What are the benefits of wearing a face mask for the ‘new normal’

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Can you believe how this year had literally been flying by considering 2020 has been a year of worldwide madness, to put it nicely? and of course, the hottest topic of 2020 has been the Coronavirus and the global pandemic that the coronavirus has caused. From being in complete lockdown to only being allowed to enter a shop wearing a face covering. So how appropriate to be talking about the benefits of wearing a face mask! since we all have to do it right now.

Today I am partnering with bitmore.co.uk and their Armor London beautifully designed face mask coverings. There are so many benefits of wearing a face covering. Especially since it is part of the ‘new normal’ life that we are all experiencing right now.

 benefits of wearing a face mask

I thought that this would be a brilliant chance to review something that is highly spoken about as well as argued about right now.

So, What did I think of the masks?

As we headed out for a morning at the arcades, I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to test the masks out properly. So I can assure you guys that before writing this post, I have tested the Armor London masks fully.

Honestly, I have been so impressed with these masks that I have been sent, the material is so comfortable. The camafolague pink mask is a cotton material that feels quite soft and really didn’t feel too heavy or restricting.

My favourite mask is the Dusky pink colour made from hemp materials. This mask is again ever so breathable. It didn’t irritate my face at all, and I even forgot it was there after a while.

The fit feels snug to the face but ever so breathable. It is actually the only mask that I have had so far that I haven’t had anxiety with halfway around a store. Which is a massive thing for me, and is really helping my confidence when it comes to face mask-wearing.

The masks are brilliant colours, with quite a beautiful range of colours and styles, as well as a range for children.

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What are the benefits of wearing a face mask?

Some of the major questions on everybody’s lips are what are the benefits of wearing a facemask. Should they really be wearing one and where?

There are many benefits of wearing a face mask. The reasons for wearing them are for our own benefit as well as other people. Although the face mask may not fully beneficial to the person wearing the mask, there is some protection as well as being a requirement to wear to ensure the safety of others.

Wearing a mask helps protect you and others from contracting germs.

The main reason behind wearing a face covering is to prevent the spread of the tiny particles that come from your mouth and nose whilst out and about in the community. Although a face mask alone has not been proven to be completely affective, alongside other methods a facemark is said to be the most effective method of prevention.

You may not realise that you are contagious.

If you were to contract the coronavirus, you may not realise that you have been affected for up to 2 weeks, before you begin to show symptoms. So imagine if you were positive for the Coronavirus and didn’t realise, for 2 weeks you then see 10 people, they then see 10 other people, and that happened every day for the 2 weeks that you do not realise you are contagious to others. The world would be heading back to lockdown again. Not that the world has fully recovered in the first place.

Face masks help the economy recover.

With everything that has happened this year, the business world has taken a really big hit. The idea of protecting the community and supporting the return to business as well as education, so that we are not suffering in the future to come.

There is very little alternative to face coverings.

Wether we like it or not, there are very little alternatives to wearing a face covering, and being vigilant when it comes to social distancing. Although there are many debates about the benefits of wearing a face mask, and if they are actually useful or not. There is no cure/vaccination to beat the covid-19 virus.

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What else can you do to prevent spreading or contracting the virus?

Washing your hands frequently.

Good old soap and water, you cant beat it. Washing your hands regularly, especially having touched items from outside of your house setting with soap and water kills bacteria that lingers on your hands. You should wash your hands for at least 20 seconds, ensuring your rub in-between all of your fingers and above your wrist.

Use anti bacterial gel.

The use of hand sanitiser gel is a way of cleansing your hands as much as possible if you are in a situation where you are unable to use soap and water. It is highly recommended that as soon as you return to a setting where you are able to wash your hands, you do so.

Continue to adhere to social distancing measures.

However much the lockdown regulations have eased, we are not back to how life was in the slightest. Instead, life is turning to the ‘new normal’ (not that we are sure what exactly normal is yet!). The virus still exists and we should be remaining to stay vigilant as the virus is still catchable. You can do this by trying to stay at least 2 metres away from anyone you do not live with or anyone who is not in your support bubble. Although it may feel like at times that some have started to get bored of the mention of COVID, this should not stop you from ensuring your safety.

Catch it and bin it!

I personally feel like this is quite an obvious thing to say! but yanno… No matter where you are if you feel the need to cough or sneeze you should ensure that you are covering your mouth and nose with a tissue or your sleeve (not your hands). Single-use tissues are the safest, as you are able to bin these immediately and wash your hands after.

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30 Creative uses for your empty notebooks!

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Does anyone else get that super satisfying feeling when you buy a new notebook? its so clean and exciting. I don’t really know how I became so obsessed with notebooks but I really do love buying notebooks!

There really is something exciting about having an empty notebook though. A blank canvas for your creative thoughts, keeping organised and just having fun in. I generally keep a notebook for everything I can.

I have been so excited to work with Old English Company. They kindly offered to send me a personalised notebook over to try out, (How cool is this! Personalised stationery!) When it came to actually choosing a colour and design it was so difficult to choose, they have so many brilliant designs.

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After finally coming to a decision I choose a blush pink ‘My brain has too many tabs open’ Notebook. With ‘AlexaJade’ of course.

So to show off my beautiful Old English Company notebook I thought I would write about what you can do with your empty notebooks.

Things you can do with your empty notebooks…

1. To-do lists

Starting out with quite an obvious idea and something I’m honestly obsessed with, lists. I literally love to keep a book filled with everything that I need to do.

Something I do when I keep my book of lists of what I need to do codes each item with a symbol based on the priority of how important it is, (whether it needs to be done sooner than anything else).

2. Journal

What better to fill up empty notebooks with your personal memos. Documenting your life and expressing your feelings on a daily basis. I love keeping journals, I haven’t actually written in one for a little while, but I go in phases of keeping one and going back to it whenever I have a lot of my mind. Keeping a journal is so good for your mental health as well.

4. Gratitude log

Keep a notebook filled with everything you have been grateful in life. Every time your feeling grateful write the date is and what it is that made you feel this way.
Sometimes we naturally forget the things that we should be grateful for, so reminding ourself to be thankful is such a beautiful thing.

5. Sketches/doodles/art

Grab a notebook and a pen, and just start doodling away. Doodles are such a therapeutic activity for when you are feeling stressed and anxious. I’m always finding myself absent-minded and just filling a page of random doodles and drawings. It’s something that makes me giggle when you look back and you randomly see a doodle of something that makes you smile or laugh.

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6. Bullet journal

If you read my recent post on finding the right planner for you, you will already know how much I think bullet journals are a good idea. And you really can use any empty notebook to do this with!

