At the beginning of this year, I wrote a list of goals of things I wanted to achieve this year moving forward with my online presence and businesses. One of those goals connecting to improving my confidence was to start my very own youtube channel. It seemed like something I would really enjoy as I love to talk! I just had one massive hurdle that I would need to start overcoming. Yep, my confidence.
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you actually want to start a new project, something like confidence can hold you back so majorly. I have always found that my confidence has been my biggest letdown. So, I know it is about time that I really start pushing myself outside of my comfort zone. I mean no one would ever get anywhere if they didn’t push themselves for reachable goals. without goals we don’t tend to develop with our passions and hustles.
And it has actually been working so far!
Can you actually believe how much a small recording like this has really boosted my confidence this week! I didn’t think it was going to get such amazing feedback from my friends and family as it did. that doesn’t mean that I am not saying it is the perfect video because in no way is it, however, I really have started a journey that I am looking forward to seeing where it takes me. I am also looking forward to learning more about video editing.
Are you a confidence seeker as well? check out my bringing confidence into 2020 post, here.
I hovered over the upload video button for a while. I had recorded my very first youtube channel video on my phone a few days before but the confidence was something I was still struggling with before I could actually upload my little bubble of sunshine.
Here it is… My youtube channel AlexaJade blogs and My first video.
Want to see more videos from me? Hit subscribe on my youtube channel, here.
Trigger warning: In this post I talk about depression and abuse.
Hey you. how are you doing? and honestly, I mean that. How are you actually doing right now? I want to know. A standard conversation for many of us but are we taking the ‘how are you’ phrase serious enough? Times are really different right now, and really hard on our mental health. The mental health awareness week is just coming to the end and although I feel like I am posting a bit late I have been talking on my socials a lot about this! mental health is so important to me I really couldn’t leave it. I thought today would be a great way to get into detail why mental health and being kind is so important to me.
The mental health awareness week is a great opportunity to really reflect on your own mental health and what you can do to improve your mental health. As well as teaching others the importance of mental health awareness. AND, the importance of kindness, and how we treat each other.
Has anyone ever made you feel like you are not worthy? like the feeling of not belonging? That you are alone.
You are not alone.
I am a survivor of abuse and bullying.
A survivor. I thought I would look up and check out the official meaning of the word. Actually, the definition of a survivor in this context is a person who copes well with difficulties in their life. Um, copes well. Does that mean I am lying? No. Why would I think that? well, I wouldn’t say that I have ever coped well in these situations. I have always been filled with anxiety and depression, and it took me a long time to be strong enough to walk away from the person who was making my life a living nightmare.
Staying positive during lockdown is so hard, but it is so important. Read my post here.
Let me be clear, I am not writing this because I want pity. I don’t want sympathy, fuck that. I want you to know that I got through these things in life then and I am getting through the memories and damage of it now. So if I can, you can get through your experiences too.
These things happened, and they can make me stronger, I rebuild myself more and more everyday.
It is only in the past few weeks I have realised how damaged I had actually been feeling from my past and how I am not prepared to feel that way anymore. So I am focusing a lot on self-love, confidence and saying yes to being outside of my comfort zone.
That is bad right? I didn’t even realise how unconfident and shy I had become? It has been a scary but well-needed realisation.
Sometimes we really have to learn to be honest with ourselves, and take the time to review our past to actually move forward in the future.
This may sound like I am being drastic, but unfortunately, I am not. I have been through a lot of stuff in my life that really now, I think what the actual fuck. Why me? I am going to be completely honest with you. I was abused as a child, I’ve had constant health complications, bullied at school, I spent years in a wheelchair for my wonky hips, I self-harmed, I was in an abusive relationship and faced so many things of continuous stress in my life.
Told that I’m shit at things that I was doing, till I would stop. Loosing my friends because I wasn’t allowed to be friends with them, or I shouldn’t be spending time with anyone else. Basically being forced to loose myself and who I was as a person.
Why did I have to go through things that made me hurt and damaged? Do they not say that everything happens for a reason? what exactly was the reason to cause me so much pain? I spent so long thinking that it was all my fault for the way other people acted and treated me. It is harsh and upsetting to think back to those times (and there have been a few) Why did I let it get that bad? However, these things were things that really were not in my control. I could not have done anything to stop the past from happening. Realising that was a massive step in me growing and recovering.
It isn’t my fault, the past is not my fault. We all do that right? Blame ourselves?
Is this sounding familiar to you? maybe you have gone through something similair. Abused or bullied in any form or anything that affected you and your mental health. We all experience different things in life, and let me be real with you. I am 1000% serious that, it is NOT your fault either.
Sometimes it is easy to live in your own little bubble and not realise what it is actually going on, you know you are being made to feel negative but you don’t realise how this is abuse and you shouldn’t be putting up with it.
Abuse comes in so many forms, And I have experienced them in many ways, and it has taken me many years to actually realise my own personal strength. I would love to help and support others going through the same thing.
