How I beat writer block as a blogger

Starting a blog feels crazy. It is the minute you became a writer. I bet you any money your mind had been filled with a countless ideas and expectations for your blog. Your enthusiasm at this point was at its very peak. I’m describing myself here that is exactly what I was like. I had a thousand and one ideas for what my space on the web was going to look like! I knew exactly what I was gonna be posting. Well, Kind of. I did make the mistake of not keeping notes in the beginning, but I have learnt from that! believe me!

When it comes to running a blog it definitely brings you new challenges and obstacles to overcome. Honestly Becoming a blogger can be a pretty tough world to Step in to at times. Let’s face it, it is all about being a writer. But no matter what those challenges are it’s an amazing passion that many of us share. However so many things in life it can be pretty difficult to be 100% motivated and engaged at all times, right? For a blogger, we call this writer’s block. I call it a lack of Mojo. It’s not really the most ideal feeling to encounter for yourself or your writing.

So it is really not always easy to have a constant flow of words, and this makes creating decent content extremely hard. I have not met a single blogger or writer yet that has said they have never encountered writer’s block! It seems to be a demon for everyone! and worst yet, you never quite know when that demon is gonna creep up on you.

So what can you do to beat the beast? I have listed my ways of overcoming writer’s block and keeping my content coming!

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Take breaks

It’s so important to know when to take a moment away from the screen, even better get out of the house if you can. The more time you spend living the more you will find things to write about. Seriously! with every experience, you encounter your ideas will blossom naturally.

Jot ideas down

That’s right! Grab a pen, find a notebook and sit and jot down all the ideas for blog posts you can possibly think of. No idea is too small!

It’s adamant that you will come up with ideas when you least expect it. So where possible write it down as soon as possible and if you are out? I find useful is having an electronic notebook on my phone. I use OneNote and then copy it into an actual notebook later.

Read more blogs and do some research.

Connecting with writers, engaging with the blogging community and reading the content that is already out there is honestly such an amazing way of finding inspiration for yourself when you are feeling a bit stuck for blog posts. Do as much research as you can about a subject and be inspired just by visiting you friends pages. It’s such a simple method of finding inspiration.

Oh! And definitely check out Pinterest for ideas. There are so many people out there sharing their blog post ideas that can really help guide you when you completely stuck.

Don’t force it!

This may sound a bit daft but I honestly believe you shouldn’t be forcing your content. Do not get too worried about how long it has been since you last hit publish. It is so much more important to make sure that you are writing about things that make you passionate in life. When you have something you will just know because of how you feel, confident in your work.

Keep positive and never give up.

Struggling for ideas, not feeling motivated, having a little plan can be so disheartening and if you let it can take control, so think about the reason you first started writing, the first-ever blog post that you sent available to the world to see. Why did you do that? It is so useful and inspiring to remember the reason you started doing what you do! You can inspire yourself, even more, to be as amazing as you are.

So…

No matter where you are in the writer slump doesn’t ever give up. Take care of yourself before you continue to work on your blog space.

I would love to hear your ideas about how you keep yourself motivated and inspired as well as how you beat writer’s block. Leave your comments below.

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Why I blog?

I’ve seen lately a lot of bloggers talking about why they blog. I thought it would be a good opportunity for a post about what has inspired me. including why I’m part of the blogging community.

My first time writing a blog…

My passion for keeping a blog started back when I was in college and studying A level photography. During my studies, I came across a photographer/Blogger on the blogger website called Katie running the blog Color me Katie.

I’d been really inspired by Katie at the time and based some of my photography finals on inspiration from her work. within a few weeks, I began a blog for my photography studies and ran this as a hobby. I stopped that back ages ago.

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after a while, I remembered a few years ago how much I enjoyed the blogging side of photography. It got me researching other bloggers before I eventually took the leap and opened my AlexCsparkles blog. Which I later turned to AlexaJade domain. But we’re in the same place.

I’m not just a passionate blogger, I’m a massive crafter. Read my ultimate signs as a crafter here.

One of the things that got me back into blogging is having the space to be creative. A space to share all my thoughts and leave my own footprint on the massive world of the web. Which I think I am achieving slowly, anyway

How I blog…

Although I had experimented with other blogging platforms in the past I had chosen WordPress for my blogging adventure. I knew straight away that I was gonna self-host, no question about it. The reason I prefer self-hosting my blog is I feel there is so much more freedom in the way I run and use my blog. It does mean I am paying for hosting, as well as my domain and varies securities and extras. But it has been worth every penny so far.