7. Goal tracker

A book filled with goals and milestones is a great way to stay inspired and on track of what you want to achieve out of life. Keeping goals is a brilliant idea when you are in the middle of a project, especially one that takes a lot of work. Goals help you stay motivated and accomplished as you achieve them. It is always rewarding seeing how your progressing.

8. Meal planner

Having a Meal planner is a brilliant idea for keeping organised when it comes to food shopping and what to have for dinner each week. As well as being a great way of inspiring yourself with different meals, when you can’t think what you want to eat!

9. Letters book

This one is perfect for those soppy couples out there. Even the not so mushy couples might enjoy this. Writing dated letters in a book to each other and then looking back on these in years to come. Writing happy messages of love, memories and feelings. Sometimes you can write down more than you can say, so a letters book is absolutely perfect for this!

10. Positivity

Keeping a book of positivity is a brilliant idea to keep a positive mindset. By writing things such as positive affirmations. Have a look back at your positivity when you are feeling down, and remind yourself of all the lovely things about you, including everything you like, and what makes you happy.

11. Handwriting practice

It took me ages to get my handwriting neat and readable, I found using a spare notebook to practise my penmanship skills, so helpful.
It is a very simple idea however so useful for improving your handwriting skills.

12. Event planning

Planning an event keeping notes, ideas, and plans. I found this so helpful when I was planning surprise parties. I made lists of everything I needed to do, everything I needed to buy and who I was going to invite.

13. Budgeting

A subject I hate, well hate is a strong word. Highly dislike. Budgeting is something that we all need to do to be able to keep on top of our finances. Giving us the ability to enjoy our money as well as being able to afford our monthly bills.

14. Blogging notes

Calling all blogger friends out there! This is one for you. Keeping a blogging notebook is so helpful, in fact, I go through so many notebooks making blogging notes, including post ideas, post planning, specific blog to-do lists, keeping stat records, resources reminders and notes when researching and learning.

Want to know more about blogging, how about checking my post on how to start your own blog, here.

15. Random thoughts

Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night thinking something, then it stops you sleeping so you go to add a note on your phone… then your brain starts waking up and getting distracted so your planning on your phone now instead of going back to sleep? Well, I couldn’t tell you how many times I have. Keeping a notebook by you is not only a way of making sure you actually see the note you’ve made yourself (instead of it being hidden on your phone to suddenly remember by the time it’s too late) but it is also a way of ensuring that your not distracted and you can concentrate on getting back to that beauty sleep.

16. Learning a new language

Thinking you need a new hobby? How about grabbing a notebook and writing our words and phrases in a different language so you can become a multilingual pro.

17. Writing a story/Poems or song lyrics

Use a blank notebook to completely get creative and plot and write a novel. Who knows you could be writing the next award-winning story. Or if story writing isn’t quite your thing, a book of poems or song lyrics. Whatever you decide, your definitely fill your notebooks up with these options.

Want to improve your writing skills, read how I’ve been improving mine, here.

18. Travel journal

Are you a lover of travelling? Why not start a journal of where you have been, what you have done whilst travelling and what you loved, disliked about the trip.

19. Recording your progress

Working on projects. You could use this space to record what is going well, what isn’t working so much and how you think you could improve. It’s quite rewarding to keep record of your progress in anything. Since you can look back and see how much you have grown.

20. Christmas planning

This is something that I love to do every year! Christmas is such a hectic time and so having a dedicated place to plan is a must for me. As well as being a brilliant use for an empty notebook, or section of a project book! I honestly end up writing out so many lists, including ideas for Christmas, shopping lists, what we actually brought and for who, as well as the food planning. Honestly one of the best ways to get your Christmas period as organised as possible!

21. Vision board in a book

I love vision boards, they are so much fun to create, and so very useful to keep. One idea for using your empty notebooks is to keep an ongoing vision board in one of your notebooks. Filling the pages with inspiring things that you would like to achieve as well as being a positive source to look through.

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22. Passwords

How many times have you gone to log in somewhere and you have had to reset your password? I know sometimes there are apps and ways to save these digitally, however, it is not always the most reliable way of storing thing, as there is always a risk of losing your saved information.

23. Special memories

Journalling daily is not for everyone. Sometimes life just doesn’t give us the time to sit and write when we would like to, but keeping a book of special memories is a good way to keep down the special things that you want to remember in the years to come. Using your notebook you could spare a page per special day.

24. Shopping lists

Shopping lists are so handy when it comes to shopping. On the times that we haven’t bothered to write a list were left with a mess of buying things we don’t need, and things we don’t use. Wasting more money then we need to. So not only does writing a shopping list make uses for filling up notebooks, it helps you stay organised with the weekly shop.

25. Recording your dreams

Recording dreams is such a cute idea, sometimes our dreams tell us things that we don’t know, but our subconscious is letting us know. Writing our dreams down provides so many benefits to us. Benefits such as Reducing stress, helping us to solve problems, produce amazing ideas and learn from our mistakes.

26. Trackers

Pretty much like bullet journalling but just plain and simple trackers. you could design a tracker for anything. From tracking your habits, periods, to activities you have done. I have a book and a film tracker in my bullet journal.

27. Recipes

I love recipe books, however, I hate clutter. I like to keep all of my favourite recipes in one notebook. It is a much more convenient way, then keeping a recipe book and having to flick for all the recipes you’re never even gonna try to find the one recipe you want.

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28. Health log

Keep track of what’s going on with you. A personal notebook that no one else has to see but is so good for keeping records of things you might need to look back at later. Such as when you have your periods, you can use the record to be able to work out your ovulation as well as notice any changes.
Another good thing about keeping a health record is if you are suffering from any kind of illness, you can keep a pain record or a sickness record, that may be useful to show to the medical professionals.

29. Inspiration journal

Keep track of the things that inspire you, whether it is pictures, words, quotes. Anything that makes you feel motivated and inspired. Almost like keeping a vision board in a book. Which vision boards are really great for keeping yourself positive.

30. Crafts and projects to try.

Another new idea for a craft or project? Jot it down in your notebook, with what equipment you need to complete the project. So it is almost like a craft planner. Which is ideal for when you are stuck for something to do. Brilliant for having an ongoing list for what you are going to make. Which as a crafter myself, I get so many crazy ideas of what I am going to make, so keeping lists of projects is a brilliant thing!

How about finding ways to stay creative with my post ways to stay creative indoors, here.

What do you use your notebooks for?

I would love to hear what it is you use your notebooks for? Do you have any random uses for your favourite notepads? and better yet, do you have notebooks that are just too pretty to use, or maybe you are like me and have a massive pile of notebooks ready to be creative with.