To stop caring what others think is such a powerful mindstate.
We should not be afraid of talking anymore. None of us are actually being open with how we are feeling. There is always something that we seem to hold back from the world. But why?
Rasism, homophobia, pointless bullying still exists. Yet the whole world is saying we need to support and love one another. Yet I still see people being hypocritical. They say how kindness matters and how to be themselves. Yet finds a way without even realising that words they have said have hurt someone.
We should not still be in a position where we are afraid to be who we are. Who cares if your fat, thin, black, white, gay, straight, religious, weird, unsocial, awkward. Why does it matter to anyone else? as long as you are happy and you feel content with your life, who are you effecting!
I don’t care if you are different, you are beautiful, and you need to hear it.
A relationship or friendship built on negative behaviour is not healthy.
Ending up in a relationship where the other person should have been kind, loving and supportive and realising it was actually abusive, narcissistic and controlling is a harsh reality. Sometimes it feels impossible to get away from these situations.
Someone like this puts so much effort in to making you feel loved and special, so that it then becomes ok to control you and put you down. they force you to believe that this is normal and ok, because they are doing it because they love you. they make you believe its your fault. This doesn’t just happen in relationships either. there are friendships based on one person putting the other down, because it makes them happy. They become jealous when you are doing well, and they do not want you to have that. So instead they feel your life with hatred and they really don’t care about the effects. They may not even realise that they do it.
You do not need this in your life.
You are not a belonging. You are so worthy of everything you want out of life.
I wish the whole world was on the same page, but the truth really is that this will never really go away.
Abuse is not just the physical act of being assaulted, although this is still a form of abuse. Emotional abuse can do so much more damage to someone. It made me laugh to think that some people believe that bullying/trolling is not abuse. If you are using words to intentionally hurt someone, you are being abusive. End of. there are no ifs, no but what-ifs, it is just not ok.
Mental health awareness means understanding your own mental health, as well as the mental health of others. By realising how your words could hurt another’s mental house, leading them down a path of self hate.
Check out my post on how I have been using CBD oil to help with my anxiety here.
Don’t be afraid to speak up, and speak out.
It doesn’t matter who they are or how strong someone appears. We say not to judge a book by its cover, but yet we make assumptions that things are how they look by appearance.
Just because a person has a 100% positive and happy vibe on socials does not mean they are positive and happy all the time. What is behind the screen? you really do not know what is going on behind someones door.
Firstly, get rid of the toxic people in your life that don’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Do not allow people in your life that put you down, and don’t support you and your happiness.
Just by saying hello, asking if someone is ok today, asking if there is anything they need, or even just giving a completely random compliment you could be making a massive difference to someones day.
Think back to the last time you received a compliment. Even something as small as ‘Oh your top looks nice’. Think back to how that made you feel. Did you feel 1% more confident and positive that day? could you imagine a world with no negativity or abusive behaviour! we would all be so much stronger.
Do what is best for your mental health…
Support is out there…
If you feel down and in a position where you really don’t know what to do, there is plenty of support avenues our there but here is a list of some if you don’t know.
If you do not want to contact a support service such as the ones above, there are many other ways you can reach out for advice and support such as Twitter communities, Facebook Groups, venting apps, and forums. there are so many online groups and services that support and encourage mental health awareness, and support for everyone.
Even if you speak out anonymously to someone, this is still a good step.
Speak to me.
I always have time for those who reach out to me, and I make sure I reply to you when you do. So if you feel down and you need support send me a message on one of my socials. or pop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org ❤
We are officially over the 3 weeks into the lockdown that Boris Johnson announced on the 23rd Mach 2020. And then it has announced that the 3 weeks are turning to 6 weeks, as the time had been extended to stay put in our houses. Frankly, It has been a trying time for many of us And if we are honest, it could be even longer than that. So today I am talking something that it has been a battle for me in this period of uncertain times, being positive.
It is so easy to feel down and alone during this time that we can not see our loved ones. I battle with thinking negatively before I think positive all the time! it is something that really just can’t be helped. So during this time, it is becoming so important to focus on staying positive, as well as knowing that you are not alone and there is so much support out there. Together the world can get through anything with a positive attitude.
Lockdown is lonely. There is no argument about that. Both myself and Emma always say how we are people, people, Like we are always out and about seeing friends and family. So I completely understand how trying it is. However, we have an opportunity to be grateful for the technology we have. We really do have some amazing gadgets, and video calling is an invention that all of us are so grateful for right now.
Staying connected with your friends and family is so important. They are your support network and in these crappy times having a support network is amazing. Video calls have seriously become my favourite. They can be so much fun and really allows us to feel like we are really part of something. Being able to see our loved ones virtually is basically the next best thing.
Focus on things that make you happy.
