How to cope when leaving a toxic relationship.

Leaving a toxic relationship is not a mess that I thought I would find myself in. However, it did happen.

It took me a very long time, in-fact years, to realise the mess that I was actually in.

Being in a toxic relationship would usually suggest that you have been suffering some form of emotional abuse. Leaving you vulnerable, you do have the strength to get through this and later on find happiness.

When it comes to leaving a toxic relationship where you have been controlled and manipulated it can be very difficult at the start of your new beginning. It was nearly a full year before communication had stopped fully. Due to the complex situation, we had been in.

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The first few days after leaving a toxic relationship are the worst.

I got 2 hours to sleep the night I left my situation. leaving a toxic relationship took me a very long time to do. Being in what was in a state of shock that it finally happened, We both had finally got away.

I sat writing lists of everything I needed to do to get myself fully disconnected from the situation I had been in. and I, of course, was in shock, the fact that it had finally happened, and I had finally got away from living in hell.

The first few days, my phone went constantly, and I felt really overwhelmed. I was finally happy, but being made to feel misery still, by the constant harassment and pleading.

The first few days, are the hardest, but it does get easier to be stronger as you stick your grounds.

Things for you to remember when leaving a toxic relationship:

It isn’t your fault.

The first thing I’d really like you to remember, this isn’t your fault. Your drama isn’t a burden and things will get better. You never choose to be in this situation.

Stop communication

I’m not going to lie. The best thing you could do right now is to block all methods of communication from the ex.

However it isn’t always that easy. The chances are you have forms of tanglement that will need to be discussed civilised.

If you are in a position where you have had to leave a relationship and still remain in civilised communication keep messages short and sweet. As well as on point of what they should be about.

Keep a log.

I can’t stress enough how important this is.

If you are having problems with abuse, threats, harassment from your ex, you need to keep a log of this. If it gets to the point you need police help a log will be really useful to the police to know exactly what has been going on and when.

It can also be a handy reminder to read to remind yourself why you have left, if you ever need too.

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Find the right support.

Having the right support around you is so important. Wether it is friends, or family, or even a virtual support group, there are places to find support in all circumstances.

Accepting support and guidance from others may help you build your confidence and attitude towards what has been happening in your life.

Speak out.

Speaking out about your experiences, helps you come to terms with them as well as find amazing support from all different avenues.
You never know. Speaking out about your own experiences could help someone who is going throug similar.

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Surround yourself with positivity.

Focus on you.

Its time now more than ever for you to be focusing on your own happiness and self-care.
surround yourself with positive things that comfort you and build yourself back up. It may take time. Your confidence may come back when you at least expect it to.

Eventually, have a laugh about it.

They do say if you don’t laugh your cry.

Everything happens for a reason in life. I believe that more now then ever. If it wasn’t for the situation I was in I wouldn’t of found true love with the most unexpected person in my life. From surviving to being able to complete each other. I know that I can’t regret the past because I would not of my my wife to be, Emma.

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Toxic habits that are stopping you from being happy.

Happy Sunday! It has been a few days since my last post! Life has been so hectic the last few weeks, and mental health has been on my mind a lot recently. With Saturday being world mental health day, I thought I would share some of the toxic habits that I have been giving up so that I can improve my own happiness.

So many times in life we are making our own obstacles that prevent us from being able to reach the level of happiness we deserve. These obstacles become habits, and they are toxic for our growth and wellbeing. Not all of them are obvious admittedly.

Making excuses.

Have you ever made excuses not to do something but really it was something that would have benefited yourself in some way. Therefore stopping you from progressing further in your life. I know I have. However, I admit that I regretted doing this so many times.

Saying yes when you really want to say no.

Simply put as stop agreeing to do things that you don’t want to do!

How many times have you been put in a position where you’ve had to do something because you could find a way of saying no.

Realising your ability to be able to say no is a massive window.

Toxic habits

Trying to make everyone happy.

I struggle with this one at times too. In a perfect world, everyone would be happy all the time. I would personally love to keep everyone happy when it comes to life. Wedding planning has been a massive example, due to postponing due to the coronavirus and having to make adaptions so that we can actually get married, I soon realised we can not keep everyone happy. It’s actually impossible there will always be someone that will feel annoyed and let down by your decisions. It is honestly remembering your own happiness and making sure your looking after your wellbeing before trying to keep everyone else happy.