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Planner goals – How to pick the right planner / Journal for you.

Good morning my lovelies, I hope you are all doing well, staying safe and positive. Can you believe how quick this year is flying by already? How are we in August right now? I swear only 5 minutes ago it was march and me and Emma were moving into our new house! 2020 has been a rollercoaster for us and we are only 8 months into the year! So today I’ve been having a massive think about my Planner. I am obsessed with Planners, Anyone else feels like choosing the right planner is such a big decision to make?

I love to stay organised so having the right type of planner is something I take seriously. To be honest, In the past few years my planning love has grown and I honestly keep a variety of organisers and journals ever year. However, choosing the ‘one’ for me really has taken some investigating. So today I thought I would share my thoughts on what I use, and what I know.

The happy planner

The happy planner

My current planner, and the one I am most in love with. This is a planner variety that I am completely obsessed by. No lie.
This year I have been using the Teresa Collins Happy Planner Be Happy Box Kit. Which is slightly different from the normal Happy planner that I use, with the vertical box layout.

The happy planner is fully functional for any person who loves decorating and pretty things. If you love using stickers and washi tape you will love this as an option to plan your life.

Tip: Buying a Happy Planner in the UK? I brought mine on Amazon, This one.

Check out my post with everything you need to know about the happy planner, here.

Erin condren life planner

Despite the news and negative press around Erin Condren this year, let’s not judge a book by its author.
The Erin Condren life planner Looks amazing and has so many options, however is a similar layout to what the happy planner is. Which you know I love.

I will be honest. The main reason I have not purchased the planner is the cost. Otherwise I love checking out how people use this and decorate it on Instagram.

Bullet journaling

Bullet journaling is perfect for likeminded creative souls. You create everything. from a blank Notebook too a book filled with your own designs, trackers and notes. Bullet journals are a brilliant way to stay on top of everything! Plan your month, week, and day in one place whilst adding in trackers for your habits, period cycles, water consumption. Anything.

You will need a dotted notebook layout like this one, here. Which I use and it’s one of the cheapest I’ve found so far.

Looking for ways to stay creative? Try this post, here.

Digital planning

Digital planning is an awesome concept. I love the freedom to be able to access your planner anywhere. You can start digital planning by downloading the Good notes app and downloading a planner file through Etsy or a free website. There are so many out there to choose from.
you could even design your own if you know how.however, if you don’t know how to create one there are tutorials out there that will show you.

Digital planner
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A specialised planner

A specialised planner is what I describe as an organiser for something specific like fitness, wedding, baby, travel, budgeting etc. There is even a Christmas one out there! How cute is that?
These a brilliant for really being able to plan in detail with certain things. Sometimes having extra room to add more detail about something specific you are planning is so useful. Especially if you love writing lists, like me.

Smash journalling

Smash journaling is a form of using art to express your feelings on a daily basis. You can do this in different ways as well. One option is to journal you day and feeling to them cover the writing in art. A way of relief for fustration. Your not completely destroying the words. Your adding to the words creatively by adding art on top of them.

Project life

I disputed including this one. But I do love project life. However, Although it is a form scrapbooking I also see it as a massive form of journaling because of the usage of images and writing to document your year. It’s such a creative way or keeping memories, thoughts, feelings, notes and anything else all in one place.

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Sustainable living: where to start.

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Can you imagine a life with no earth to stand on? well, let’s be straight, you would not be able to, because without earth there would be no us. In this post, I really want to focus on the benefits of sustainable living and how living a sustainable life can help save our planet.

In the past few years, Global warming has become a greater concern for all of us and has become one of the most talked-about subjects. But are we really talking about it enough?
I believe it is about time that we honestly ask ourselves, are we guilty of not appreciating what we have? the most important thing in our lives, Our planet!

Should we not be taking the time in our lives to appreciate exactly what the world has to offer. that means appreciating the birds tweeting, the flowers growing outside, the trees providing us with oxygen, the materials to create buildings for us to live in, the materials made from natural products… sand, soil, wood, water. All these things that make the world what it is. even down to that magazine, or paper you like to buy from the shop, have you stopped to think what the earth has given to make it possible for it to?

So by being appreciative of what we have, you are actually gaining by thinking about the waste and harm we are causing to our planet. There are so many different ways that you can do small things, towards living sustainably, that in the long run will be saving our planet, So why are we not doing them? Is it just us humans being lazy?

what does it mean to be sustainable?

Sustainability in the last few years as it has become a hot topic absolutely everywhere. Also known as eco friendly lifestyle. I decided to have a look at the oxford dictionary website who says Sustainable means conserving an ecological balance by avoiding depletion of natural resources.

The world we currently live in is unsustainable, There is no other way of putting it. There is an extreme imbalance between overexploitation and insecurity all over the world. As a result of this, the environment, local communities and our mental wellbeing are suffering.

So. Sustainable living. What can you do to start living sustainably?

1. Using Reusable metal or paper straws.

Sustainable living gives us the ability to save the future of our planet. Especially by reducing the amount of plastic wastage.
Most venues won’t even supply plastic straws in their bars and restaurants. In fact, they have changed to paper straws. Plastic straws really have damaged our oceans and earth. Like many things, the plastic causes harm to our wildlife.
my vote is on metal/stainless steel reusable straws. Carry these in your handbag for when your out and about.

2. Use travel mugs to buy your coffee.

This is probably one of my most favourite things. I love reusable cups and mugs. Coffee shops such as Starbucks and costa as well as many others even offer you a discount on their beverages for using a reusable mug.

I have also found that by carrying a plastic and reusable bottle is not only helps living sustainably. I drink so much more water! so my hydration has improved so much.

3. Stop throwing out old and unusable clothes and start using these as clothes/rags insted of buying new.

I’m not gonna lie. I wish I had thought of this myself. It was suggested to me by a friend on Facebook and so I tried it. I actually found this brilliant. Saving money on clothes and rags you’d normally get small usage out of. And using old clothes cut up as an alternative. Brilliant.

4. Start purchasing fair-trade labelled, or organic products.

most if not all shops have fair trade and organic options. Coop is well known as one of the major supermarkets who support this.

What is fair trade? Well, it is actually an arrangement designed to help and support the producers in developing countries achieve sustainable and equitable trade relationships. Basically keeping the whole economy going!

5. Replace dryer sheets with reusable tumble balls. OR use a clothesline.

I’m not suggesting that you can’t use your tumble dryer. However, by using a washing line in the summer, and by drying some clothes on a household dryer rack can save so much usage. Which is so much healthier for our beautiful planet.