Set yourself new goals for your time inside! Who says you can’t be productive right now? Doing things that you enjoy can keep your mood uplifted since they tend to be things that we are already passionate about. Whatever it is set specific times to do that activity, daily.
How about reading my post on creative things to do whilst in lockdown here.
Show your appreciation
Times are hard, for all of us and especially for our hard-working heroes. The key workers that are keeping our country operating. These are the emergency services, the Postman, The shop workers, the bin men and so many other roles to list. These people are outside working, they are risking their own lives at the hands of the virus to keep us safe, and our community to keep turning.
There are so many ways you can show appreciation to these people. Creating thank-you signs, Clapping and being kind just to name a few. I made a canvas for our window to be seen this week. The best thing is that by showing appreciation for what others are doing goes such a long way. You are putting a smile on someone who may be finding the hard work
Share what you are doing!
There are so many ways we can share with ur loved ones what we have been up too. Sharing statuses, chatting online! Sending photos, and videos!
TikTok has become my 2nd favourite (and most used on-screen time) app on my phone! Watching families mess around creating funny videos and completing challenges. I didn’t think I would end up posting anything! but I have already succumbed due to the awesomeness that TikTok has become.
Another thing, and something that we took part in this week. Video call with a group of friends and run a quiz! One of our friends did this with 5 of us this weekend, a music quiz. Oh, it was hilarious! it is our turn to run the quiz next!
Try not to dwell and be grateful for what you have.
I would be a hypocrite if I didn’t honestly admit that I have been doing a lot of this in the past few weeks, finding it really easy to feel down about the things that we have been missing, and the worrying about our wedding in September and the fact we still have a lot to do! I think about the wedding every day!
Every cloud has a silver lining.
It is very much easier said than done! when there is so much to worry about for so many of us, Money, Family, health etc. It is important to be appreciative of the things we do have and try not to focus on what we don’t. We all have a roof above our heads after all.
Lockdown won’t be forever, before we know it we will all be looking back and saying ‘Remember 2020 when we couldn’t leave our houses for months so video called ALOT’.
Set goals to complete during this period.
I love setting goals and writing to-do lists of things I want to do. I’ve written my list of things I can do when I am bored and stuck in the house as well as my previous post about staying creative with activities during the pandemic, here.
The goals you set do not have to be extravagant. Always set goals that are achievable for you… and of course achievable during the lockdown period…
One goal that I am setting myself during the ‘Stay at home’ period is to create my first ever youtube video as this is something I have wanted to do for ages but it is out of my comfort zone.
Stay Safe as well as positive
Finally, as hard as this has been, Just remember that staying home is the safest option and we are all doing this together for the same reason! Preventing us from developing the covid19 virus, and allowing the NHS to cope, as they are already under such high pressure during the pandemic.
We are all in this together ☺ stay safe and happy everyone.
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Good morning everyone, Happy April! And positive thoughts to everyone who feels that they have been in isolation forever. We have certainly been feeling the effects that the Lockdown has on us. So I am feeling quite grateful this week as I am talking about something completely not Coronavirus related. Today I am taking CBD oil from Bristol CBD.
I had been really excited when Bristol CBD offered me the opportunity to test their CBD oil product. I have already been taking CBD for a while now and already know of the benefits. So to try a new brand new product is always exciting.
What is CBD oil?
For those of you that do not know what CBD is, it is a Cannabidiol. A food supplement that has been being used across the world to help aid health conditions.
The usage of CBD has been highly discussed and debated by many health officials as the most controversial supplement available. Mainly due to the source, being the Marijuana plant.
Cannabidiol may be sourced and extracted from the Marijuana plant paste, that lives within the flowers of the same plant as ‘weed’ however dose not contain the THC chemical which is often used by smoking. (So basically no you can’t get high off this). The WHO (World Health Organisation) stipulates that CBD oil is non-toxic, non-addictive and non-psychoactive product.
Why I have been taking CBD.
I started to take CBD a few months ago when it was recommended to me by a friend who had been suffering from cramps and anxiety. So for me, it sounded like something worth trying, as I am always open to trying new natural methods of improving my pain symptoms and anxiety.
At first, I found the taste of CBD oil really hard to swallow. However, I have found that not giving up and persisting I got used to the taste pretty quickly.
The longer I have taken CBD oil the more I notice the benefits of the supplement, I feel more relaxed and this has been improving the continuous pain I’ve been having in my stomach.
I previously wrote a post explaining how being ill has affected my mental health, here. Some of these issues have improved since I started taking CBD oil in November, (After having written this post).
How do you actually use CBD oil?
To take CBD oil in liquid form, you need to take a few droplets under your tongue, 2 – 3 times a day. There are a variety of different percentages of CBD you can take. I have been taking 5% happily, which is also what Bristol CBD sent me.
What are the benefits of CBD oil?
