February 2020: Wrapping up the month in style.

Happy March guys! Does anybody else think that February 2020 had gone so slowly?. It definitely felt like we were watching paint dry for most of this month! For us, most February has been filled with full-on colds and sickness bugs! which has not been very fun at all!

So its that time of the month that I post my monthly life update and take a look back at the month we have just had! I actually love writing these posts, because of it being a brilliant chance for me to reflect and be grateful for all the good things!

February 2020

So what happened in life for February 2020?

I celebrated turning 28!

I am yet another year closer to 30. February is one of the best months because of course, it is my birthday month. I celebrated my 28th Birthday this year and honestly, I had such a lovely day. Emma took me shopping which was really nice, and then we went for a meal and bowling session with the family! (I played with the bumpers up, for a fairer chance!) It really was a brilliant day. It is safe to say I felt well and truly spoilt!

I finally got my nose pierced.

Getting my nose pierced is something that I have wanted to do for years. However I never really felt confident enough to get it done. So to have finally bit the bullet… and conquered the pain, I did it! Using the money I had been gifted for my birthday. which was a lovely treat out of the I think it looks awesome!

We have a completion date!

The major news for this month! If you read my January Wrap up post here, you would know that I and Emma are currently so excited as we are starting a new adventure getting our own house!
We have officially been given our completion date this week! meaning we know that we are getting the keys on the 20th March! eeeeeeeeeeeeee. This is so bloody exciting.
So we are officially sorting out our calendars, getting ready and organised to spend the time at the house slowly moving our stuff over! This probably means that march will go really slowly for us now since it is 3 weeks to wait! So in the meantime, I plan to carry on creating mood boards and getting ideas for the house off of Instagram and Pinterest.

Since this month has been quieter for us, this is about it for this months wrap up! March will be better with less illness and of course the start of an exciting adventure.

Posts from February.

Home Decor: 10 Amazon pieces to fall in love with.
Chronic pain – How this has affected me on a day to day basis.
How getting a pet has had a positive impact on my mental health.
Selfie Queen? is it really such a bad thing? Reasons to love your selfie!
14 ways to say I love you without actually saying it

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How getting a pet has had a positive impact on my mental health.

I previously wrote a post looking back on 2019 here. One of the best things that had happened was bringing Bella home. She had her 6 month birthday on the 25th December, and by then she had been in our life over 4 months. So today I am talking our pet Bella and how she has improved my mental health and Emma’s.

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We had talked for absolute months about how we needed and wanted a puppy in our life’s, but it was something that we were going to do when we got our own place. However, we decided in the summer that we couldn’t wait for any longer. Especially having puppy sat for a beautiful pup for a friend. It wasn’t until we actually got Bella that we realised how much of a big difference to us she had made.

Bella is a Jackawawa. We have had her with us since she was 8 weeks old. In fact, I am pretty sure she may have even been slightly younger than 8 weeks. when we first brought Bella home, she was TINY. I literally mean the size of a sky TV remote.

Having a pet can boost your confidence and reduce anxiety.

From the day we brought Bella home with us our life’s changed straight away. She is our little fur baby. Both mine and Emma’s anxieties started decreasing majorly. We had a new and positive focus, and it is still like that to this day.
When I am feeling stressed or anxious for whatever reason, Bella comes and gives cuddles and licks my face making me laugh. It must be true that a pet really does feel our emotions and tensions.

A pet is not just a pet, they are family.

Just like other fur baby mummies and daddies, she is part of our family. Bella is not just a pet to us.
We know we are not alone either. I see so many people treat their pets as if they are human! Honestly.
I am definitely not ashamed to admit, we are there with them.

Positive memories with your pet.

So many photos have been taken and so many memories have already been made. We haven’t even reached a year yet. Her first feed with us, Her first trip into the garden, Her being a manic, her first bath and so many more.

All of these memories are special. We have taken so many photos! Bella even has her own Instagram page here.

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Pets help routine.