The Eco egg is absolutely brilliant. Leaving clothes soft and fresh. You can get one, here.

6. Switch to energy-efficient lights.

Sometimes with living sustainably its only small changes, you need to make to help make a difference, Energy-efficient lights not only helps with saving the planet! but they also make a difference in your electric bill! These are awesome.

I recently brought these. Which are so bright and clear. Yet still eco friendly!

Sustainable living green plant on white wooden table
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7. Start using rechargeable batteries.

All those devices you have that need batteries in. Your always having to buy new anyway so why not save yourself money by investing in a rechargeable battery charger!

By having rechargeable batteries your decreasing the wastage you normally create with not needing to dispose of one life batteries.

8. Reuse your carrier bags or switch to long-life bags.

I get it. Sustainable living. But Sometimes you get into a shop and you have completely forgotten to bring your shopper bags with you! Ugh, the frustration because now your wasting money buying carrier bags. And there just mounting up in your cupboard because you know you don’t want to dump them. But you are not really using them again.

Using your own shopper bags isn’t just a savour when it comes to packing your shopping up and ensuring that you don’t lose it as your walking home with a hole in the bag! Cause we’ve all had that happen when you’ve had to rush around picking up the contents from a split carrier. We’re also reducing the amount of waste a carrier makes to our planet.

9. Walk to places where possible, instead of taking the car.

By getting some extra steps in and taking a walk to your local facilities instead of using a car for small journeys keeps you and our planet healthy.

Next time you are considering driving that 5-minute walk journey. Think about the fumes your car is letting out and the higher usage of petrol this trip will make.

10. Buy second hand

Second-hand buying is an amazing way to stop things from heading to the tip that still has life in them.

There Are many ways to find things to buy in second hand ways.

  • eBay
  • Local selling groups and apps
  • Facebook marketplace
  • Gumtree
  • Newspaper ads

11. Choose sustainable living beauty products

All those buds, all those make up wipes. The daily products thrown away from our Beaty routines. You can easily reduce this by using…

12. Learn how to recycle properly

Sometimes getting your head around what you can and can’t recycle had been difficult in the past. But there are so many more products that are being made with recyclable materials that most things actually can be recycled now. Living sustainably is also understanding why it is so important to look after our planet, with such things as recycling.

Always check the packaging and check with your local government website to check their rules.

13. Use washable and reusable where ever possible.

Most shops now supply refills in forms of packaging that make less damage to our environment. such as a coffee in bags, so your not collecting glass jars.

Some shops even supply cereals and other dry foods in a way that you can fill your own reusable containers so there is no wastage from a product.

Could we be doing more? What are your thoughts about living in a sustainable way.

What else can we be doing to save the world a little bit more every day? I would love to hear your thoughts below.

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A plus sized girl guide to surviving the heat and the rest of the summer!

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It’s hot isn’t it? So hot right now. I’m not complaining, but I am suffering. One thing I can say about a heatwave is it’s not cool! (I just couldn’t resist that crappy little joke). As a plus size girl, I’m feeling for all my curvy friends right now! The muggy weather is the worst. Whilst we’re hoping for thunder storms to come our way and clear the air, I thought it would be a nice idea to share my tips for surviving the heat.

Isn’t it funny how it’s harder to cool down then warm up? Well, annoying. I do love the summer though, seeing past the heat. Summer is for colourful clothes and making memories, just like last year we’ve been doing as much as we can, whilst following social distancing.

Surviving the heat

How I’ve been surviving the heat…

Fans are your friend!

I’m not going to lie. Surviving this heat had been a nightmare when it comes to bedtime. We’ve had 3 fans on in our room the past few nights. however, It has Still been so hard to sleep with this heat. Having a fan aimed at us has really helped us out.

Small tip: Placing a bowl of water under the fan also helps cool the room. As the water evaporates the fan cools this into the air.

Staying in? Keep your mind off the sun with staying creative at home! Read the post, here.

Embrace your body! And get that bikini on.

The idea of going somewhere where everyone could see my fatty legs used to kill me off. I wouldn’t want to go. It’s only recently that I have grown my confidence by having an attitude of if you don’t like it don’t look attitude. Plus who is really looking at you? Everyone else is too busy in there own bubbles.

So grab that swim wear and get down to the beach. Dive in the sea and cool off!

Ice lollies are the best supply.

When it’s a sunny hot day what’s better then a freezing cold treat? An ice cream might be tempting but I promise you your feel even more refreshed with a fruity ice lolly!

Drink even more water.

I’m not being funny with this one. But if your like me right now your going to be constantly sweating. You need to keep hydrated even more so right now. Topping up on water during the day and night will help prevent headaches and feeling crappy.
keeping hydrated is so much better for you and will help keep you cool. As well. It also helps reduce the redness in our hot faces.

Surviving the heat at the beach
Beach Day ☀️

Invest in a decent fly trap.

With heat comes the flies! Ugh there so annoying. There everywhere in the heat. They thrive when it’s hot. Having a decent fly trap will really help. We recently brought this one. It’s brilliant. Really has reduced the flies around us.

Don’t forget your sun cream.

Your already hot and sweaty. Let’s not add burn to this too. I’ve been suffering the last week with sunburn. Because even though I use sun cream I still burn. I use Nivea sun for kids, Which is one of my favourite sun lotions as this always seems to work best for my sensitive sun hating skin. I would still advice applying every hour that your in direct sunlight.

And if you do burn…

After sun and moisturiser! Alternate the 2 every few hours. Your skin will thank you for this! I did learn this week, out of all of the aftersuns I have used in the past. Aloe Vera gel is the best for severe sun burn. I’ve been keep this in the fridge since I got burnt and it really helps the soothing.

Surviving the heat dog with ice lolly
Bella enjoyed her ice cream 🍦

Make sure your clothes and comfortable and loose.

When you are not living in your bikini. Loose and flowing clothes are the best thing for us in this heat. It’s bad enough sweating in everything you put on. So if you have something thin and loose, it’s time to get it out.

Also. Sports bras, I love them in this heat, more comfortable and you can get away with wearing it alone.

Find the water…

I know the idea of the beach right now is out of the question for most, and if we do go. We need to be vigilant with social distancing, but it’s not just the beach as an option to cool down. Some parks have lakes where you can paddle, and there are some beaches around the coast (for us in Hampshire. We are quite lucky to have so many local options). Surviving the heat is so much nicer when you can take a dip in some water.

If a beach isn’t an option, a garden paddling pool, even the smallest to out your feet in will help you cool down quicker.

An umbrella in the sun.