The benefits of CBD oil are wide and varied and it is sold legally in the UK as a food supplement. CBD has been known to help with the symptoms of Anxiety Depression, Muscle Pain, Sickness and nausea from treatments such as chemotherapy, Acne and some other skin problems. The supplement has also been linked to having improvements for blood pressure and benefitting a persons heart and circulatory system.
What do I like about Bristol CBD?
Bristol CBD is such a caring and helpful shop. On their website, they say “We want everyone to be able to afford premium quality CBD oil” and honestly I have to agree. As I compare this to the high street and some other brands I have brought in the past. The CBD they supply is really good quality for the money it costs to buy. They also offer free delivery! which is an epic bonus!
The Bristol CBD team are really supportive, and informative about their product. I would highly recommend their CBD to any of my friends.
Don’t forget – If you decide to try CBD oil, Bristol CBD are offering a fabulous 15% off with code “ALEXA15” on their website here.
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In my last post, I spoke about how the coronavirus has been affecting the world. One of the main responses to the coronavirus has been to self-isolate. Meaning we need to separate from social situations as much as possible, Also known as Social distancing. Furthermore, from me starting writing this post (we have been super busy with the house move) We are now in a period of ‘lockdown’ only essential shops are open and we are being urged to only go out for essentials.
By staying home and away from social situations we are protecting ourselves as well as the NHS who are currently overwhelmed with convid-19 cases.
The idea of being away from our loved ones and feeling grounded from the outside world is really horrible. We have been put on lockdown for 3 weeks for the meantime. For many of us though we need to self isolate for longer than this.
Both me and Emma are classed as high risk from infections due to both of our underlying health conditions. However, As someone who is constantly in bad health, I thought it would be a great idea to share what gets me through the days When I can’t get out.
Things you can do to stop you going insane during social distancing.
Check-in with friends and familyregularly withvideo and voice calling.
It is genuinely such a depressive time for the world that we live in right now. I highly recommend that you stay in constant contact with your friends and families over the phone.
Today I video called my Nan! I was brilliant, she learnt how to answer video calls on her laptop! and a little chat with nan really did cheer my day up!
We are really lucky in this day and age that we are able to use video calling on our phones and other smart devices. We should be taking advantage of the technology we have been given to the full right now. The ability to virtually see our friends and family makes being apart that little bit easier.
Catch up and binge on yourfavourite tv shows. Or find a series to watch.
Anyone else that has a Netflix watch list so big that you really need to catch up on? I do. It’s massive. Especially where we didn’t have internet that could handle video streaming at the farm. We went for a long time without being able to watch online streaming providers such as Netflix and Amazon prime that there are so many things we haven’t watched yet.
Having time in self-isolation is the perfect chance to catch up with some ‘Netflix and chill’. (Yes, I mean actual chillaxing).
Declutter and organise your belongings
It’s a job that needs doing, in fact even if you don’t feel like it needs doing, it is always a good idea to stroll through your belongings, check best before dates on food, cosmetics and sprays.
We had a massive declutter before we moved into our new house last week, but even now we are still decluttering things. It is surprising the number of things you think you will need but you really really don’t.
Read a book or two, maybe three.
I love to read but even more so I love to get deeper into what I am reading by reading for longer periods. Since you need to be able to have times to do these things, you now have the time to sit back and really sink into your book.
Take a trip to an open park.
Although the park’s cafes may be closed. A park is a way of getting out in the open whilst still being able to maintain social distancing. Fresh air is good for us and our mental health. Please ensure that you are staying 2 metres apart from other public members using the park.
after a few days of Isolating it is very easy to get out of routine. Not bothering to make an effort as I continuously say. So making a specific time to pamper yourself is really good for your self-care routine.
If your in a position where suddenly you have lots of free time, what exactly is stopping you from learning something new? How about living room yoga? or maybe digging out that instrument you have one lying about. (I am setting myself the goal of getting some guitar practice in! I haven’t played in such a long time). Free time is the perfect reason to start that hobby you’ve been dying to try, probably like me, you have brought all the stuff for it and never got around too.
Exercise with YouTube.
If you are a lover of the gym, this is a bad time. With all leisure centres being closed for now. Exercise can be a real challenge.
There are plenty of online classes, live streams that you could try! just give it a search on youtube. Try getting the other members of your household to join in! What a laugh this could be.
Doodle, Colour and draw.
I absolutely love drawing. It is such a relaxing activity. Especially for someone like me who has an overactive imagination. Doodling and colouring can be a brilliant stress relief activity. So if you are feeling a bit overwhelmed try this!.
Look through old photos and organise or scrapbook them.
As a scrapbooker since a child, I am so passionate about photo keeping. There are many different forms of ways you can organise your photos! Keeping them in photo albums, starting your own scrapbook, project life albums, or organising them into boxes. You can be as obsessive with this as you like! how about organising your muddled up pictures into chronological order? This may sound boring but it definitely takes time to do.
Journal Your thoughts.