Almost like owning an alarm clock. Having a pet definitely changes and defines your routine. When they wake up, it is pretty certain they will wanna wake you up too. Your pet doesn’t care what time it is or if you want to laze in bed that day because they need to get up and get outside to do their business. Especially with dogs.
Dogs and other pets seem to have this ability to know their own routine inside out! they know exactly when it is their dinner time and when you are going out and coming back. Almost like they can read your mind. Since we got Bella we wake up a lot earlier most days to make sure she’s ok.

They just bring natural happiness.

I honestly just have to look at Bella, and I find myself smiling. Her little face. Her cheeky attitude. I absolutely adore her. Which, just makes me feel so much happiness. She is totally our baby girl, and she is precious to us. I would honestly say that she just naturally ups are mood, making us feel happier on a daily basis. Which is so good for your mental health!

Everything that I have written here today is my own personal opinions and experiences, so I would love to know if you agree or feel the same when it comes to pets. Leave a comment below.

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14 ways to say I love you without saying the words.

Valentine’s Day being a few days away now I thought it would be the perfect time to talk about ways we can show affection to are loved ones without using words. Each and every love is unique to that Couple. The way they express love through a variety of ways. Over time, we learn just about everything about that person. how they like their coffee or tea. What their favourite tv show is, where they love to spend the most time, even down to their insecurities.

Sometimes we forget that love comes in so many forms and that not every couple shows their emotions and feelings in the same way. age. I am a verbal person. I like using words to express myself. However, my significant other is not. He is more “action-oriented” when it comes to expressing his feelings. Figuring out which method your partner uses to express him/herself is helpful, but there are many small ways we show our love for each other without actually saying “I love you.”

Love is simply one of the most powerful emotions that we all feel from the minute that our lives start. love begins when we are born and love our parents, one of the many types of love that we will experience in our lives.

What is love to you? An expectation of what you need to find, an expression of how you feel or a fairy tale ending.

The world of love is such a complicated experience that we all go through, and when we find the one the words ‘I love you’ never seem enough.

How can you say I love you without actually saying the words?

There are so many ways to express your feelings and devotion to your partner. I would also say that you can express your feelings to your family and friends in some of these ways too.

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I’m lucky to be in love with my best friend

Write a list of the reasons behind your love.

It’s fair enough to be in love. But to explain why it is you are in love with that person is so valuable. Writing a list of exactly what makes your heart race when you see them, and why they matter to you so much. I’d even include the smallest things because sometimes the smallest things are hugely appreciated.

Plan a low key romantic date.

You don’t need to spend hundreds of pounds on fancy. Love is about enjoying the time together with the other person. It really is not about how much is spent. My favourite time is when I and my Emma are sat enjoying a film night together, with our favourite food. It doesn’t even need to be at the cinema.
Fairy lights, Candles, A DVD, popcorn and wine. The perfect ingredients to a romantic night in.

Make a playlist of songs with meaning.

This is like one of the cheesiest things ever, but amazing. Music speaks so much to our emotions and expresses things without needing to say them. So what better then a playlist created especially for them?

Show your love with actions, not words.

Sometimes hearing the words I love you isn’t actually enough. Saying it is one thing but proving your feelings with actions and displays of affection is a completely different ballgame. That feeling of love that rushes to your tummy as they grab you and kiss you for no reason, but that they want too.
For example, the first time Emma went to the shop without me and got me a meal deal exactly what I picked, I knew that the thought was everything. So, I say it, It is true. Actions speak louder than words.

Be the listener that they need.

Nothing speaks love more than listening. Something that may not be important to you is probably a really big deal in their eyes.

Being heard is so important. I would actually say that listening and hearing are slightly different. You listened to there day at work, they had a crap day. But did you hear what was said? The emotions? The feelings? Making them feel like what they are talking about matters means a lot. Feeling unheard can lead to feeling lonely and negative. This could simply ruin a relationship and quickly.

Make a sentiment of love book or box.