Taking an umbrella with you out when you know. There won’t be much shade helps protect your skin from the sun. (Honestly no one wants the sweaty sunburnt feeling).

Stay calm! It’s not for long…

As plus sized we might struggle a bit more. But it isn’t for long! That boob sweat isn’t going to kill you, promise. Try and keep calm and relaxed. A proper heatwave is not something you want to fight against. When surviving the heat, no one has the energy for that in the heat anyway!

Enjoy your summer as much as you can even when keeping safe from coronavirus and socially distancing, make sure you wash your hands frequently when going out, and wear a face covering!

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Experiencing corrective leg surgery

Hey and a very good morning to you all. Today I want to tell you about an experience that has had a massive impact on my life. Sometimes In life, you end up doing things that you know deep down are just not what you wanna do. There are things that we do in life that we feel like we have no choice but to do them. Even when these are all opportunities for self-improvement. Although I wish we did sometimes life really has no handbook on whether we are making the right choices or not. For myself, one of the biggest decisions I have had to make is whether or not to have corrective leg surgery. Life-changing surgery.

I was born with twisted hips. I don’t actually know that we know what it was that caused my hips to be twisted but I know my parents knew was my hips were twisted from birth. It became apparent when I was a toddler I was walking with my feet faced inwards, and to me that was my natrual way of walking. Some people know this as pigeon toe. It was known from a toddler onwards that I may need corrective leg surgery in my life.

When I reached school age I started to have check ups with the hospital, and was referred for multiple rounds of physiotherapy to see If I could train my legs to walk straight without having to resort to the surgery.

This year I have been focusing on building my confidence a lot, check out my recent post about my confidence journey, here.

When I was a child I had to make one of the hardest decisions of my life. Before the age of 13 as well. Since it was my life and my body my parents left the desision primarily down to me. It was the decision whether or not to have corrective surgery on my hips. Corrective legs surgery would be having both of my legs broken at the hips by surgeons and set straight using pins.

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bullying was such a big part of my decision on having corrective leg surgery.

One of the things that persuaded me with my decision was the bullies. I went to an all-girl school, and I was just an easy target. The girls taunted me for not being able to walk straight. I will never forget the day that I was chased home from school by a group of girls in my year, laughing at the way I was walking, trying to catch me.

One of the girls managed to push me into a bush. The road home was a long straight road, and it felt neverending. I remember getting near to the end of the road and seeing this woman in her garden, I managed to grab her attention. She came to my aid as she got in the way of the girls, giving me a few extra seconds to get across the main road, and into the house where I locked the door straight away behind me. (my parents weren’t impressed, the school said it was a grey area of being something they could deal with/or the police. I didn’t want the police involved).

Another part of the decision to have surgery was the fact I was constantly falling over, I would have scabs on my knees from falling into the gravel (not that it’s has changed much, I still fall over nothing.)

I remember when I made the choice to have my legs surgically corrected I was 100% sure at the time. Even though I knew it was going to be a massive thing.

Having this surgery is a massive part of my past. One I often reflect on.

The first surgery took around 8 hours. 8 hours under the knife, where they reset both of my legs at the same time. Where the operation had taken so long I was then given a blood transfusion due to losing so much blood.
It makes me sad now. Because of that, I can’t give blood myself now.

The recovery from the surgery wasnt the most pleasent. I spent months in a wheelchair and bed. And then again on crutches. My legs had forgotten how to work, where I lost all my muscles from not using them, so I had to learn to walk again. I still remember the day I stoof up from the wheelchair for the first time since the operation. In my head I knew how to walk so I didnt even realise it was going to take so much to be able to return to normality. I think I thought I would be able to just stand up out of the wheelchair I’d been stuck in and just walk… as I said, it really didn’t work like that. 2 surgeries, months of being between crutches and a wheelchair I was finally back on my feet. Literally.

I’ve had problems with my health for a long time, Check out my post where I talk about the effects on my mental health, here.

It may have taken a long time. But I did get there. I still have a few problems with my hips now. Recently, I have been disagnosed with the beginning of atheritus in my hips. Which is a result of the surgeries I had when I was younger. I dont get the pain I’d gone through before, but the odd tingle. And of course not to mention the 2 double scars on each of my hips.

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Do I regret having the surgery?

This is a question that is so hard to answer. I wish I had of waited, yes. Having the surgery so young was something that has effected me in many ways. I should be taller than I am but then my body was spending more time healing then growing. I know that my dad does regret letting me go through with the surgery now. However, I don’t think it is something I can actually regret, as it had some positive aspects. I will admit that now though, I do agree that it has had more negative impacts on me than positive. If I could change anything, I would have had the corrective leg surgery a bit later in life.

I started thinking about the operation because it had been a major thing that I had got to experience. When I think about what I have achieved in my life so far, I feel that overcoming this was such a massive achievement, because I did it! I got through it.

Want to learn more about me? read my post 21 random things that you probably don’t know about me, here.

To me, it proves something major. Ok, I’m gonna be really cliche here. But if I can get through this. As well as half the other shit I’ve been through I can get through anything.

The past is who makes you who you are today, all the struggles and challenges happen for a reason, to build who you are today. This is just one thing like you will have one, and more things that will build you as a person! these experiences in life we should take the time to value and learn from.

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16 signs you are in a toxic relationship.

Trigger warning: Talking about abuse.
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This topic is something very close to my heart. Going through emotional abuse in a relationship is something I have experienced. It’s a horrible thing to have to go through and the worst thing is actually realising that your relationship had been abusive. So today I wanted to share the signs that I was missing in a toxic relationship, in the hope that it will inspire strength in someone else.

Realising you are in a toxic relationship can be overwhelming and scary. You may feel trapped.

The harsh truth is this, if your even considering for one minute, you might be in a toxic relationship. The chances are your instinct is right. But you don’t feel sure. You do however feel trapped. I did, when I read a similar kind of post. It was like reading myself except someone else was telling it.

When you are in a relationship, you really don’t expect that the person who says they love you to treat you badly. Sadly, there are relationships where the person does not need to be physically assaulting you to be an abuser. For me, I didn’t know any better. Starting a relationship like this where I was young. I wanted to know better and be right about everything. Ofcourse.

Does this sound familiar to you?

Before we talk about some of the signs of a toxic, emotionally abusive relationship…

At first, the relationship starts out as perfect. They wrap you around their fingers. Create a false sense of happiness in a perfect relationship until they let their halo slip slowly. So a relationship that should be full of happiness, Memories and love is a relationship of depression. Arguments and fear.

Maybe you have had friends or family try to tell you that you are not being treated right. Are you listening to them? I doubt it. I wasn’t. It took me years to actually realise for myself. This wasn’t easy. It was an incredibly difficult time.