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I wouldn’t be anywhere if it wasn’t for my MacBook and iPad. I’m constantly on them doing something towards the blog.

To keep a blog is a real hobby…

I think when you have a natural passion for something you automatically give your all to this without question. There is no postponement, no fear. Just leaps of faith all round. If your hobbies are painting then you would need to buy paints and art supplies. So what’s the difference when your hobby is blogging there is no difference. Minnie, I’m saying that and have a million other hobbies in the background as well, so a lot of my money goes on hobbies.

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The community is so amazing …

The blogging community is amazing, and I’ve never seen such a big community anywhere else. I have joined various Facebook groups that have provided support and chat for the past few months. However, when I think of blogging community I automatically go straight to twitter where I have made so many friends, been inspired by so many, and spend a lot of my time lately.

When I’m chatting to other people about blogging it’s really easy to build connections with them. The community is probably one of my favourite things because I have just learnt so much through other bloggers, it’s unreal.

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With such a supportive and respectful community my confidence has grown so much.

Blogging has given me so many goals to reach…

A bit like when I was talking about blogging being a hobby. When you are doing something it kinda becomes human nature to improve on what you are doing. So I’m the same when it comes to my blog.

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Love triangle – The truth & my real story.

We now live in a day and age of woman empowerment and how we should be striving to be a better person. In the past few years, I can finally say that I am so happy. I have a perfect life, with the perfect woman. I feel grateful to say that I have found my fairy tale ending. To be honest, if none of this had happened, we would never have found each other. So Im grateful for this. But life has not always been so perfect. I previously spent years in a love triangle.

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My Story…

I remember the day it all started as if it was yesterday. My phone went off. It was early and way before my shift at work was due to start. We arranged to meet at the back of my work. This would be my first encounter with her. That morning I went into my sleeping parent’s room and said I needed to leave for work early. I was going to buy some paracetamol for a headache before work. This was my first lie told to my parents, and it wasn’t the last.

A year must of arguments and confusion had gone by before I found out the truth. I wasn’t the only girl in her life. Feeling humiliated, I felt hurt. I was still so young, and very nieve, at the age of 19. It is not something you wanna hear at that point, but really a teen, still a child, whether you can legally drink or not. I felt like I was mature enough to hold my own decisions and I was so wrong. Why didn’t I walk away that day?
Instead, I let myself become more and more involved in a web of lies, debt and complications.

When you are in a relationship you are covered by a cloud of mist, your world is perfect and they love you no matter what, and it does not matter. But the truth of it is. It was all lies. Not just from her. The family and friends. They were all speaking constant lies for her. But why? other than the fact I was being used and hurt in a triangle of love and lies.

Being brave and carrying on in a love triangle.

It took me years and years to understand where I was. Falling deeper and deeper into a web of lies, lying to myself saying that everything was ok, and I was fine, I wasn’t. I wish I had listened to the words from my own family and friends telling me to get out. I can tell you now when you are stuck in a hole, you will not listen, because of the fear. There is so much fear behind everything. I would have saved myself some friendships and been a lot happier from walking away, but it just was not happening. But who knows. Like I said I wouldn’t be where I am today if I did. Instead, I was to busy listening to instructions from her, following whatever she said, being twisted to keep as a dirty little secret, and not understanding or valuing myself or my own worth.

Ripping off the plaster scared me.

I even went away to work. 2 years in a different part of the country. I admit at first this was my way of getting away, escaping. I was gonna stand on my own 2 feet finally. That didn’t work either. Little did I know, my phone would be my worst enemy for being kept, and still controlled. Instead, we ended up living together, a few years later and it only lasted 9 months. it got worse and worse. Until one day the plaster finally got ripped off, and I was finally away.

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Now that time has passed, I am more than honest with myself, I made so many mistakes and told so many lies but it wasn’t my fault. I know that now. I was being controlled. A narcissist. Wow, that’s a strong word but when I looked up the definition it was all there. All the controlling behaviours, the manipulating, the lies told, and the money-grabbing.
There were so many things happening that shouldn’t have been. I tried dropping her in it so many times because I thought it would set us free. It wasn’t us that I wanted free though. It was just me.