Not making your health a priority.

I admit. I have learnt this the hard way. Even now I have to remind myself to stop and slow down at times. Your body often gives you warning signs before you become poorly.

By Ignoring the warning signs and not taking care of myself. And I am still stubborn when it comes to needing to see a doctor.

I used to panic at the idea of missing commitments because of my health. It was making me stressed and worse health-wise. Learning to put yourself first. Thinking of your health as one of your priorities is one of the most important things you can do. You only get one body! Look after it.

Surrounding yourself with toxic people.

Toxic people can become a toxic habit as you repeatedly allow yourself to allow other peoples behaviour to control your actions and mind. Your damaging your own self-happiness by allowing people around you to act in a way acting that brings you down.

You don’t need that in your life. Your beautiful and you have your own unique and lovely personality that the world needs to see! Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and stop accepting negative and rude behaviour.

Settling easily.

Who says you need to settle when there is a whole big world out there! Waiting for you to experience and live through new opportunities.
stop settling and work towards your dreams.

Mindless scrolling.

who else can admit they continuously do this toxic habit?

Now I am not saying that I am completely innocent when it comes to this. I’m constantly on my phone however I honestly would say it’s mindless scrolling and not phone usage that is a problem. Spending hours on your phone just scrolling through newsfeeds is doing a solo nothing for your positivity and mental wellbeing.

If anything spending too long scrolling the feeds on your phone is stopping you from being productive and living your life.

Doubting yourself.

It’s so easy to do, doubting yourself. Not being able to trust your gut instincts. But the honest answer is that you know. You know the right choices you should be making. You have the strength and ability to what what ever you put your mind to.

You just need to believe in yourself.

Depending on others.

When you spend too long depending on others you are not helping your own personal growth.
Work towards being able to support yourselves. Even if this is something that takes you longer than someone else. The happiness you grow from the feeling of succeeding in the end is the best.

Living in the past.

The past is a demon that every single human being is. I’m specifically taking about the regrets that we have and the failures we have made. It’s time to forget the negative times and start living the future. Ensuring that we learn from our experiences but we’ve moved on from them.

Comparing yourself to others.

Caring what others think.

It’s so hard at times to not care what other people think of you. But it gets to the point that we’re so worried about what others think of us that we forget what really matters. Our own happiness and the ability to enjoy life. We only get one life. Don’t waste it worrying about what others are thinking of you. Cause the chances are that they haven’t noticed your mistake, or even care if you like something that they don’t.

Not looking after your finances.

Money really is the route of all evil at times. We are driven by earning/gaining money, but were also depressed by not being able to afford what we want, having debts and always having a minus bank balance. It sucks doesn’t it?
I would suggest to anyone that they should look after their financial health from as early as they can. As money can have an awful impact on mental health.

Being sleep deprived.

I have to admit it, because I am totally rubbish at sticking to a ‘normal’ and reasonable bed time, but being sleep deprived, and not having a sleep routine is one toxic habit that is damaging your happiness behind the scenes. Although it is something I’m trying to work on.

Not getting enough sleep can cause you to be unable to concentrate fully. Lafargic and unmotivated. Which means your find yourself not able to function as well.

what are some toxic habits you would like to stop to improve your wellbeing and positive energy? Comment below what it is.

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COVID safe autumn activities

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Keep positive during the pandemic with these COVID safe autumn activities.

Oh, I do love autumn.
I know I have posted before on why I love the fall. It has always been my truest favourite season. Does anybody else get completely excited when they start to see the trees leaves changing to the warm burnt orange colours? Those are such beautiful colours. Crunchy leaves then falling to the ground making the sound of an autumn walk completely. As I said, I love Autumn.

This year really has been massively negative for so many of us. The world seems to have lost its shit this year. So many of us are looking for positive things to do, keeping life as normal as possible.

yet again we are in a position where the coronavirus numbers are rising. So we need to stay vigilant and socially distance where ever possible.

So, in this post, I wanted to discuss the COVID safe autumn activities that we can still enjoy.