I love these and as a scrapbooker, I totally am a sentimental hoarder! Well, What I mean is a hoarder of the sentimental things! Does that make sense? Hm. In my boxes, I keep all the silly things, that aren’t actually silly to me. Tickets from places we have been together. Things like that. You could put whatever in your that reminds you of them. Then take the time to look at it together.

Switch off and be totally there.

We can all admit that our devices really can get in the way of reality in this day and age. Since smartphones and apps were created we spend more time using those, then we do each other. Spend a few hours together with your phones and tablets out of your hands! or even off! Enjoy just the time together without being disturbed!

Pay attention to them.

There’s nothing worse than feeling like your efforts are being wasted and going unnoticed. Ensuring your paying attention shows your love for someone. Just by noticing the little things sometimes, like when they have done something slightly different to normal can go so noticed. Ironically.

Make them your first priority

Whether it’s the beginning of a relationship still in the phase of bonding Or a fully committed relationship where your living together, and Have married. Feeling that persons number one priority is such an amazing feeling, it is unreal.

I once wrote a post about being in a love triangle here. Nobody ever wants to feel second-best in life.

Flirt

The rushing emotions that we feel when the one we love flirts with us are so amazing. Butterflies rushing to our tummies, and let’s be blunt. The automatic horniest feelings. Your excitement, because you are feeling sexy, and loved. Flirting is the most visual way to show your love to another. it doesn’t matter how long you have been together. Every person enjoys a good flirt.

Be willing to compromise.

A true relationship has compromises, and the willingness to compromise. It is not all the time that you are going to agree with your loved ones. By showing the willingness to compromise in different situations shows the ability to understand that person. Compromises can be small or large, but they do make a massive difference in every relationship.

Appreciate them.

To be honest, Appreciating someone is similar to paying attention to them, but also very different.
Have you ever put so much effort in something, that you are so proud of. Then you feel knocked down just by having your efforts ignored. Remember that feeling? Why it upset you? why you didn’t feel like it was fair. Maybe you felt ignored and unworthy. This is the feeling of being unappreciated! And let us be honest, It SUCKS. It is the exact feeling that you are giving to your loved ones when you don’t appreciate them. Something big to think about there, hey?

Leave them happy notes to find

This may be cheesy! You can call me soppy. Being proud to admit that I am a romance lover.

It can’t be helped, I enjoy leaving Emma random notes telling her that I am thinking of her, or little jokes, or even love messages around the house. I even used to leave them in her lunch box. Just something to show my feelings, and make her smile.

Write a list of reasons why you love them.

Get a pen and paper and write a list of as many as you like. Write all the reasons down that makes you feel the way to do. Like the way they smile, the way they do certain things. Etc.
Knowing the reasons why they feel the way they do make those reasons even more special.

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Meet the blogger – Jack Deyes

In case you missed it, back in December I posted my first meet the blogger segment with SarahTradeMark.
In this ‘Meet the blogger’ I am talking about the wonderful Jack Deyes. Jack is a lifestyle blogger who is very passionate about the blogging community.

My favourite post from Jack…

Jack has written an open post on his own experiences with autism. ‘I have autism’. Jack really goes into detail about his autism, and how it affects him on a day to day basis. I feel that anyone who reads this post will gain more of an understanding of autism.

If you would like to follow Jack on Social Media he is on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

Here are the questions I asked blogger Jack

What Made You Start blogging?

I started my blog because I wanted something that I would see my self doing for a long time. Down to me reading loads of blogs like I do today blogging seemed like the perfect thing to do

What advice would you give to the new bloggers out there?

Keep up the outstanding work on your blog and blog posts. The work you are putting in is absolutely incredible. Make sure you make your blog you’re own and don’t let anyone tell you how you should be running your blog. After all, you made your blog for you and should continue to be that way. Also sometimes you may feel like giving up but don’t give up because your blog is amazing and so are and I believe you. When you feel lost in the blogging community or something towards your blog talk to a blogger because at the end of the day you’re apart of this blogging community and we all help and support one another and that includes you.

Where do you see your blog in 5 years time?

I hope to see it continue to grow and have even more fun posts on there for people to read. 