Myself, as a shy and I confident young adult, was listening to the lies and allowing myself to be given hope that the future would always be better. But nothing would ever change. Instead, it just got worse …

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Are you in a toxic relationship of emotional abuse?

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They paint a perfect picture.

When you first get into the relationship they have already painted a perfect picture of their personality. They make out to be all these things you already know they aren’t but there still doing it. Creating an image that things will change and your gonna do this and that together. they’re planning holidays and future times. They make you feel loved and the happy times are so good that they weigh out the bad times.

They start arguments constantly.

How long was it before you had your first argument with your partner? Did you fall out and then wake up to an apology. Was it about something silly? But then a few weeks later again? It’s normal right? Couples argue. However, it keeps happening. And you find yourself constantly in heated moments of arguing. Again they find a way of making it all your fault. So you feel guilty. You hear it from their point of view. They tell you they argue because of how they feel. They shout and scream because they love you and you are hurting them. You don’t know what it is you have done but every time you argue they win.

They have already built up such a connection with you that you want it to last and your trust them, because why wouldn’t you?

You can’t trust what they say to you.

You trust them and then they finally slip up. They’ve been lying to you constantly. After a while you don’t know what to believe.

We all have suspicions at the best of times. But then again they are good at covering there tracks. Or at least they think they are. They have a backup excuse for everything they do.

Humiliates you, either alone or in front of other people.

One minute they tell you that you are everything to them, that your special, that you’re the only real one. The next they go out of their way to make you feel as small as a mouse.

They twist everything around to be everyone else’s fault(including yours), but never their own.

They turned vicious. Shouted. Screamed. Said all kinds of horrible things. Then they blame everything possible for what they did. Or maybe they did something and now that’s your fault too.

You hadn’t done anything. However, that does not matter. You have now been guilted into taking the blame, apologising for their behaviour. You don’t even notice them twist things round sometimes. It happens so much.

Belittles you and trivialises your hopes, dream and accomplishments

When your happy. Building your life. Going for that dream job or just being you. Your successful and they hate it. They try to bring you back down. Trying to break your confidence even more so then it already is.

Tries to control you and your behaviour

Being in a relationship does not mean they control you. But in a relationship filled with emotional abuse comes the aspect of being controlled. It’s not as simple as just being told what you can and can’t do either. They make you feel like you can’t breathe. You no longer feel like you are able to go out and have fun.

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Isolates you from friends and family

They tell you they need you, that your selfish and you don’t spend enough time with them. Really you spend too much time with them, but they will do everything that they can to make you distance from your loved ones. It’s hard. You don’t want to be in yet another argument but you want to see your loved ones. Your friends are starting to fade away because your now known as the girl who doesn’t go out. Always having to make an excuse to leave.

They guilt you into staying with them. Or making it so hard to see these people because they are telling you that they should be good enough.

Keeping hold of friends during an abusive relationship is difficult. You are forced into making the wrong decision every time. They slate every single one of your friends. Making you feel like you have no choice but to make excuses on why you cant socialise. You really want to be out and having fun, but it is no longer worth the pain of being shouted at.

Blames you for their problems

Taking the blame for something is never easy, but sometimes we just need to own up. “Hey, Sorry that’s my fault”. Except they can never seem to take the blame, even for the little things. It is never their fault, so they blame you. For everything.

In fact they literally blame everyone else but themselves for everything that is wrong in their life. They do nothing for their own self improvement. They just crush your happiness because they are not happy with themselves.

Is unfaithful to you and becomes emotionally distant or withholds sex to control you.

You may not have read my post, the truth about being in a love triangle.

It was my reality. Being in a relationship with someone who dated someone else at the same time. In one way I will never regret the past because without it I would not be in love with my beautiful Emma. We were both controlled by the same person. Lied too. Kept secret. Being told every excuse under the sun to stop the truth from coming out.

They cheat and then blame you.

Being in a love triangle is a hard, and humiliating position. I wrote a post explaining my experience, here.

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They pressure you into being tied to them.

They go all out. Treat you. Make amends for their behaviour. Buy you something expensive and suddenly your in debt to them.

They tie you into being in a financial situation, it starts with something small then it goes up. They do it both way rounds. And suddenly you find yourself in a position where you feel trapped. You can’t walk away because you can’t afford to pay the fiance which they made you get.

They use you for money.

Carrying on from that, They have won again. Another guilt trip. You really tried to put your foot down this time but it didn’t work. Guilted into a situation. Guilted into taking out finance because they had already fucked their credit and it would be the only way. Leaving you with tons of debts and money owed left to right and centre. It doesn’t matter to them they are getting everything they want. Even if you have nothing.

So many relationships have been left leaving them with debts and financial issues. You feel used. You know you are being used. But you are stuck. I promise money is not a reason to stay in this relationship. Money is superficial.

Your not as important.

A relationship should be equal. Both people should be able to feel loved. And important.

When they are doing things it’s the most important thing in the world. They make you feel shit, because the things you are into are apparently pointless and have no meaning.

Lacks respect and point out your mistakes or shortcomings

You can’t make a mistake because it will be pointed out and used against you. Even if it’s something like falling asleep at 3am because you get kept awake every night as they constantly harass your phone, even though they are work.

Mental health and self-care are so important for your wellbeing, read my post on why self-care is so important, here.

If you relate to any of these in your relationship…

You may not want to hear it. Because they have so many excuses about why they are the way they are. They have gone through a bad time themselves. Endured abuse and bullying themselves. However, nothing actually justifies there actions. It is not ok to be treated this way, ever.

You are an amazing and wonderful human being and you deserve so much more than what you are receiving.

Love is not this. Breaking away from them would be the best action in your life.

It won’t be easy. They will try and tell you anything to get you back. But you are strong. You can do this.

Block them. And cut all contact. And if you think they may reach out to your loved ones to get to you. Ask them to block them also. Keep records of any interactions made in case. You never know what will happen.

They accuse you of being unfaithful constantly

Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with? Are they constantly checking up on you? Asking you to send pictures just to prove where you are?

Accusing you of cheating because you didn’t answer your phone when they rung? Or you have not been able to answer a text message in their timely manner. It should never be like this.

They are normally accusing you because there doing the same thing. They think it will help them justify what they are doing to you.

You try to walk away but they won’t leave you alone until they have you back under there control.

You’ve finally broken. You don’t love them anymore. You’ve realised that it was never real love but they still have control over you because it’s all you’ve got. You don’t know any different. To walk away, had become a fear. You’ve got yourself in to deep and there are excuses you make yourself. I know.