I hope by me telling my story that it really does inspire someone else. Be different, and do not put up with the shit that another person has no right to inflict on you. You don’t deserve the abuse, to be lied to, cheated on and used for nothing more than money. Not like me.

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Blogging: What I’ve learnt about blogging… So FAR.

I remember, first creating my blogging journey years ago. It was kinda this thing that I would start, stop, start and stop, and really this never went anywhere. I then started looking at other blogs and then I got so inspired. That was it. I wanted to start my own fully functioning working blog and it would work! … that was the plan and I am still working on it to this day!

When I started this blog, it was a step up from the times I had been blogging before. I don’t actually think I realized how big of a world I was really stepping foot into. (and no I do not mean that negatively!) The addiction to blogging. The social community of bloggers. The world I was entering into, and how amazing having a blog could be. How Having a blog, has changed me, because it has.
Since I started blogging, I have come across new opportunities. I have met new people and really opened up a massive door to enjoying a new aspect of me.

Blogging is not easy, and its not an all bliss world. So I wanted to share with you guys how much I have learnt, and what so far!

The blogging community is massive

There are so many people out there in the world. So many others that you can meet and become friends with, that have the same interests. Each friend I have made from blogging has been amazing and so supportive.

Blogging is hard work

Ok, so if you are thinking about starting off a blog. Please do not get under the impression that its gonna easy. Or a success on day 1. That doesn’t really happen. Your blog is only as successful as you make it. To make your blog really work, you need to put as much time and effort into your work as possible! I wouldn’t give up on the down days though I’ve found that at times it’s so tempting to give up! but if you give up on your dreams, they don’t happen.

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Planning is important

If you are like me keeping a blog plan is important. Planning means you are able to keep up to date, remember important dates and tasks. Planning is a great way of keeping your blog going. especially when it comes to sharing your blog and gaining engagement.

You can end up thinking about your blog 24/7

Literally, Once you start writing a blog you can end up thinking of your work constantly! It is like a full addiction, a massive passion and becomes a massive part of your life.
Now I am not just talking about the next time your gonna get to tap your fingers on the keyboard and make the next post for your readers, the more you get into your blog, the more you begin to put in, money, sweat, and tears. It is not just about the content at all, its the sharing and promoting, preparation and care.

Research is so important

I am a passionate learner! Literally. I love to learn new things, I love to be inspired by others, so that being said it probably goes in my favour when it comes to my blogging life. I’m constantly reading others blogs, pinteresting and reading about blogging, and learning off other bloggers. There is a serious legal side to some things, and I have read about how some have got themselves in trouble by doing certain things. By doing my research into what I am doing and taking interest in other bloggers around the world, I am teaching myself more and more every day.

Images are a pretty big deal

Although words are a massive part of blogging of course! Images are just important, and you wanna have decent images at that. There are hundreds of stock images sites, that allow you to use their images for free.
But taking your own images is fun, gives your blog a unique creative twist, and definitely gives it that personal touch of your personality.

Security and Backups

If you’ve read my previous posts, you may have been reading when I nearly lost my blog. Oh my GOD. My biggest blogging Fail. That day was awful. I had been having downtime and not been checking my dashboard, my site had been attacked and taken over with a virus, I don’t know what it was but I never even knew a website could be attacked with such things till that day, and so straight away I learnt the importance of backing up your work! Every single month!

Read my post on why I blog and why blogging has become so important to me, here.

Scheduling posts is a blogging GOD

When I am feeling particularly creative and inspired one day I am able to write a couple of blog posts in a few hours and schedule them to come out online at different times. which is such a good thing as I can organize my blog better then I can organize myself sometimes?

It’s a competitive world

Have you ever heard the phrase its a dog eat dog world? hmm? I suppose a bloggers world is the same, in some ways! Each blogger has very similar goals to yours! you need to try and remember that! because you should never let a negative hit put you down on your own work!

Thinking about starting your own blog? Check out my post, here.

Is there anything you have learnt since you started a blog? Like I mentioned earlier! I love to learn off others! so leave me a comment below with something you have learnt 🙂

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35 things that make me happy!

So the best thing about the blogging community has to be being inspired by other amazing bloggers. Like Mxrshmarshmellows blog. Who just created a very similar post. It really made me question what makes me happy and got me thinking.

