretty fed up of hearing the word Coronavirus right now. No, I don’t mean the beer, I mean the virus.

It is a pretty discussable subject right now. Everywhere you turn. The past few days I have woken up to floods of notifications, Emails, Twitters, Sky news. The lot of them all mentioning Coronavirus.

As you may have seen in my February wrap up post here. we are so excited and anxious to be getting into our new place. For us, this week is moving week. Friday we get the keys to our new home. Saturday we have Hired a truck. Tensions are definitely high with self-isolation being a hot topic of this week. One of the worries is we need our helpers.

There is NO way were be postponing the move. I do not think we can take much more of our belongings being packed away as it is. Personally, we are bored already!

Today we took a trip into a local shopping village. As you all know a lot of people have been ‘panic buying’ so the last 2 weeks we have done our food shopping options have been more than limited. Since we are moving into our own house with no ‘supplies’, we decided to buy a few frozen bits. Wow, what can I really say about the shops? whatever shop you are in is rammed and so busy. People are buying more than normal, and the shops are really struggling to keep up with such high demand.

it’s not just us,

I had a message from my cousin who is in France today. France went into complete lockdown. He was enjoying his last 40 of freedom on the beach near where he stays before he faces 2 weeks locked in the house. They are allowed to only go for food and medicines however, they then need to carry documents explaining why they are out of the house.

My brother with diabetes has been told that although still being employed he now can’t work for 12 weeks. 12 weeks is such a long time to be off work. But being diabetic he is of higher risk of catching the virus where he works.

Coronavirus

What actually is Coronavirus?

Coronavirus, also known as COVID-19 is a new illness that the NHS and government have little knowledge at the moment. What they do know is that the coronavirus affects the lungs and airways. The virus is airborne.

What can we do to stay safe?

  • Self Isolating where possible. avoiding social situations and crowded areas. cleaning your hands with soap and water thoroughly. (sing happy birthday in your head).
  • Always wash your hands when you get home from being out. You can use hand sanitiser when there is no soap available. However, the most effective method of killing bacteria.
  • Try to avoid close contact with people who have symptoms of coronavirus.
  • Unless truly unavoidable don’t travel on public transport.
  • Work from home where possible.
  • Disinfect shared objects and surfaces.
  • Keep your hands away from your eyes, nose and mouth.
  • Use the phone to contact your GP or 111 for advice, avoiding the doctor surgeries and hospitals where possible.

Coronavirus symptoms

If you think that you have contracted symptoms connected to Coronavirus (symptoms that are new) then you are required to self isolate. Guidelines from the NHS I have linked below.

The affects of Coronavirus

We all know that this virus has affected the world in so many different ways. People are terrified. Terrified of getting ill, or losing their loved ones to this nasty illness.

The panic of being isolated, and that shops and business closing. So many are panic buying. The shelves in the stores are as empty as anything. People are now running out of their general supplies and finding that everything in the shop has been brought out.

I think that it is amazing that some stores are now introducing hours where elderly, are now being allowed their own time to shop so that they are able to get what they need. Without being overcrowded and have an actual chance of buying essentials. Soap, Anti bac gel, dried foods, tins, and toilet roll. These are the main items that none of us can find on the shelves right now. making this situation even scarier. If you are thinking of panic buying! please of others who may be vulnerable and in need.

Many of our friends and family are aware that the schools may be shut as of Friday. To think how much this is going to affect children where they are sitting important exams in the upcoming weeks. Will they even be able to take their exams?. Plus the poor parents are also going to be stranded in a house with their children getting bored for weeks?

Business and events will be being cancelled in the upcoming months. Some social locations have already been asked to close. Although some may have the ability to be able to work from their homes, not everyone has this option so will be losing wages. The GOV has set a motion for mortgages etc to be put on hold. However, businesses will still be losing money. Small businesses especially.

Stay positive and support each other

No one is really sure how long this will last, whether it is going to be weeks or months. The virus is scary, it has affected so many around the world. This really is the time that we should all be supporting each other.