You start to tell yourself you can get through this and it will be ok. Something always stops you walking. They start treating you better. Giving you what you need until they have the upper hand.

I promise you now. The 5 moments of happiness does not change what has been done. Neither does it change, how you have been treated.

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Does any of this feel familiar to you?

I should have left this relationship months in. But I let it get worse. I wanted to be in a relationship and it was fear of being alone along with other deceptions that kept me going back. The situation just grew worse and my life became habit. I was miserable and I would never be able to explain why I thought I was doing the right thing in staying in a place so vile. Or how I was convinced to do so many things I did not want too.

If you are in a toxic relationship. I know it’s hard. You are scared to admit the truth. really, You don’t even want it to be the truth. You keep making excuses for their behaviour because you are scared. It’s now your normal. How will you cope afterwards? I promise you you can be happy.

My story may be different to yours but it’s all the same. Abuse is abuse. Life is so short. You deserve to live it happy. You deserve to find someone who will treat you right and be equal with. Just like I did.

I fell in love with my abusers girlfriend. We kept each other strong and finally walked away from a place neither of us wanted to be. I was lucky to have someone support me and make me strong..l

Thank you for taking the time to read this. If You are in a position you would like support with. I am not a councillor but I am always here to be a friend to someone who needs it. It’s never ok to feel alone.

What to remember if you are in a toxic relationship…

Only you can make the decision to walk away, and I know from experience. Walking away is hard. But you are stronger than you think, and you deserve happiness.

It may seem scary but do what’s best for you! You have people who love you and will support you during this difficult time.

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Love Crafts – Life is a wild ride cross stitch

This post contains gifted items. However all thoughts are my own.

I was absolutely filled with excitement when Sarah from Love Crafts contacted me for a collaboration with the opportunity to take a look at their craft kits.
As a massive lover of a variety of crafts, it is so nice to experience having a go at the different kits there are.

When I was a child I learnt how to cross-stitch. It was one of those things my mum taught me how to do when I was going through all my surgeries on my legs.

Back then my mental health wasn’t very good either. I was going through a time where I wasn’t able to walk whilst I recovered from surgery. So I went through a lot of cross stitch kits.
When lockdown started I decided to start picking up the cross stitch kits I had started a while ago. I hadn’t yet finished these because of a general lack of time and motivation.
Over the past few weeks, I have been posting on my Instagram my progress of this beautiful cross stitch kit!
Finally, I can tell you more about my experience with this kit and what I loved. As talking a bit about cross-stitching crafts positive impacts.

Cross stitch is so good for your positive wellbeing!

A while back I wrote an entire post on why crafting is good for your mental health, here. One of my favourite crafts that I find the best for my mental health and anxiety is cross-stitch. One of the things I absolutely love about cross Stitching is how its such a relaxing and therapeutic hobby. I am completely cross-stitching obsessed recently for that very reason. I really love being able to sit down and chill out for a few hours relaxed with some embroidery things. Stitching is a craft that is so relaxing. I would suggest it to anyone who is having stress or anxiety. This is an amazing method of release. Or of course, anyone that is just bored.

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So. let’s talk about the Love Crafts life is a wild ride kit that I completed.

The link to this specific kit is here.

One of the things I particularly loved about this kit is complete unique bold style.

One of the first things I really noticed when unpackaging this kit was the threads. The threads in this kit are absolutely lush! the vibrant colours are so bold and really stand out against the Aida. I also noted how soft and silky the threads are. The threads staid smooth the whole time that I was using them. which proves they are a really good standard thread. The silky texture made the threads easy to separate and generally I just felt they looked very neat throughout.

This kit is marked as intermediate. For cross stitchers who are more experienced/confident. However, I feel if you feel confident with counting the squares and stitch spaces, I would say that you would not have any problems completing this kit!

The kit took me a week to complete. Cross stitching for an hour or more every evening.

Its not just the Love Crafts kit I love…

Love Crafts run such a lovely website as well as shop. The Love Crafts website and social media are full of crafting tips and tricks. As well as this they have interviews with some pretty amazing crafters. I definitely suggest adding their blog to your bookmarks list, as I found there website rather inspiring as a crafter!

If you love crafts how about papercraft, check out how to make 3D roses with Cricut, Here.

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LGBTQ Pride – Talking sexuality

warning: I talk about sex in this post.

Good morning you beautiful human beings. Happy Saturday, Happy weekend, and a very happy pride month to you! The world has been such a scary and dark place in the last few months. From coronavirus to the unjustified killing of George Floyd. There is so much being said in the media at the moment about pride, and the Black lives matter campaign at the moment. The fact is all of this comes under the same umbrella. It does not matter if you are black, white, part of the LGBTQ community or not, you deserve equality.

So since June is Pride moth I really wanted to take the opportunity to talk about equality and my experiences I have faced as part of the LGBTQ community.

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What is Pride month and why do we have it?

Pride month is an LGBTQ Celebration that happens Every year, We celebrate pride in June because this is the month when the Stonewall Riots that took place back in 1969. The riots happened to protest the lack of equality towards members of the LGBTQ community.

At one stage it was illegal to be found in a same-sex relationship or ‘to be gay’, People were forced to keep their feelings secret towards one another a secret. Stonewall riots were held fighting for the human rights of the LGBTQ community. If it wasn’t for those riots happening. we would not be in the position now where we can celebrate love being love, that is a scary world I would not want to live in.

Various pride events are held during this special month all across the world, as a way of recognising the influence LGBTQ community has had on the world.

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LGBTQ questions! answered 100% honestly.

What do you identify as?

I am a lesbian, simply. However, I have never really have liked to put labels on things like my sexuality. I am very open-minded and confident within my sexuality but honestly. I am a lesbian, and I would only ever be in a relationship with a female. I’m not saying that I have not slept with men, I have but I have never felt the urge to be in a relationship with a man.

How did you discover your sexuality?

I wouldn’t say I discovered my sexuality, does anyone actually discover it more than just know deep down from the start? Maybe, so for me, I feel like I knew always and as I developed into a young adult I explored my sexuality and thoughts more that I actually embraced it.
I’d been experimenting with my sexuality from around the age of 13. However, I was in my college years when I ‘discovered’ the LGBTQ community.

Who was the first person you told?

The first person I told was my cousin, who has always been my best friend. She has been there for everything and always supported me. We constantly get drunk together and chat, and put the world to rights kinda thing.
So one day I had been walking with her to pick her kiddies up from school. I just randomly dropped it into the conversation. I remember her pausing and saying ‘So are you telling me you are gay’ … ‘um yep’.
My cousin was one of the only people at the time that I just didn’t have fear to tell or open up too.