So I thought it would be great to share what makes me happy with you guys.

So what does make me happy?

  1. My Emmy.
  2. Bright colours and lots of pinks.
  3. Coffee (I literally just got some llama love vanilla). I live off coffee.
  4. Makeup. Even when staying in.
  5. Papercraft. Whatever I can get my hands on.
  6. Seeing my friends and family.
  7. Music.
  8. Camembert days. Yes, these are actually a thing with our friends!
  9. Happy planners. (Actually any planners!)
  10. Disney anything. Have I mentioned that I love Disney??? I really do love A bit of Disney. Read about our Disney Trip, here.
  11. Matching socks. Actually cute socks. I mean any socks.
  12. Glitter. A lot of glitters. And it has to be everywhere.
  13. Friends. The tv show. (I have quite a bit of friends merch now)
  14. Going to the zoo. Marwell, as well as around the country.
  15. Flowers around me.
  16. Taking lots of photos.
  17. Unicorns
  18. Primark hauls. Probably shopping in general.
  19. Watching musicals.
  20. Receiving happy mail.
  21. Spending days just watching films.
  22. Writing my blog.
  23. Reading books.
  24. My love for all animals.
  25. Pinterest.
  26. Wearing oversized hoodies.
  27. Adult colouring books.
  28. Giving gifts to my favourite people.
  29. Pretty mugs. I’m addicted to mugs.
  30. Daddy daughter days. These do not happen often enough.
  31. Summer and being in the sun.
  32. Adventures to new places. and planning the adventures to come.
  33. Overspending on stationary and notebooks.
  34. Blossom trees. Seriously they are beautiful!
  35. Making new friends. even when it’s scary!
want to know more about me? how about reading my 21 random things about me post, here.
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I’d love to know what makes you happy? it is important to have these things. So what makes you happy? Leave a comment below telling me.

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Mothers Day 2019: Perfect ideas for mums on a budget!

With only days to go till March 31st Mothers day is fast approaching! and if you haven’t been so organised and got your presents sorted for mum and maybe even nan yet! I thought I’d write a list of ideas of what you could do, without overspending!

Hand Made Card

You don’t even have to be on a tight budget to make a hand made mothers day card, I love receiving a hand made cards and I’m not yet a mum! (maybe one day though) My mum makes cards and always says I should be making my own! a lot more work goes into a handmade card, so there’s more to appreciate!

Flowers

What mum wouldn’t be chuffed as when you hand over a bunch of flowers and a card. Flowers are brilliant for putting a smile on their face.

Candles

I have a massive candle obsession, I love having a few tea lights lit in the evening. Perfect setting. Why not treat your mum to some candles that smell nice!

Chocolates

Who doesn’t like chocolates? I know my mum would always appreciate a box of Maltesers? (especially when the dog hasn’t got to them before her)

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Poundland’s Mothers Day collection is especially awesome this year! my particular favourite is the oversized ducks! they are so frigging cute! so had to buy us a pink duck as well as my mum one! (no particular reason other then it is an awesome huge rubber duck)

And it is not just Poundland! Home Bargains and B&M store also Have loads of cute little gifts for Mother’s Day.

But like I said before Mother’s Day isn’t about how much you spend. It’s about showing your mum and your nan and the line of the woman in your life some appreciation.

Please note: I have not been paid to promote any of these stores I am simply sharing my thoughts.

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The A to Z of AlexaJade. Get to know me.

I have been spending a lot of time recently networking with other bloggers and spending time to read their blogs, one I really love is Jemma’s DorkFace, I recently read her A to Z of me post, which inspired me straight away to write an A to Z of myself, so you can get to know me better. So here it is, the A to Z of AlexaJade.

A to Z of AlexaJade

I often find writing about myself a massive challenge so I have done my best here…

A is for ALEXA JADE

OK, so the first bit is easy. Hi, I’m Alex, for short. Alexandra-Jade for long. BUT I hate being called my full name because it feels like I am being told off. (I’m not saying I hate the name. I just hate feeling told off)

B is for BROTHER

I have 1 sibling, and 1 is enough hey. My younger brother, Matthew. What can I say about him? well, As brothers go he is pretty awesome.