Some people are not taking this virus seriously, however, the facts are it affects each and every one of us. People have died. we need to take this seriously. Many have been affected, and many vulnerable. Especially those with an underlying health condition.

Support each other with positive thoughts and acts of kindness. Keep your self busy indoors.

Please keep safe and we’ll during these hard times.

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What exactly is self-care and why do we need it?

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Self-care is something that I try to think about and achieve as much as I humanly can. I am often seeing so many people talking about the importance of self-care that it truly shocks me that some people still do not know what it is or why it is so beneficial to them.

Self-care

What is self-care?

self-care are the actions we do that our for ourselves. When we maintain a good self-care routine, we are achieving it for ourselves. Improving our health, development and well being.

Is there anything that you do that makes you feel good today? Actually forget good. That is such a boring word. If you can sit there and say today my day was, what imaginative word would you use? Mine, my day was unique. My day was unique because only I had this day today for everyone else it was different.

I know how easy it is to become blind to the positives in life, especially when it comes to our mental health. Even when their good things staring at us right in the face, sometimes, for no reason at all. For no fault of our own, we let our anxiety or depression win.  In my previous post, I explained that its ok to be in a down spell which covered a lot more of this, here.

I have recently become addicted to those books, that I suppose fall into the Self-help category at Waterstones! (Not that I actually go to the actual book shop, it is definitely about Amazon Prime buying!) 
I love the quotes and inspiration that you can adopt from these books, sometimes I could be reading a few paragraphs of something, and think crap! this is me! Anxiety overtaking comes naturally to me. It is not just about the words, it will be ok, is not always good enough, and our actions influence everything, especially how we feel. 

Looking after your own mental health isn’t just about how you feel on what day, and it is definitely not about just talking it through, our actions and mindset put together to have a massive impact on our lives on a day to day basis.
These things I class as self-care for me, everyone is different, so although they may not work for you, I hope some of my ideas help someone! 

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Types of self-care

There 8 self-care types and many different things you can do for each particular type.

Physical

Your physical self-care includes your sleeping, your physical health, what your eating and drinking, ways to rest and relax.

emotional

your emotional self-care covers your stresses, your emotional attachments, compassion, kindness etc.

Social

Your social self-care is your communication skills, your connections with overs, positive social media reflection, and your boundaries.

Spiritual

Your spiritual self-care includes the time that you spend alone, meditation & yoga, connections with nature, journaling and sacred spaces.

Personal

Personal self-care is your hobbies, getting to know yourself, your personal identities, and the ability to empower yourself to be yourself.

Space

Spacial self-care is the care you take into looking after your own space. The space you live in. The earth itself, by being sustainable and keeping your personal spaces organise.

Financial

Financial self-care is being able to manage your money correctly so that you’re not getting yourself into financial worries, such as splurging money too much you are surrounded by debt. As well as being able to commit to responsibilities of paying their own bills etc.

Work

Finally, your work self-care is the things that you need in your workplace, the things that help and improve your time management, workspace, learning and to take suitable breaks.

What can I do to achieve it?

There are a variety of different activities you can do to reach your own personal self-care goals. Here are some general ideas…

BUBBLE BATH, BATH BOMBS, CANDLES AND MAYBE A LITTLE WINE!

When it has been a long day, or when your feeling a bit down, or just for no reason at all. It’s more about the giving yourself time to relax, chill, and let any stress, threats or anxiety fade. 

BE CREATIVE

It doesn’t matter what your creativity is, always take the time to actually do it! It could be spending hours with your drawing books, or colouring pad, or something a bit more technical. I literally surround my self by different hobbies and crafty things, I love the feeling of accomplishment for whatever you’ve achieved, is enough. Plus somethings are a great distraction, like colouring! 

How about checking out how to make 3D paper flowers, here.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH COLOUR, BEAUTY, AND YOUR FAVOURITE THINGS

I always say that my favourite colour is glitter, Its shiny and so pretty. It makes me feel content! If it is not glitter, it’s pink, it’s colourful. When you surround yourself with the things you love, you will always find something that will be able to make you happy. 

