Good morning guys! I’m very excited to be starting a variety of posts to meet the bloggers. The blogging world has such a big place in my heart. I have made so many friends and learnt so much of the community that I wanted to give back by sharing these amazing people with my readers. So I’m starting off with a fantastic blogger from Oxfordshire, Sarah who blogs at SarahTradeMark.
I won’t lie. I am absolutely envious of Sarah’s beautifully coloured Hair. If you are into vibrant colours as well I would highly recommend you take a read of this post. Which is one of my favourites from SarahTradeMark.
I asked Sarah to share with us some advice from her blogging experiences…
1) SarahTradeMark, What made you start blogging?
It all started when I was using a new face mask and liked it so much that I wanted to share my views with others, I created a blog and started sharing short reviews on my current makeup and skincare products.
2) And What advice would you give to a new blogger?
Don’t compare yourself to others. There will always be people better out there but everyone is unique and you should concentrate on finding your own style.
3) Where do you see your blog ‘SarahTradeMark’ in 5 years time?
I hope to still be blogging and hope to be posting more good and household products as well as fashion. I want to keep the same style of writing but want to post about a larger variety of products.
I’d love to say a massive thank you to SarahTadeMark for taking part in my meet the bloggers segment.
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I recently wrote a post about what’s on my desk, and as I plan big things for the future. My life has been pretty hectic. I thought that now would be the perfect opportunity to talk about the greatest art of them all. Keeping organised.
Are you like me with a thousand things going on in your mind right this second. Then you have about a hundred different things that you really need to do? No matter how hard you try sometimes it feels like you are never going to catch up! like all that life stuff just seems to get in the way of just everything that you need to do! Maybe you have too many plans and there is just not enough hours in the day. It can literally feel like a rollercoaster that you are stuck on. No brakes, and no way of getting off. Scary hey? but you are not alone. Literally there are thousands of people exactly the same right this minute! Even the most organised can have moments where life is mental as hell and cannot get all their shit together.
Let us be honest. Life really can be a bitch at times. Life is so busy at times that it is hard to get a break from it. Catching up can seem like mission impossible. So what can we do to get ourselves to keep going? and feel like we are heading in the right direction again?
Stop and breathe!
Honestly, this is probably one of the most important steps to getting yourself in a calm and organised. I know that if you are reading this, you are wanting to get organised and productive. You probably feel like you must do it all and do it all now. So we need to learn that it is so important to stop. Take a breath. Don’t panic. Being unorganised and having a lot to do is stressful but if you can just take a minute. Gathering your thoughts will be a massive game-changer for you. what I mean is, by taking it slow fewer mistakes will happen. Being in control of what it is you have planned. You are going to feel less of a want to give up before you have even begun.
So now that you are calm and you have taken a break, let’s think it all out! It may sound pretty cliche honestly, but I do believe in to-do lists. Even if they never seem to end. Sit down and recap everything. This helps you work out the most productive way to do things. Anything to be able to save a bit of time. As well as making it possible to remember everything you need to do!. A brilliant idea would be to keep an active notebook with an ongoing list. You can add to whenever you need, at whatever time. The feeling of crossing an item off the list when it has been completed is quite satisfying.
Also by making a list, you can priorities what actually needs to be down first and what can wait. Meaning you will not need to stress. You will be able to confidently work to deadlines, knowing you have completed your ‘To-Dos’ efficiently. Pretty awesome hey?
Use your phone
Honestly, how many times in life can you say that you do not carry your devices around with us 24/7? We literally have this amazing device that we do so much with. So why not use your smartphone as your personal PA? It is the ideal way of constant reminders and keeping yourself on the ball.
You can sort yourself so that all of your important dates and appointments in your calendar on your phone. Then set your phone to remind you with an alert. I find it really useful as well that you can even share an open calendar with loved ones. So not only are you reminding yourself, you are making sure everyone else is on point too.
I literally have 100 reminders set to go off to remind me at times to do things. That is how I roll! and it works! When something comes up it really does push me to get up and get it sorted. It really is the things that I have not added, I forget.