C is for CREATIVE and COFFEE

I couldn’t just pick one for C. In fact, 2 words is just the shortlisted version because I can think of tons of words beginning with C that relate to me and I kept changing what I was going to write about so I’ve kept 2 that I think are most relevant.
Firstly I am a very creative person, I love crafts, photography, writing and drawing. Pretty much anything creative and full of colour gets my heart pumping.
Also! Coffee is a massive part of my life I can’t cope till I have had my cup of coffee in the morning. Doesn’t matter what kind of coffee I love exploring new choices and socialising with a brew!

D is for DISNEY

I absolutely love Disney! anyone who knows me will know that! I couldn’t even tell you my favourite character or film, because there’s just too many! I wouldn’t even know where to start! and that’s the truth! at the beginning of this year, we took a trip to Disneyland which was a dream come true, you can read about that here.

E is for EMMA

Emma is my partner, she is my world, so she is definitely part of me. Next year we’re planning on getting married! and this year is a very busy year for us too! We can literally spend hours and days together and we don’t fight. I love the fact that I found love and a best friend in her.

F is for FRIENDS

I am actually referring to the TV show. I literally can’t seem to get bored of watching Friends. I seem to somehow manage to watch this daily. I’ve probably watched the reruns 100 times per episode! and I am not ashamed to admit it. Oh, and yes, I am one of those people who quote Friends.

G is for GLITTER

Glitter is definitely a passion of mine. It does not matter whether it is glittery nails or a phone case, I love to have a bit of sparkle in my life.

H is for HEALTH

Health is a good word for me, my health sucks! Im constantly in hospital, I have LPHS, IBS, PCO and some. My health is something I’m always fighting and it gets me down a lot. But I keep going.

I is for INK

So far I have 4 small tattoos, but I definitely have the buzz for getting inked up! and I am planning to get some bigger ones in the future! Ironically I am shit scared of needles!

J is for JOURNALING

I am a deep thinker. In fact, I overthink, so journaling is a big part of me as well. I love to blog (obviously) and bullet journal and memory keep! which all link well together so I’m passionate about writing my thoughts.

K is for KNOWLEDGE

I am one of those annoying people who always want to learn, in fact, I love to learn new things. Trivia question quizzes are my favourite.

L is for LLAMAS

Ok so it is a toss between llamas and alpacas so I am cheating here slighting because I class them in the same category and I would love an alpaca.

M is for MUSICALS

and I mean broadway baby! I love musical theatre and used to take part in a musical society performing on stage. My favourite musical is RENT!

N is for NAILS

One of my biggest obsessions is my nails! I love my nails looking nice! I own my own gel lamp and I’m constantly ordering new colours on eBay. Hopefully one day I’ll do an official nail gelling course.

O is for Original

Original is something I see myself as I’m pretty certain you won’t meet another me. Well, I bloody hope not.

P is for PINK

One of my favourite colours, of course, it had to be PINK!

Q is for QUIRKY

ok I admit it. I couldn’t think of another word for Q. But quirky is a cool word. I wouldn’t say I’m normal. Or average. I’m just a bit quirky.

R is for READING

I love reading. I can literally have multiple books on the go at once! and that’s not including the ones I have downloaded to my iPad!

S is for STATIONARY

If you have read any of my other blog posts you should know already I am a stationery hoarder and proud. I love my paper and pens with a passion.

Check my post on signs to see if your addicted to stationery like me, here.

T is for TESTS

When it comes to things that I hate Tests are at the top of my list. I have pretty much phobia of tests which has always affected me through school and work! especially the kind of test where its pen and paper. I have total freakouts.

U is for UNICORNS

I have a special unicorn teddy named uni!

V is for VAMPIRES

From unicorns to vampires, That works right? well it does for me, I love Vampire films and stories!

W is for WAITING ROOMS

I feel like waiting rooms are a big part of my life! I’m constantly at the doctors, hospital and other places that have waiting rooms. The bane of my life.

Read my post of how being Ill affects me, here.

X is for ….

Ok, so I have failed for the letter X. There really aren’t many words beginning with x now is there?

Y is for YANKEE

As a candle lover it is no suprise that I have a passion for Yankee

Z is for ZOO

The zoo is one of my favourite places to go to especially as we have Marwell annual passes. Any excuse to go see Rica the sloth.

And there we go. The alphabet of AlexaJade.

If anyone else can think of a word that would relate to me I would love to hear what it is in the comments below.

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