MAKE YOUR FAVOURITE HOT DRINK, IN YOUR FAVOURITE MUG

I have an obsession with mugs (and believe me this is no exaggeration) but I definitely have my fav, I love using. 

SPEND MORE TIME ON YOURSELF

Spending time on you could be absolutely anything, It could be spending an evening pampering yourself, with Hair treatments and painting your nails, to spending a few hours with your favourite book Giving yourself ‘me time’ is such a vital thing that makes us all feel good. As long as your going something that is making you feel happy, then whatever it is it’s a good thing! 

VISIT YOUR FAVOURITE PLACES

We like to have the Marwell Zoo pass, it is given us the excuse to get out and more active. Plus the excuse to take weekends away to visit other zoo locations included in the price. If it is not a zoo were visiting, its Bournemouth beach. We’ve created so many amazing memories on days just out and relaxing. Make a list of your favourite places and make sure you take every possible opportunity to go!

GET YOURSELF ORGANISED

My anxiety always seems to go out of control when I don’t feel organised enough, whether it is arranging something or just something general. Making lists, adjust your routine, using reminders, sticky notes, and updating my calendar always seems to make me feel better. I would always make this a suggestion when things seem to be manic.

What activities do you do for your general self-care? I would love to hear new suggestions.

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Why you should not be worried about being in a depression down spell!

At times in life, we all go through periods where we are just not ourselves. It could be for any reason. Honestly, it really does not matter what that reason is.
The problem with being an adult is life. life stress, life woes and just life in general. With everything that we face in our life these days, there’s no surprise that we face depression and go through times of unmotivated behaviour and attitude.

It is ok to be depressed when you shouldn’t be!

The last few weeks for myself and for Emma haven’t been that great! and that is me being 100% truthful. We have countless family and friends saying that we are being silly because there’s so much coming this year! which is so true and in no way am I denying these facts!

We have a wedding to look forward too in literally 6 months now. then there is the fact that we are moving house in 2 weeks. There are so many things on the calendar that I get confused at the best of the times. So why are we feeling so crap?
Well besides the obvious reason. The continued lack of immune system, our bodies fighting off colds and sickness that feel like they have been attacking at us for years now. Limbo seems to be a pretty hot answer.

Depression

Today I seem to have had a real big epiphany and it has really helped me. Basically its this…

It does not matter.

Yep pretty simple right? Why are we spending so much time trying to pull ourselves back to normal, when we have so much change coming and the fact is normality will happen by itself on its own accord.

Ok, honestly I have probably been told this by someone else. You know that dreaded word for me, patience. Sometimes I can be the most patient person in the world, other times I really don’t have it in me.

That’s the thing with depression and mental health, sometimes it takes us longer to realise the obvious. Which is so annoying! However, we really are all in a similar boat, going through very similar things. We just need to take time for ourselves.

Depression

What to do if you are going through a down period?

Remember that you are not alone.

There will always be someone that will be there to listen to your feelings. If you cant find a friend or family member to speak to, try seeking advice from a doctor or counsellor.

Switch off and get outside.

Sometimes a change of scenery can really help our moods. Getting away from the 4 same walls, and getting some fresh air in our lungs can really be a positive re-enforcement for all of us.

Do something that you enjoy

It can be so hard to feel motivated to do what we need to when we are feeling down. So stop and take a break! do something that you actually enjoy. Your motivation will come back when it is ready. I promise.

If you feel that you need help getting your motivation back up, how about checking out this post on Monday motivation here.

Try not to worry about the things outside of your control.

Firstly I want to point out the fact that I’m really suggesting that you try not to worry. I just want to make it clear that I know how hard it is to ‘try not to worry’ in fact, I am the worst for it. Who knows where I get it from but my brain normally races 500 steps ahead of where I am at all times. Constantly worrying when I am not in control. I am not being a hypocrite though. the times I have stopped worrying have really helped me regain focus, but it is ok when you can’t get these thoughts out of your head. You are not alone.

Write it down!