The official Autumn seasons starts on Tuesday 22 Sep 2020 and ends on Monday 21 Dec 2020.

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So here are my COVID safe autumn activities I am looking forward to!

Pumpkin picking

I wanted to start off my list with something that is a favourite of mine. So to clarify, Most if not all the pumpkin farms are still open. (at the time I am writing this anyway) Pickwell Farm In Hampshire is my favourite place to go when it comes to pumpkin fields. Going hunting for pumpkins is a brilliant activity to do with your loved ones.

Pumpkin carving

Now that you’ve got your hands on some Pumpkin goodness. Try

This Pumpkin carving set we have is so cute, and really easy to use to carve Pumpkins. Plus they are Halloween festive, to help you get in the mood for Halloween.

Roast Pumpkin seeds

This is the last pumpkin suggestion! I promise! but I do love pumpkins, as they just scream autumn. Have you ever tried to cook pumpkin seeds before. They are so yummy. Especially when they have been topped with a little bit of sugar before roasting.

Welly walks in the woods

A cosy walk in the woods, with the people in your ‘bubble’ is a perfect autumn activity where it is easy to social distance. Some woodland area/parks you can walk for miles without running into another person.
Take time

scarecrow hunting

some villages take part in a scarecrow challenge, and they are completely brilliant to take a walk or drive around to find. Some scarecrow makers really do go into detail with there straw men.

A cosy movie night

what better thing to do on a cold or wet evening then snuggle up on the sofa, with your pyjamas on, a cosy blanket and the tv remote in your hand. I love to bing on a Netflix movie night, it’s an ideal, cheap and COVID friendly activity. With Halloween just around the corner maybe you could put on a horror movie!

Tip: Add some Monin pumpkin spice syrup to your latte, to add some autumnal taste.

Doing things for your self-care is so good for you, any time of the year. Read my post on why self-care is so important, here.

Watch an Autumn sunset or sunrise.

The autumn sunset, a woodland setting, over some kinda lake! Oh there are so many beautiful places to go and sit and watch an autumn sunset.

If you are not the biggest fan of waking up early you can still enjoy this by watching a sun set. However some sunrises are so beautiful that if you get up ridiculously early just once to see it, it is worth it.

Woodland Photography

if you know me you will know how much I loves photography. I do enjoy nature photography as well as creative. Autumn is yet again my favourite season to take photos though, with its warm colours. Try Throwing some leaves in the air and capture a loved one, it makes a beautiful photo.

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Leave jumping

Speaking of leaves being thrown. How about shutting out the negativity of 2020, and jumping in a pile of leaves just like the grown up child you are.

Collect Pinecones and konkers

If you decide to head out on that woodland walk! keep an eye out for a pine cone, or konker tree.

You can use your beautiful finds to either decor your house with, or even to make…

Read about my experiences with lockdown, here.

Autumn Nature crafts

Use those beautiful leaves, acorns, pine cones and konkers that you have collected on your woodland walks to create beautiful artwork and home decor to bring the fall feeling inside your home.
Pinterest has some amazing craft ideas for using natural finds.

Random fact: konkers are also known to keep spiders from your house in the colder months.

Turn the clock back

Daylight saving ends on Sunday, 25 October 2020, 2:00am. We gain an extra hour in bed! The best time of the year, when the clocks go back! a great chance to sleep for an extra hour, and gain a bit of extra energy for the day!

Bonfire night

It’s not just halloween that is just around the corner. It is also coming up to Firework night, AKA Bonfire night. Light a Bonfire, sit outside and watch the fireworks light up the sky. Although Major firework displays won’t be happening this year, you could still light off a few bangers in the garden.

The last time we lit our fire-pit we toasted some marshmallows!

Marshmallow toasting

Have you ever tried the Mega Marshmallows? Oh my goodness… If you are a marshmallow lover then you need to try these! Grab some skewers and hold these over your autumn bonfire. Then if you are feeling really extravagant, add some digestive biscuits, and some Cadbury giant chocolate buttons. Put the melted marshmallows and buttons in between 2 biscuits. You have then got smores.

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See! There are just so many reasons to love the autumn months. As the wind picks up on the colder months, use it to your advantage to find something to do.