Organise with Planners
A Planner is my favourite purchase of the year. At the moment I am a proud owner of a Mambi Happy Planner, I absolutely love it. My planner is another creative space for me with all my upcoming adventures and chores written in. I have been using one for 2 years now. As well as a standard planner. I would suggest to anybody, especially anyone who has a love for stationary. I’m thinking of even trying a different style next year and getting the Erin colder life planner.
But don’t get me wrong. You don’t need a fancy planner. A basic one will do just fine as long as you stick to writing everything you basically need too.
Find your Zone
And by Zone, I mean your own space! like a little corner of your room or house, that is completely yours for getting stuff done! It’s such a good idea since I have my own desk the way that I work has changed so much. I almost never have my laptop on the bed anymore! Being able to happy to sit in my ‘zone’ which I have personalised to be a bit of me. I am able to craft and create for hours at a time without any distractions or excuses. Even if you can’t have an office like set up or anything like that. I would still suggest you have an appropriate space where you can get shit done. It is such an amazing tool!
Sticky notes are your organising friend!
So speaking of sticky things… I have always had a massive love for sticky notes. I can quite easily have them everywhere. Full of reminders, info or just a few doodles and inspirational phrases. Plus leaving messages for yourself on pretty and coloured paper can really brighten up a room.
Another really important factor for the skills of being organised. Time management. Ensuring that you are able to give yourself enough time to complete tasks. Being able to take your time on whatever it is you are doing. is so so important. Don’t set yourself a task that is going to take you 3 hours, when you only have 1 hour free. That is just setting yourself for failure. You will be less likely to complete what it is you are doing, and that would just suck wouldn’t it? no one likes too many open projects at one time hey?
So what keeps you organised?
These most important factors that I can think of. Methods that I actually use to keep myself organised and on the right path! I would always encourage all of my friends to try these ways of getting back on track! and never giving up, you can do whatever you put your mind to.
So guys. What are the methods that you guys would suggest? I would love to hear your comments and suggestions below! so I look forward to hearing from you all.
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I am really pleased to have been tagged by Cassie at zombiegoddessbeauty.com to do this lovely anti favourite tag. I am quite excited, because I always seem to be talking about my favourites and what I like, that I pretty much never share my dislikes and anti favourite things! so what a fantastic tag to be taking part in.
1. What is your least favourite lip product?
I really have a particular dislike for clear gloss, and I literally mean the gloss that is scentless, colourless and does not even have a nice shine to it. I just a sticky mess on your face, what is the point of that? If I want a coloured gloss I would buy a coloured gloss, not paint over lipstick with clear goo.
2. What is your least favourite makeup finish?
When it comes to applying my makeup, I prefer a natural look. I don’t like anything that’s going to make my face look to over the top. To be honest I swear it is a confidence thing. I prefer to use Matte products like a matte mouse, as otherwise my face just looks an oily overdone mess. To much shine and too glossy is my Anti Favourite! I don’t fancy looking like a barbie really.
3. What is your least favourite beauty product(s)? (Like highlighters, glitter, primer, Oil cleansers, hair masks, etc also be specific if you want)
Liquid eyeliner is a big anti favourite of mine. I mean I love the theory of liquid eyeliner but it really is just not for me, I can literally never get it to look good on my face, I always mess it up application every time I attempt it, I mean it normally results in massive panda eyes, or worse than that, Clown face from a creepy horror film! So I now just refuse to buy it or even try to use it.
4. What is your least favourite beauty trend? (Spider Lashes, Over Plucking Brows, Sharpie Brows, wavy lips, etc)
So there seems to have been this whole massive craze where it is really cool to have massive huge eyebrow’s like they are literally being drawn on double the size of their actual eyebrow. Um… woah do you really need your eyebrows to cover the whole of your face? no this is not cool. I don’t understand how this is not in everybody’s anti favourite list. However, I am not saying that they should be plucked to fuck, but really the more natural the look the better I think.
5. What is your least favouritecolour to wear on your lips?
I’m not sure that I have a least favourite colour impartially. However, I definitely prefer lighter or even brighter colours. I do not like to be too dark with my lip colour, so definitely no blacks, blues or dark purples. In fairness, I wouldn’t say that I have ever been too adventurous when it comes to colour either. I own a lot of nudes and a lot of pinks.