Mental health matters are so important, if you want to check out my latest mental health post, click here.

Describe what it was like coming out,

my experience of coming out was definitely different. Young and impressionable me had been involved with a girl, only for 2 weeks, who just happened to get in trouble with the police. One day I got a phone call requesting I come to the police station to make a statement against her. I arranged a time and date, as it was late.

As I walked down the stairs I realised straight away that I would need to tell my parents, So I tried to explain that my ‘friend’ was in trouble with the police and I needed to make a statement on what had happened. My dad honestly took that the worst. He forced me to ring the officer back up to say I would be coming straight away and off we went…

I was in college at the time, so on the way to the station I pleaded with my dad not to come in the room with me, I was fully capable of making the statement on my own. Well since that was never gonna happen I had to admit that I would have to tell the police that she was my girlfriend for 2 weeks and not friendship as I tried to say.

My dad’s original reaction was confusing as he said “we will deal with that later” and continued on about the police. Nothing got said for ages after.

If you’re out, How did your parents/guardians/friends react when you told them?

I have been very fortunate that most, if not all, my friends and family have been very supportive of me and my sexuality.
Previously I had thought that at times it had been more difficult for my mum to accept, but now that I am older, and see things a lot more clearly from the past recently, I think that it was not about the fact I was with a female or telling her I was gay, but it was who I was with that bothered her. admittedly I always used to think it was just being gay though.

What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality?

The biggest thing to ever annoy me is when someone ask how can the sex be the same without an ‘actual’ penis? UMMMMM. WHAT! Oh my goodness this question bugs me, you do not have to have a penis involved to enjoy sexual intimacy. I like to reply with, ‘Actually, its more intense and my sex is just as good if not better’ Just for the laughs 😉
Just because there is not a penis involved in a relationship does not mean that we are lacking intimacy.
It is all about the connection. What is better than such a deep and meaningful connection?

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What’s your favourite thing about the LGBTQ + community?

One of my favourite things that I have noticed about the LGBTQ community is the sense of acceptance to each other. There is so much love for one another within the community, a natural sense of pride and belonging. to be accepted as who you are and the support others give to each and every person. I wish all humans were the same but not everyone agrees.

Have you ever been to a gay bar?

I’m not actually a very ‘clubby’ person, but I have been to a couple. my favourite being in my home town, The Edge in Southampton. everyone is so happy and confident to be who they are in there, and there is always something going on. Karaoke, dress up and drag queen nights.

Who is your favourite LGBTQ+ Icon/Advocate/Celebrity?

I am absolutely obsessed with Ellen DeGeneres and I have been forever! She is just such a beautiful human being. The work and kindness that she has done for so many people (and animals) is a genuinely heartwarming fact I can’t think of anyone I know who doesn’t love Ellen. Ellen was known for making gay history as she came out in 1997 from the ‘professional gay closet’ and began fighting for LGBTQ rights. (read Making gay history article, here.)

Have you been in a relationship and how did you meet?

I am in a relationship and it is the most amazing happiest relationship I have been in… (I haven’t actually been in many relationships) Considering my past relationship had been filled with narcism and abuse.

How I and my beautiful Emma met is a really long story. We both were stuck in a miserable situation involving the same person, which brought our relationship so close. We are yet to even argue with each other.
The past few years We have had such an amazing time together. I can’t wait to become her wife. One day, I am planning to post the truth of one day. I could write so much that about the past. For now, I am going to answer this in short here.

The best thing about our relationship is that we were friends first before we fell in love. We have faced so much in our lives together and apart, that has made us who we are. However, I honestly would say is that the past has made us so bloody strong in our relationship. Every day I am filled with a grateful heart for our little family we have together. With our beautiful little pup.

We are due to get married soon. But I will be updating you on that soon.

Want to know more about me? How about reading my 21 things you probably didn’t know about me post, here.

Have you ever faced discrimination?

Sadly discrimination is so expected and I have experienced it more than a few times.

One particular time that I found hilarious was in the car park of Tescos. We were walking back to the car having done our shopping. I was holding Emma’s hand, and we were having a proper giggle at the time. We were walking back to the car we walked past a woman who must have been in her 40s/50s. She gave us the dirtiest look and muttered the word ‘disgusting’ at us as we were walking away.
Actually, I failed to hold my tongue this time.
I decided to clearly say in her earshot, ‘Well if she’s got something to say, come and say it to our face’… Oops!
Of course, the woman maturely reacted with some confrontational behavior, swearing at us and basically looking for a fight. Somehow when leaving we then ended up in a car standoff with us as she swore and screamed god knows what at us from that too.

Your Favourite LGBTQ+ movie or show?

Easy, The L Word. The very first series I had watched that involved the LGBTQ community.
I was absolutely obsessed with Alice, her bubbly personality, and the fact she is beautiful!

The most ridiculous thing you’ve heard about the LGBTQ+ community?

I have heard so many ridiculous ones but the worst one I had actually seen was from a facebook group (Yup I got in to yet another heated debate… apparently I like to voice my opinions when someone is being an idiot)

A discussion thread was opened in a group on facebook (which I am no longer part of). The thread was regarding the recent at the time announcement of Disney pride and the Mickey mouse ear hats in rainbow. I was disgusted to see a group of members saying that it was wrong for pride to be celebrated in a family orientated place, and that children should be shielded from the LGBTQ community until they are old enough to understand it.

It is ridiculous to say that a place as wonderful as Disneyland shouldn’t believe in equality and and diversity. No one should ever be made to feel they do not belong somewhere.

To me this is why we have so many unaccepting people in the world, they weren’t born as homophobic or racist or anything like that, they were taught to be this by people around them. People that would teach them negatively towards others, such as saying that this is not an acceptable way to be. It is BULLSHIT. We should be encouraging our future generations to know that love is love no matter what it looks like! and no adult is rubbing a relationship in a child’s face, being gay is not inappropriate it is a normal relationship just like a straight couple.

The LGBTQ+ slur you hate the most?

I think being called a ‘Dyke’ annoys me only when its been said as an attempt to cause offence but then thats because I just think, of all of the words they could of said, they couldnt of thought of something more origianl???.. Now its just a case of ‘Yep, Im a Dyke… and your point is?’.

End this on something you’d like to tell the world about LGBTQ+ Community.

Sometimes it can be really hard to stop considering everyone else, and what they may think or is someone will change their opinion on you, but honestly, this goes for so many things in life. Be yourself. hiding can cause such long term damage and no one deserves that. If someone doesn’t like who you are then whatever. Your real friends will be there still.

So that is about it…

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