As an overactive thinker (yeah I think that is a thing) Journalling is a great way to get all your thoughts and feelings out of your head. Use your journal exactly how you want too. Be as creative or as simple as you like… I like to draw and decorate mine as well using rubber stamps and washi tape!
Bullet journalling is an amazing type of journaling! check it out on Pinterest.
Start your own blog or website.
Have you got an idea for a pretty awesome website? or thinking about starting your own blog? Starting your own website has so much freedom. I see my blog as my own creative space to express my thoughts, feelings and share things I love with the world! Blogging and creating websites is also a great way to stay social virtually during Social distancing.
I have recently moved to Skystra cloud hosting. who offer a free month of hosting on your first month with there. Perfect for anyone starting a website, and trialling self-hosting.
Support your friends by reading their blogs and leaving comments.
It is a pretty depressing time right now. A lot of us have noticed a lack of engagement in our online presences and for the self-employed like me, it has affected our businesses.
You can support your friends by sharing their content, reading their posts and leaving them supportive comments. I love a good spree of reading other blog posts and commenting!
Make a vision board
I love making vision boards, using pictures of things that inspire me. As well as pictures of things that represent my goals. Have a go at making your own vision board. How about using old magazines and catalogues to make collages of things you like and want in your life!
Rearrange your furniture and zen your living space.
Since we’ve just moved house I feel like I am being all over this right now. Constantly moving our furniture around until its perfect.
It is so different to have the freedom to do this. I would definitely suggest if your feeling fed up with the four walls in your house, why not change them up?
Declutter your social media.
Time to start having a spring clean of your mobile and smart devices. There are plenty of time-consuming things that you can do to declutter your devices. A virtual spring clean!
Craft some cards and presents to give to friends and family to cheer them up.
Who really needs an excuse to craft some goodies. You could leave homemade cards and gifts on your loved one’s doorsteps for them to find, this would really put a smile on anyone’s face.
Scroll through Pinterest.
I don’t know about you but when I get on Pinterest I can’t seem to get off it. I can happily and unknowingly spend hours on Pinterest without even trying. I’m constantly inspired and entertained by searching the bored for motivation to do something.
Create a positivity book about yourself and things that make you happy.
I’m rubbish at being positive about myself so I started to keep a book of things that make me happy and what I like about myself and why. Even statements that others have said that make me smile or feel happy.
You could even keep goals and bucket lists of things you want to achieve. Films you want to watch and books you want to read.
Create your dream house.
Draw a floor plan for your dream house. Be as extravagant as you want to be. Once you have created the floor plan attempt to draw your room plans. Use images to collage the types of decor you want and the colours you want to have.
Draw your next tattoo.
This is a personal goal for me! I’ve always dreamed of a tattoo large, on my thighs to cover the scars I’ve had from my surgery I had when I was younger. A dream catcher. So Having time to draw and create an Idea would be amazing!
Download a drawing app like procreator and learn to digitallydraw.
Drawing with a Digital pencil is so much fun. be warned though. It is addictive! I got myself a cheap digital pen off Amazon here. Now I’m already saving up for an Apple pen. eeeeeeee.
Play a game like the sims.
You can play sims on a phone, computer or games station. It is a life simulator. Another addictive game. You can control the lives of a whole Sim family and house.
Being creative is good for your mental health.
These are just some ideas, there’s so much you can do whilst Social distancing from other people. I know it sucks that we can’t go out and live our normal lives right now, and seeing loved ones has become really hard, but keeping busy really does help.
There are so many are risking their lives to help the communities function. As well as our amazing NHS workers who are fighting to keep the ones who have caught this terrible disease alive.
I am pretty certain, if you are like me anyway, you are pretty fed up of hearing the word Coronavirus right now. No, I don’t mean the beer, I mean the virus.
It is a pretty discussable subject right now. Everywhere you turn. The past few days I have woken up to floods of notifications, Emails, Twitters, Sky news. The lot of them all mentioning Coronavirus.
As you may have seen in my February wrap up post here. we are so excited and anxious to be getting into our new place. For us, this week is moving week. Friday we get the keys to our new home. Saturday we have Hired a truck. Tensions are definitely high with self-isolation being a hot topic of this week. One of the worries is we need our helpers.
There is NO way were be postponing the move. I do not think we can take much more of our belongings being packed away as it is. Personally, we are bored already!
Today we took a trip into a local shopping village. As you all know a lot of people have been ‘panic buying’ so the last 2 weeks we have done our food shopping options have been more than limited. Since we are moving into our own house with no ‘supplies’, we decided to buy a few frozen bits. Wow, what can I really say about the shops? whatever shop you are in is rammed and so busy. People are buying more than normal, and the shops are really struggling to keep up with such high demand.
it’s not just us,
I had a message from my cousin who is in France today. France went into complete lockdown. He was enjoying his last 40 of freedom on the beach near where he stays before he faces 2 weeks locked in the house. They are allowed to only go for food and medicines however, they then need to carry documents explaining why they are out of the house.