6. What is your least favourite product(s) in your collection? (Like product regrets)
Ok, I probably will sound really contradicting here because it truly is a love-hate relationship for me but when it comes to Primer. The only decent way of applying it is with my hands, and then they are left feeling oily, and icky, so that is why I would call Primer my least favourite product. However, that being said, I can not be without Primer, so really it is winning against me there.
7. What is your least favourite technique/step you skip?
Lip Liner. I have never really seen the point to line my lips when doing my make up. Ironically I own tons of lip liner pencils, but mainly as whenever I have ordered Avon, they have come as a gift. I guess I don’t really see the point in the outline when you can do this with your lipstick, and your lip colour will cover the liner anyway. I am also pretty sure plenty of perfectionists will tell me I am wrong though.
8. What is your least favourite product you’ve ever tried?
This was a hard one, I had to think before I could answer this one. My collection is so random and broad that I do not even remember half the stuff I own. Pretty certain I have an addiction to shopping, and bargain finds! There was a Crackle nail varnish that I once Brought and I hated that. It just made my nails look cheap and tacky, and I hated how rough it made my nails feel. It did not come out like advertised at all! so not for me!
9. What is your least favourite/banned brand(s)?
Actually feeling very defeated on this question! Because I don’t think I have a specific brand that I particularly dislike for any major reason. However, there are plenty of brands that I love! which is not the point of this post. I’ll save those for another day.
10. What product is at the top of your Anti-Haul (will not buy) list?
I am a strong believer that all my makeup and beauty products should be cruelty-free, and not have been tested on animals, therefore I will not buy anything that has been tested on animals. I’m quite optimistic and will try most things, just within reason.
11. What is your least favourite TV show/TV show you are not interested in?
Medical shows! not one any particular program, but I really hate some of the medical shows shown on TV, I end up turning these off pretty quick. Like the latest ‘The toe bro’ I really can’t stomach watching peoples cheesy feet. I find it hilarious that they have made these into TV shows as well!
12. What is your least favourite movie/movie you are not interested in?
‘realistically recorded’ horror films. These really grate on me. I literally can not watch the Blair witch project without cringing so badly and needed to turn it off within 5 minutes. I also really can’t understand how this film was so popular, It wasn’t realistic at all. It was cheesy, and not at all scary! I love horror, I just hate that style.
13. What is your least favourite book or book series/book or book series you are not interested in?
Oh crap! I really don’t think I can answer this one! Can I? Um, I like so many different styles of writing, I love most fiction and non-fiction! I do not think I have found a book that I’ve disliked yet!
14. What is your least favourite genre of music?
Heavy Metal or Hardcore Dance music! I really couldn’t listen to anything heavy like that. For instance, I love easy listening, like acoustic stuff, as soon as I hear anything that is metal or hardcore I feel on edge! It feels more like a noisy mess, than music to listen too and it is just not for me. Enough said really.
15. What is your least favourite food?
It has to be tagliatelli, I’ve never been a fan of it. My brothers favourite meal and when I lived at home with my parents I would literally dread tagliatelli night.
16. What is your least favourite social media platform?
I swear I have a love-hate relationship with social media, as it is. Having recently wrote a post about asking, are we becoming too addicted to social media? I think my least favourite has to be Facebook, I seem to just have Facebook these days because I do. I don’t have a massive urge to post on Facebook ever, but I like the groups and networking it can bring, so I use it, I just don’t love it. For me, it is all about Twitter and Instagram, I actually enjoy using those apps.
Have a go at the Anti Favourites Tag…
If you would like to have a go at the Anti Favourites tag, here are the questions for you <3.
What is your least favourite lip product?
What is your least favourite makeup finish?
What is your least favourite beauty product(s)? (Like highlighters, glitter, primer, Oil cleansers, hair masks, etc also be specific if you want)
What is your least favourite beauty trend? (Spider Lashes, Over Plucking Brows, Sharpie Brows, wavy lips, etc)
What is your least favourite colour to wear on your lips?
What is your least favourite product(s) in your collection? (Like product regrets)
What is your least favourite technique/step you skip?
What is your least favourite product you’ve ever tried?