I really appreciate Jack taking part in my Meeting the bloggers’ segment.
If you would like to take part, send me an email to thealexajadeblog@gmail.com

What I am changing in 2020.

As we are now over a week into January I thought this would be the perfect time to talk about what I plan to change this 2020.
This year I am not setting any new year resolutions, just life changes that I want to keep too. We all set New Year’s resolutions but after a while, we seem to forget about them and no longer stick to them. This is why I do not want to call the resolutions this year. This year is all about life goals!

My happy planner this year to keep me on track!

Routine.

Last year my health caused my daily routines to make a major hit. In honesty, I completely lost all concept of what a routine even is or should be. One of my main goals right now especially is to get myself in a routine again. The past few days I have been setting my alarm for 9:30 every morning, which is a start since most days I had not been getting up till the afternoon.
Currently, my iPad and iPhone are acting more of a PA then anything else, as I am finally setting constant reminders, events, shared notes with Emma etc. Apparently this method seems to be working most for me, as I have started planning my day hour by hour.

Confidence.

At the beginning of this month, I posted about bringing confidence into 2020. Which as I said there I plan to step out of my comfort this year and become more confident we’re possible.
For me, I know that this is not going to be easy! But I am determined to try.

Learning to love myself for who I am

My self-employment.

Becoming self-employed is a big deal for me this year. I am finally starting to push myself in many ways to get organised, focused and motivated. 2019 left me with way too many months that I didn’t feel motivated at all, I am promising myself that this is not going to be the case this year.

Getting married. 04.09.2020.

Well, this is less of a goal and more of something that is definitely happening this year. With less than 9 months to go till September now and still so much to do. Our wedding is a massive focus of the year! I am so excited. This year I get to become Mrs Taplin to my beautiful fiancé Emma. One of our many exciting adventures this year.

Healthy lifestyle.

Having said about the wedding, this now fits in pretty well. This year I’m taking a particular interest in my health and lifestyle. Having had a bad year health-wise last year, I am hoping that by the wedding I can get myself into better shape then I am now. There are wedding photos to think about of course!

Moving house.

This is a given for us this year as well. This year, probably in the next 6 months I and Emma will be moving into our own place. That’s right, 2020 is a new house and a marriage!
how scary is this right? And so bloody exciting. We started this week, house searching. Already we are overwhelmed with the number of viewings and searching we have planned this week. I am excited and nervous about the challenges me and Emma will face by living on our own!
You will probably see me blogging about this a lot this year. I warn you now :).

Will 2020 be the year for using my camera more.

Now, this is really an ironic ambition for me this year. Honestly, I am a photo obsessed personality. I constantly have my phone out taking photos. Over the past few years though it’s constantly photos on my phone. Not my actual camera, which I spent so much money on.
It really annoys me that I’ve become so lazy when it comes to my DSLR, especially when it’s one of my prize possessions. So I am planning to get it out of its bag every chance I can.

Last but not least. Happiness.

I know that right now I am so lucky! I have an amazingly supportive partner, a wonderful family, a lovely place to live, amazing friends and so many wonderful things that are happening this year. 2020 is going to be a busy and amazing year for both of us.
Unfortunately, I sometimes allow my depression and anxiety to affect me way too much. So this year I want to try and improve by leaving myself happy messages and notes to find. Reminders. Things like that.
It is so easy for any of us, no matter what our situation, to forget how lucky we really are.

So this is my list of what I want to change (and what will be changing) in 2020.
What is it that you would like for your year? I hope you all reach your goals.

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Confidence building. How to bring confidence into your life for 2020.

What is January other than an opportunity to start afresh! It is the time of year, that we are all praying for a fresh new start. We have the opportunity to leave any negative thoughts, feelings and experiences in 2019 behind.
My biggest new years resolution for this year is CONFIDENCE. One of the biggest things for me, and I know so many others.

we’re officially 5 days into January! the big 2020. I’m currently filled with positive vibes and a hell of a lot of motivation. I can’t wait to see what this year brings. I know a lot of things are happening this year for us both. So, I’m hoping to keep this up all of 2020! this is why confidence is so important to me right now.