My brother with diabetes has been told that although still being employed he now can’t work for 12 weeks. 12 weeks is such a long time to be off work. But being diabetic he is of higher risk of catching the virus where he works.
What actually is Coronavirus?
Coronavirus, also known as COVID-19 is a new illness that the NHS and government have little knowledge at the moment. What they do know is that the coronavirus affects the lungs and airways. The virus is airborne.
What can we do to stay safe?
Self Isolating where possible. avoiding social situations and crowded areas. cleaning your hands with soap and water thoroughly. (sing happy birthday in your head).
Always wash your hands when you get home from being out. You can use hand sanitiser when there is no soap available. However, the most effective method of killing bacteria.
Try to avoid close contact with people who have symptoms of coronavirus.
Unless truly unavoidable don’t travel on public transport.
Work from home where possible.
Disinfect shared objects and surfaces.
Keep your hands away from your eyes, nose and mouth.
Use the phone to contact your GP or 111 for advice, avoiding the doctor surgeries and hospitals where possible.
If you think that you have contracted symptoms connected to Coronavirus (symptoms that are new) then you are required to self isolate. Guidelines from the NHS I have linked below.
The affects of Coronavirus
We all know that this virus has affected the world in so many different ways. People are terrified. Terrified of getting ill, or losing their loved ones to this nasty illness.
The panic of being isolated, and that shops and business closing. So many are panic buying. The shelves in the stores are as empty as anything. People are now running out of their general supplies and finding that everything in the shop has been brought out.
I think that it is amazing that some stores are now introducing hours where elderly, are now being allowed their own time to shop so that they are able to get what they need. Without being overcrowded and have an actual chance of buying essentials. Soap, Anti bac gel, dried foods, tins, and toilet roll. These are the main items that none of us can find on the shelves right now. making this situation even scarier. If you are thinking of panic buying! please of others who may be vulnerable and in need.
Many of our friends and family are aware that the schools may be shut as of Friday. To think how much this is going to affect children where they are sitting important exams in the upcoming weeks. Will they even be able to take their exams?. Plus the poor parents are also going to be stranded in a house with their children getting bored for weeks?
Business and events will be being cancelled in the upcoming months. Some social locations have already been asked to close. Although some may have the ability to be able to work from their homes, not everyone has this option so will be losing wages. The GOV has set a motion for mortgages etc to be put on hold. However, businesses will still be losing money. Small businesses especially.
Stay positive and support each other
No one is really sure how long this will last, whether it is going to be weeks or months. The virus is scary, it has affected so many around the world. This really is the time that we should all be supporting each other.
Some people are not taking this virus seriously, however, the facts are it affects each and every one of us. People have died. we need to take this seriously. Many have been affected, and many vulnerable. Especially those with an underlying health condition.
Support each other with positive thoughts and acts of kindness. Keep your self busy indoors.
Please keep safe and we’ll during these hard times.
Self-care is something that I try to think about and achieve as much as I humanly can. I am often seeing so many people talking about the importance of self-care that it truly shocks me that some people still do not know what it is or why it is so beneficial to them.
What is self-care?
self-care are the actions we do that our for ourselves. When we maintain a good self-care routine, we are achieving it for ourselves. Improving our health, development and well being.
Is there anything that you do that makes you feel good today? Actually forget good. That is such a boring word. If you can sit there and say today my day was, what imaginative word would you use? Mine, my day was unique. My day was unique because only I had this day today for everyone else it was different.
I know how easy it is to become blind to the positives in life, especially when it comes to our mental health. Even when their good things staring at us right in the face, sometimes, for no reason at all. For no fault of our own, we let our anxiety or depression win. In my previous post, I explained that its ok to be in a down spell which covered a lot more of this, here.
I have recently become addicted to those books, that I suppose fall into the Self-help category at Waterstones! (Not that I actually go to the actual book shop, it is definitely about Amazon Prime buying!) I love the quotes and inspiration that you can adopt from these books, sometimes I could be reading a few paragraphs of something, and think crap! this is me! Anxiety overtaking comes naturally to me. It is not just about the words, it will be ok, is not always good enough, and our actions influence everything, especially how we feel.
Looking after your own mental health isn’t just about how you feel on what day, and it is definitely not about just talking it through, our actions and mindset put together to have a massive impact on our lives on a day to day basis. These things I class as self-care for me, everyone is different, so although they may not work for you, I hope some of my ideas help someone!
Types of self-care
There 8 self-care types and many different things you can do for each particular type.
Your physical self-care includes your sleeping, your physical health, what your eating and drinking, ways to rest and relax.
your emotional self-care covers your stresses, your emotional attachments, compassion, kindness etc.
Your social self-care is your communication skills, your connections with overs, positive social media reflection, and your boundaries.
Your spiritual self-care includes the time that you spend alone, meditation & yoga, connections with nature, journaling and sacred spaces.