This is my favourite piece of advice that I stand by so often in so many different aspects of life. When your fighting depression and overwhelming limbo of feeling down you, write it down. What is it making you down? Write every single thing in a list, and then go through that list. Either by your self or with someone close to you. Face the list one by one.

Stop saying your fine.

Finally, it is ok to admit that you are not ok! it doesn’t matter how many times I’ve heard this phrase. We are all still doing the same thing. We are telling people that we are OK, and Fine when things are not ok. Be open to talking! take the weight off your shoulders! who knows you might feel better after you have admitted that you are not OK.

Seeking help for depression

Sometimes our feeling down spells last a lot longer then we would hope they would. It is OK to ask for help. It is completely normal to ask for help. In fact, I am asking you to seek help!

There are varies helplines and agencies that you can contact to seek advice. Such as the Samaritans.

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The reasons I love Autumn…

With the end of October looming upon us, you have to admit that this year we have been so lucky to have such beautiful weather. I mean It’s hardly rained at all!, the sun continues to beam even now! which doesn’t feel the normal thing to be saying in October. I mean, I’m not wishing rainy crap British weather on us, but Im appreciating the fact we haven’t had it, Thats OK right?
Autumn is a such a lovely time of the year, and it always seems like it doesn’t last very long before the winter period hits. So I thought it would make sense to take a moment to talk about why I love Autumn so bloody much! So here is my list of what I love about it, and why I think this is the best season!

The Leaves changed colour…

There is nothing more beautiful then going on a woodland walk in Autumn. This weekend was a perfect chance to get outside and go out see nature at its best! Plus Autumn trees and wildlife is when I have taken some of my best photos!
Theres something really mood changing when you start seeing the leaves change, like an uplifter?

Seasonal drinks

I am a complete sucker for when it comes to a coffee fix! especially when is comes to a Latte, no matter what time of the year, I mean it could be a boiling day and I still love a hot coffee.
We all know that Autumn is here when Starbucks, and Costa bring out the Pumpkin Spice Latte, or their Bonfire Spiced Latte.  As soon as these hit the boards! I’m straight off the train heading to work and stopped by temptation most times to get one of these. It doesn’t help that both Starbucks and costa are next to each other opposite the train station, Its hard to avoid right?

Autumn Colours

As I’ve got older I have to admit the truth! I mean It kills me to say this, It really does, but it just Isn’t all about the pink any more! Horrifying I know! 
I have absolutely fallen In love with Autumn colours more and more recently! and Its brilliant!
I love the Autumn tones that Nature brings, as the leaves change, but not just that! The Autumn season fashion! My wardrobe Is actually coming away from constant dark and boring, took long enough! Burnt colours, in Oranges, Reds, Yellows. 
OH and I love my new mustardy yellow Jumper! 

It’s Pumpkin Season…

These lovelies are not just for halloween yanno! Although we will be carving out as a Hallow Eves treat!
Pumpkin picking is so much fun, and we headed to Pickwell Farm this weekend to choose our own Pumpkin treats off the fields! it was an amazing atmosphere! and so many people using the opportunity to pose with their loved one, I mean yeah,  we did! A few!
I can not wait to attempt to make something out of this beauty! Ive always wanted to try and make my own pumpkin Soup!

Cosy up time…

My final important reason, with the weather starting to be colder its the perfect excuse for a night in. There is just a warm blissed feeling about being able to snuggle under a cosy blanket! with your favourite  Film on (or a good book), Candles lit!, comfy PJs and Jigsaw puzzles! Perfect night in, can’t really argue with that hey?

There is just so much to do…

As soon as the end of September comes around seasonal activities are at there highest! and there is just so much to fit in!, Halloween, bonfire night, and then it will soon be Christmas! I love this time of year! 

It’s time to start thinking of those winter goals!

So with the Winter Season looming, Christmas is coming around the corner fast! I’m planning to sit down soon and set some seasonal goals! 
I’m always mentioning that time is going by way too quickly! and with that being said I am not wanting to see opportunities pass untouched! 
I’m always looking for ideas and goals on things to do! so shout me in the comments with your Winter goals!