So why is confidence so important?

Confidence has a massive impact on our happiness, and mental health. To be honest, though it’s a sucky business, honestly, it is. It comes and goes and sometimes is never there when we really need it.
Some are lucky, their natural persona is full of confidence with no issues, but it is not as easy for all of us.

So what should we be considering in order to make 2020 the most confident year for us all?

There are so many things that we can work on to help make this year go the way that we want it too. Confidence can affect the way we do things in life. I personally allow my anxiety and lack of confidence to win so often.

So today I am talking things to focus on that can help us build our confidence.

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Rock it likes its 2020.

Remember your worth

This is something that is so important to each and every one of us, yet it’s also easy to forget. Now listen, You are amazing and you are beautiful. Everything about you is unique! and there is no other person on this planet that is an exact model of you! So take an opportunity to realise how valuable you really are!

Why don’t you try to make a list of things that you love about yourself! and write down exactly why you are an awesome person. Even if it includes things that appear to be silly like you like your hair or something like that. These things aren’t actually silly, there just as important to remember.
Look at the list every time you feel unconfident about yourself! and let the positive vibes work its magic.

Fake it till you make it?

This is a well-known phrase, and I do agree sometimes we do just need to fake it, literally. I am not telling you to fake who you are, definitely not.

Learning to be confident by practising confidence even when you do not feel it. It isn’t impossible, and nothing is. I believe the more you fake it the more you believe in your own confidence. I also believe in growing genuine confidence! that is a key thing. We are just learning how to get there.

Find your thing and pride your self on that.

We all have something, your thing could be anything… For example Blogging, social media, craft, athletics, fashion, makeup or music, It really doesn’t matter what it is. The fact is you have a thing that you are passionate about in life. and that thing makes you awesome! you could be a beginner but you are still rocking it! I know it for sure!

Finding what you are passionate about and using that to help your confidence grow. Whilst showing off your amazing talents. We all have something that not everyone will be into or good at. It is one of the unique traits we have. We can be confident at things that others won’t be.

So whatever it is you have. USE IT. Be confident in what you are doing, and rock it like you want to.

Record your progress.

Remember the last time you looked at photos of yourself from a long time ago? and Sitting there, reminiscing about how life was then to how it is now? Do you remember how good it felt? Seeing change?
Your progression is an amazing feeling and can grow confidence in your work and abilities. You are also giving yourself the opportunity to improve.
Recording your progression in tasks, and life can really help. Being able to see how far you have come, and what you need to do to go further.

whether it is taking photos of your work. or recording data of what you have done! having it led out in front of you can make a massive difference to how you see your own work.

Visualize yourself as the confident person you want to be.

it is no surprise, that sometimes in life we need to just take a break. We should use this time to imagine exactly what it is you want. Growing up and experience new things, impacts our decisions. Its how we choose to act on these decisions that get us to where we want to be.
Feeling unconfident can stop us from moving forward and reaching where we want to be. For example not having the confidence to attend an interview for your dream job.
So what can we do about it?

Take the time to plan what it is you want out of life. Visualise exactly what you want and how you are going to get there. We may still have obstacles to face but we can plan how we are going to deal with these.

Now tell yourself that you can do this! you are confident enough! Focus on your goals and go get them.
I would suggest creating something like a mood board. Focusing on what you want to achieve. You could create a mood board for any of your goals. Organisational skills can help your confidence whilst working on goals because you will feel more confidently prepared to face anything.

Doing things that scare you can build your confidence.

This may sound like an odd thing to say. In other words, why would you naturally put yourself in a position that you don’t want to be in, why? Because for each fear you conquer the adrenaline and positivity that this leads to that proud achievement feeling.
The feeling of you did it, it’s amazing and leads to your confidence blaring. Your confidence will naturally grow by you achieving things that are outside your comfort zone. It could be something small, but regularly finding things that are outside of your comfort you can grow your confidence.