Personal self-care is your hobbies, getting to know yourself, your personal identities, and the ability to empower yourself to be yourself.
Spacial self-care is the care you take into looking after your own space. The space you live in. The earth itself, by being sustainable and keeping your personal spaces organise.
Financial self-care is being able to manage your money correctly so that you’re not getting yourself into financial worries, such as splurging money too much you are surrounded by debt. As well as being able to commit to responsibilities of paying their own bills etc.
Finally, your work self-care is the things that you need in your workplace, the things that help and improve your time management, workspace, learning and to take suitable breaks.
What can I do to achieve it?
There are a variety of different activities you can do to reach your own personal self-care goals. Here are some general ideas…
BUBBLE BATH, BATH BOMBS, CANDLES AND MAYBE A LITTLE WINE!
When it has been a long day, or when your feeling a bit down, or just for no reason at all. It’s more about the giving yourself time to relax, chill, and let any stress, threats or anxiety fade.
It doesn’t matter what your creativity is, always take the time to actually do it! It could be spending hours with your drawing books, or colouring pad, or something a bit more technical. I literally surround my self by different hobbies and crafty things, I love the feeling of accomplishment for whatever you’ve achieved, is enough. Plus somethings are a great distraction, like colouring!
How about checking out how to make 3D paper flowers, here.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH COLOUR, BEAUTY, AND YOUR FAVOURITE THINGS
I always say that my favourite colour is glitter, Its shiny and so pretty. It makes me feel content! If it is not glitter, it’s pink, it’s colourful. When you surround yourself with the things you love, you will always find something that will be able to make you happy.
MAKE YOUR FAVOURITE HOT DRINK, IN YOUR FAVOURITE MUG
I have an obsession with mugs (and believe me this is no exaggeration) but I definitely have my fav, I love using.
SPEND MORE TIME ON YOURSELF
Spending time on you could be absolutely anything, It could be spending an evening pampering yourself, with Hair treatments and painting your nails, to spending a few hours with your favourite book Giving yourself ‘me time’ is such a vital thing that makes us all feel good. As long as your going something that is making you feel happy, then whatever it is it’s a good thing!
VISIT YOUR FAVOURITE PLACES
We like to have the Marwell Zoo pass, it is given us the excuse to get out and more active. Plus the excuse to take weekends away to visit other zoo locations included in the price. If it is not a zoo were visiting, its Bournemouth beach. We’ve created so many amazing memories on days just out and relaxing. Make a list of your favourite places and make sure you take every possible opportunity to go!
GET YOURSELF ORGANISED
My anxiety always seems to go out of control when I don’t feel organised enough, whether it is arranging something or just something general. Making lists, adjust your routine, using reminders, sticky notes, and updating my calendar always seems to make me feel better. I would always make this a suggestion when things seem to be manic.
What activities do you do for your general self-care? I would love to hear new suggestions.
At times in life, we all go through periods where we are just not ourselves. It could be for any reason. Honestly, it really does not matter what that reason is. The problem with being an adult is life. life stress, life woes and just life in general. With everything that we face in our life these days, there’s no surprise that we face depression and go through times of unmotivated behaviour and attitude.
It is ok to be depressed when you shouldn’t be!
The last few weeks for myself and for Emma haven’t been that great! and that is me being 100% truthful. We have countless family and friends saying that we are being silly because there’s so much coming this year! which is so true and in no way am I denying these facts!
We have a wedding to look forward too in literally 6 months now. then there is the fact that we are moving house in 2 weeks. There are so many things on the calendar that I get confused at the best of the times. So why are we feeling so crap? Well besides the obvious reason. The continued lack of immune system, our bodies fighting off colds and sickness that feel like they have been attacking at us for years now. Limbo seems to be a pretty hot answer.
Today I seem to have had a real big epiphany and it has really helped me. Basically its this…
It does not matter.
Yep pretty simple right? Why are we spending so much time trying to pull ourselves back to normal, when we have so much change coming and the fact is normality will happen by itself on its own accord.
Ok, honestly I have probably been told this by someone else. You know that dreaded word for me, patience. Sometimes I can be the most patient person in the world, other times I really don’t have it in me.
That’s the thing with depression and mental health, sometimes it takes us longer to realise the obvious. Which is so annoying! However, we really are all in a similar boat, going through very similar things. We just need to take time for ourselves.
What to do if you are going through a down period?
Remember that you are not alone.
There will always be someone that will be there to listen to your feelings. If you cant find a friend or family member to speak to, try seeking advice from a doctor or counsellor.
Switch off and get outside.
Sometimes a change of scenery can really help our moods. Getting away from the 4 same walls, and getting some fresh air in our lungs can really be a positive re-enforcement for all of us.
Do something that you enjoy
It can be so hard to feel motivated to do what we need to when we are feeling down. So stop and take a break! do something that you actually enjoy. Your motivation will come back when it is ready. I promise.