What is your least favourite/banned brand(s)?
What product is at the top of your Anti-Haul (will not buy) list?
What is your least favourite TV show/TV show you are not interested in?
What is your least favourite movie/movie you are not interested in?
What is your least favourite book or book series/book or book series you are not interested in?
What is your least favourite genre of music?
What is your least favourite food?
What is your least favourite social media platform?
We now live in a day and age of woman empowerment and how we should be striving to be a better person. In the past few years, I can finally say that I am so happy. I have a perfect life, with the perfect woman. I feel grateful to say that I have found my fairy tale ending. To be honest, if none of this had happened, we would never have found each other. So Im grateful for this. But life has not always been so perfect.
I remember the day it all started as if it was yesterday. My phone went off. It was early and way before my shift at work was due to start. We arranged to meet at the back of my work. This would be my first encounter with her. That morning I went into my sleeping parent’s room and said I needed to leave for work early. I was going to buy some paracetamol for a headache before work. This was my first lie told to my parents, and it wasn’t the last.
A year must of arguments and confusion had gone by before I found out the truth. I wasn’t the only girl in her life. Feeling humiliated, I felt hurt. I was still so young, and very nieve, at the age of 19. It is not something you wanna hear at that point, but really a teen, still a child, whether you can legally drink or not. I felt like I was mature enough to hold my own decisions and I was so wrong. Why didn’t I walk away that day? Instead, I let myself become more and more involved in a web of lies, debt and complications.
When you are in a relationship you are covered by a cloud of mist, your world is perfect and they love you no matter what, and it does not matter. But the truth of it is. It was all lies. Not just from her. The family and friends. They were all speaking constant lies for her. But why? other than the fact I was being used and hurt in a triangle of love and lies.
Being brave and carrying on in a love triangle.
It took me years and years to understand where I was. Falling deeper and deeper into a web of lies, lying to myself saying that everything was ok, and I was fine, I wasn’t. I wish I had listened to the words from my own family and friends telling me to get out. I can tell you now when you are stuck in a hole, you will not listen, because of the fear. There is so much fear behind everything. I would have saved myself some friendships and been a lot happier from walking away, but it just was not happening. But who knows. Like I said I wouldn’t be where I am today if I did. Instead, I was to busy listening to instructions from her, following whatever she said, being twisted to keep as a dirty little secret, and not understanding or valuing myself or my own worth.
Ripping off the plaster scared me.
I even went away to work. 2 years in a different part of the country. I admit at first this was my way of getting away, escaping. I was gonna stand on my own 2 feet finally. That didn’t work either. Little did I know, my phone would be my worst enemy for being kept, and still controlled. Instead, we ended up living together, a few years later and it only lasted 9 months. it got worse and worse. Until one day the plaster finally got ripped off, and I was finally away.
Now that time has passed, I am more than honest with myself, I made so many mistakes and told so many lies but it wasn’t my fault. I know that now. I was being controlled. A narcissist. Wow, that’s a strong word but when I looked up the definition it was all there. All the controlling behaviours, the manipulating, the lies told, and the money-grabbing. There were so many things happening that shouldn’t have been. I tried dropping her in it so many times because I thought it would set us free. It wasn’t us that I wanted free though. It was just me.
I hope by me telling my story that it really does inspire someone else. Be different, and do not put up with the shit that another person has no right to inflict on you. You don’t deserve the abuse, to be lied to, cheated on and used for nothing more than money. Not like me.
Mental health is so important, How about reading my post on body image here.
Since I have been feeling really down with the constant illness and chronic pain lately, I thought it was about time to give some reasons to feel a bit happier, so today I am an irritated girl who is trying to be a little bit more positive this month! Admittedly it has been a really rubbish time, and it feels like our main adventures out lately are to hospitals and DR’s surgeries until we find out 100% what the heck is up with me… Anyway, I am not moaning I am being positive and since we are still at the beginning of April (pretty much anyway) I wanted to share with you guys 10 reasons why you should appreciate this fabulous month!
Fresh start month
I am not 100% sure why, but I have always thought of April as a month of fresh starts, apparently, I am not the only one. we are now 4 months clear of the Christmas season and it is a few months of enjoying the sun and the happy season before we prepare for cold winter months again! The first day of spring has now been and its time for a spring clean, mentally as well.