Treat yourself to build your confidence.

Have you ever stood in the mirror having brought yourself new clothing and felt really positive?
Just by treating yourself and looking after your image and mental health, you already feel a bit more confident.
Treating yourself shouldn’t be considered as naughty! It is needed, so you are looking out for yourself.

keeping reasonable goals.

One massive thing that affects each and every one of our confidence levels is a failure. When we fail, we lose confidence in ourself and our abilities. It honestly happens to us all.
We all have aspirations and dreams that we want to reach, but we set our goals too high!

we need to break our dreams down into smaller goals, they need to be achievable. Goals that are too hard to become overwhelming and leads to the risk of becoming overwhelmed. Basically it all gets too much.
we need to set ourselves reasonable goals and that we know are achievable. Protecting our confidence and make our dreams a possibility.

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like I mentioned at the start of this post, confidence is a tricky and hard business. I promise you that I will be taking these steps this year to increase my own confidence. I believe the more my confidence grows, the more I will grow, mentally.
So, what do you think? do you have any other ideas that will help our confidence grow?

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Christmas gifts at the last minute for your loved one.

Can you believe it? It’s that time of year again! It’s December and there are only 4 days left till Christmas. The shops are starting to become unbearable and every single shop is getting more and more hectic by the minute. The stress levels are going up and we’re all trying to get prepared for the biggest day of the year, Christmas Day. We all have similar ambitions for a perfect Christmas Day. But picking the perfect Christmas gifts for our loved ones is not always the easiest and worse yet. We’re running out of time.

If you are done with your shopping how about checking out my 24 festive activities post, for some ideas to keep you busy this festive season.

So here’s my list of Christmas gift ideas perfect for your loved ones and easy to buy at the last minute.

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Smellies are the perfect Christmas gifts.

Starting with a nice simple option. I’m sorry but really who doesn’t love getting a range of lovely Smellies for Christmas gifts. From Perfumes to bath things. I mean really it’s an essential day to day thing. I would definitely be happy with a set of bath bombs and things to use when relaxing.

Christmas Gifts in the form of hampers.

Hampers are such a lovely option. A bundle of small gifts but ones that are really thought out. A hamper is such a personalised option to go for. You can buy already made hampers in a range of places, but I would always suggest adding your own touch to these.

Something they can use for their hobbies.

Sometimes having a hobby can be so expensive. Especially for crafters like me. I am always needing (ok, wanting) new supplies for my hobbies. Craft and hobby supplies make the perfect stocking fillers, and you know for certain this will be very much appreciated by whoever you’re gifting them too.

Gifting a bottle of their favourite alcoholic beverage.

Since It’s Christmas and a time for cheer and to be merry, what best to get a drink to be drunk around the tree. Or of-course saved for later. But a bottle of their favourite drink is a lovely Christmas gift.

And! You don’t even need to spend tons of money on the stuff, there are so many different drink gift gets available.

Personalised Christmas gift.

Christmas gifts that have been personalised are just so thoughtful and kind. It could be a glass with their name or a specially printed photo. As long as it has been thought about and created with love, it will make a lovely gift for a loved one.

An experience

I actually believe that this is the best Christmas gift that can be given. Less materialistic but giving and sharing the opportunity to make memories, experience new things. From animal encounters to sky diving. There seem to be no limits to the perfect experience.

Gadgets & Gizmos

We all have gadgets on our wish lists in this day and age. Whether it’s a new phone, a games console or whatever technologies you know up your loved ones desire. You can always have one of these for the main present!

winter comforts Christmas gifts.

Finally, some winter comforts. I mean things to make your loved ones feel nice and cosy during the winter season. Slippers, candles, hot water bottles, blankets and comfy PJs. Everything you need to stay cosy.

Remember this though…

Christmas is only one day, it’s about family, friends, partners and memories. It’s not about who gives the best presents. Make sure you are not spending so much money you get yourself into debt, because at the end of the day. You can gift your loved ones any time of year.

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