If you feel that you need help getting your motivation back up, how about checking out this post on Monday motivation here.
Try not to worry about the things outside of your control.
Firstly I want to point out the fact that I’m really suggesting that you try not to worry. I just want to make it clear that I know how hard it is to ‘try not to worry’ in fact, I am the worst for it. Who knows where I get it from but my brain normally races 500 steps ahead of where I am at all times. Constantly worrying when I am not in control. I am not being a hypocrite though. the times I have stopped worrying have really helped me regain focus, but it is ok when you can’t get these thoughts out of your head. You are not alone.
Write it down!
This is my favourite piece of advice that I stand by so often in so many different aspects of life. When your fighting depression and overwhelming limbo of feeling down you, write it down. What is it making you down? Write every single thing in a list, and then go through that list. Either by your self or with someone close to you. Face the list one by one.
Stop saying your fine.
Finally, it is ok to admit that you are not ok! it doesn’t matter how many times I’ve heard this phrase. We are all still doing the same thing. We are telling people that we are OK, and Fine when things are not ok. Be open to talking! take the weight off your shoulders! who knows you might feel better after you have admitted that you are not OK.
Seeking help for depression
Sometimes our feeling down spells last a lot longer then we would hope they would. It is OK to ask for help. It is completely normal to ask for help. In fact, I am asking you to seek help!
There are varies helplines and agencies that you can contact to seek advice. Such as the Samaritans.
Chronic pain is a subject that I see a lot of people mentioning lately. So I wanted to write about myself and the pain that I have been going through on a daily basis. It wasn’t until I started reaching out to others, researching chronic pain and mystery illness that I stopped feeling alone.
At the beginning of 2019, my health took a massive downhill. I had become a whirlwind of emotions, that’s for sure. Now we’re in a new year and I am still in the same position!
So what exactly had been happening in 2019?
After our trip to Disney back at the end of January/ beginning of February this year I returned to work for a mere 2 days. before waking up with sickness and chronic pain leaving me unable to work. At the time I didn’t really think much of it because it’s me, and I tend to get ill often. After a few days, the pain in my stomach hadn’t shown any improvement. which meant I had to get myself signed off work!
For something that I thought was going to affect me for a few days. This has turned out to be a complete life changer. Days turned into weeks, weeks turned into months. Now it been over a year and I still get unexplained pain and sickness.
Back in May, one morning I ended up with severe pain relating to my PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome). This led me to go from the doctor’s surgery straight to the hospital. where they, of course, ran tests. 3 weeks later I found myself having surgery to find out if I had endometriosis, which had been my suspected diagnosis for years. Fortunately (and unfortunately in some ways) I was found not to have this condition. however, the surgeon had to clean my fallopian tubes from infection and fluid. At this point, I had been hoping the surgery would solve all my problems. After a miserable time recovering, countless ambulances and 111 calls It was easy to realise that it wasn’t so simple and the pain hadn’t been resolved. Now it just seems a small part of the issue.
Having had all that done, I still hadn’t improved. Leading to I having had more multiple trips to the hospital over time, scans of all sorts, been prodded with hundreds of needles, yet still no diagnosis. In fact, it continues as I am currently awaiting a pain clinic, still on multiple drugs to keep me going. Whilst maybe facing yet another surgery! That I don’t want to happen this year. (there is too much going on I just want to enjoy this year). However, I have been under multiple consultants, it has been said they will probably never find the cause of pain.
illness has been affecting my day to day life.
I am not gonna lie, it is a shit position to be in. unknown cause for pain that stops me from being able to move. unable to work. unable to just be me. In the end, my health caused me to leave a job that I really loved, but has encouraged me to focus on getting better, and opened some different opportunities. I am a quite persistent personality after all.
Regardless, I try not to let my health rule my life. As much as it is a rollercoaster journey.
Chronic pain is a common condition.
A survey I had found by the daily mirror reports that “Almost half the adult population is living with chronic pain,” Suggesting that around 28 million adults in the UK are affected by some type of chronic pain (detailed as pain that lasts a period longer than three months). The NHS has given a very detailed post about this here.
Things you should consider:
Chronic pain can be an invisible illness. One minute I can be completely fine and happy before a spout of pain strikes. Just because you can’t see what someone is going through, doesn’t change what is there.
Pain management is tricky! If you think of ideas that could help someone, don’t be afraid to suggest it. Sometimes pain relief is hard to conker.
Be persistent. Persistence has helped me when it comes to attending the doctors to tell them something is wrong. I had to keep going back for them to even start investigating problems.
Don’t be afraid to talk to others. Feeling so crap all the time can really affect your mental health. It is ok to cry and talk it out.
Keeping up with hobbies and keeping as normal as possible helps me control what I am going through.
Remember to take your meds, this is so important. You have been given them for a reason! they are there to help you.
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