It’s April Showers
I’m not saying that the fact it is raining a lot is amazing but, does anyone else get the drip, drip drop little April showers song go through their head constantly this month? I do! it is stuck in my head all month every time I hear someone say ‘Oh it’s raining again, April Showers’ … I must watch Bambi. I love Bambi.
The month of yellow
I literally think that one of the first things I associate April with is the colour yellow, and I am really loving this colour right now! The month of yellow, and the month of Daffodils (see what I am saying there?).
Ok, I may have already mentioned colour just now but this bit is slightly different, I love all pastel colours and there are so many new things in pastel! which I always love pastel colours! Easter spills lots of this because pastel colours do feel very springy! 🙂
Nature is coming back out
The cold winter months will soon be behind us, and already this month we have had some beautiful sunshine-filled days. I have especially noticed that on the farm the wildlife is all coming out of its hiding and the deers are back running around the fields at dusk. I absolutely love playing spot the deer. It is not just the animals either. I LOVE blossom tree’s, and they always start blossoming this month, they make me super happy.
April is a new financial year
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. For some people, I’ve noticed a lot of chat how April is a big money month for them, so everything is a little bit tighter! I know that this is the same for us this month! but oh well. April is the start of the new financial year, so let’s use this as a positive? New year 😉 New me kinda thing.
The clocks went forward
YES! at the end of March, our clocks went forward! now If you love summer like me its more exciting that we are gaining light and sunset is getting later, rather then thinking you lost an hour sleep that night!
Its Chocoholic heaven
It is so hard to say no to some chocolate in April as its nearly Easter, be it a little late this year. Pretty hard to resist when you are going to slimming world! so far we’ve been pretty good! but I can not wait to get my hands on a chocolate egg!
Slowly but surely the summer period is just around the corner, and OK so we are not in summer yet! and already I have said why are people wearing shorts already? Its hardly boiling, but the sun is out, the sky is bright and peoples moods are lifting. I love this time of year when you are slowly saying goodbye woolly jumper.
Last but not least one thing I love about April is no matter what is going on, or how rubbish and down you are feeling, April seems to bring in some happiness to the year no matter what.
What do you love about April? I would love to hear what makes you smile this month?
If you liked this post try 35 things that make me happy, here.
Does anyone else get super excited when your orders finally arrive? I am literally like a little kid that’s on a sugar rush when I know that the postie is bringing me something good. I had only been waiting a few days but I was super excited when my big box came, from Sugar & Sloth I ordered a mug, a Notebook and a Mystery box from Sugar & Sloth and I am so glad that I did…
So the best part of any parcel is the unwrapping! This box did not let me down and kept me excited as I opened to see the contents. I literally love the effort that seems to go into packing my order up from the seller, Anita Perry. I would definitely suggest following her on Instagram as well here. The box was filled with confetti and included a sticker and a postcard with details of the store. Nice touch.
I love how each item has so much personality! and they definitely suit my personality! The store sells Bright, colourful, cute, and unique mugs, pins, jewellery and clothes, as well as other stuff. U
Inside the mystery box which you can buy for £12 online on her store, includes an enamel pin, and a mug which you can either choose the sweary or non-sweary kind (a pretty good idea that). I don’t have a cat, and this the mug was from the mystery box! so I probably would not have picked this one myself, BUT that being said I do wish that I had a fuckton of cats so it is still a suitable mug for me! Not to mention that it is super cute!
I literally love my order from Sugar & Sloth…
To which I literally couldn’t pick my favourite item from this order if I tried! I really love the enamel pin, and It will so be going on my notice board with my seemingly growing collection on pins that we have. Stationary and mugs all in one place though? Seriously very cool items. I especially love the Anxiety mug and notebook. Really think I need a pet Gnarl whale in my life as it is.
It is exciting to think about what Sugar and Sloth bring out in the future! In the future, I will definitely be ordering again and soon.
Do you have a favourite shop that you love to order from? where would you suggest getting a mystery box from?
If you liked this post, check out my Anti favourites post here.
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