Kites can be brought relitively cheaply, like this one, here.

Make your home autumn-ready, home decor.

An excuse to use the autumnal colour palette! Oh, and it is so pretty. Burnt oranges, reds and browns.

Light some Autumn smelling candles. some of my favourite candle scents to burn in the autumn are, Yankee autumn glow, Bad Geek Cedar and Jasmine and woodsmoke by Woodwick. Woodwick may be a little more pricey, however, the sound of the candle crackling and the beautiful scent really does make an autumn cosy evening on the sofa!

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Autumn photoshoot

The beautiful nature around in autumn really does make a good photoshoot! Grab your hat, scarves and gloves, and go find a place that you can take some warm, beautiful photos!

Organise your Autumn wardrobe

This is completely COVID safe as you don’t even need to leave the house for this one…

As we enter the fall season, it’s time to say goodbye to our summer shorts and dresses. Bring out the leggings, cosy chunky knit jumpers and anything else you may have in your Autumn wardrobe.
I do love a hoodie, boots, and leggings day. Not going to lie.

What COVID safe autumn activities will you be doing?

I would love to hear what you planed for for your COVID safe autumn activities. With how things are changing again it would be so nice to hear how you are remaining positive.

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Therapeutic craft projects to help destress.

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When it comes to feeling stressed, anxious or depressed. There is one thing that I like to do, that helps me with my mental health, Craft. Especially therapeutic craft projects. I wrote a post similar speaking about how craft has a positive impact on your mental health, here. However, I am now sharing with you what crafts really do help with destressing you.

There are a few therapeutic craft projects that if you have a go at, you may notice the calming and relaxing effect that crafting can have on you.

If your impatient and don’t like fiddly things, as they increase your stress level, I don’t think that you should give up on crafting completely.

Diamond Painting

I am currently waiting to complete this kit, here. I am excited for this one to be done and put it up in the house. Diamond painting is a great craft to sidetracks you for ages! I got so involved with the full drill kits that I literally would find hours go by before I even noticed.

Cross Stitch

Did you see my review of a LoveCrafts cross stitch kit, that I did during the lockdown?

Cross stitch is one of my favourite methods of stress-relief I am currently working on a rather large one that will eventually be ‘The lady and the tramp’ Spaghetti scene, from the movie. The repetitive motion is what helps you relax! I’m pretty certain. I always find finishing a cross-stitch project pretty rewarding as well, since it takes a while to finish some projects.

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Origami

Grab yourself some cute origami paper, load up youtube and teach yourself how to make some beautiful things out of paper, for fun! It’s completely relaxing to do as a project.

Cricut (vinyl weeding)

I love a complicated Cricut project for therapeutic craft projects! like a Mandala to weed or something like that! The more fiddly the more time it takes to weed, and I just find this action so relaxing. I often print out projects for the purpose of weeding for no reason! That’s me!

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Knitting or Crochet

Knitting & crochet I thought I would combine together because both crafts are so similar. You could attempt some knitting by buying wool and needles from the pound shop! that way if you don’t get on with it you have not wasted too much money!

As for crochet, I’ve been slowly teaching myself this one, and now I am wanting to have a go at a kit! My mum brought me the Crochet set by step book for Christmas, which made understanding how to crochet so much easier! Hopefully, I will be a confident enough crocheter to do a kit soon, I would love to have a go at making the Hooked unicorn.

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Paint by numbers

Paint by numbers, or even painting, in general, is a really relaxing hobby for distressing. I would especially recommend paint by numbers, as it keeps your brain distracted when it comes to searching for the numbers. This Cityscape took me ages and kept me calm whilst I was having a really stressful time!

Jewellery Making

There are so many different ways to create Jewellery. Whether its simple friendship bracelets, beaded jewellery or something a little bit technical. Making Jewellery is a really therapeutic way to relieve your stresses. They’re also a very good make to sell project!

Felting

Felting is one of those crafts that I have yet to master, I do however enjoy having a go. There is so many Dover craft simply make mice are so cute to start you off!

What therapeutic craft projects do you do to keep yourself from stressing?

I would love to hear what therapeutic craft projects you turn to, to help you destress when life is being hectic and crappy! As a crafter obsessed with all crafts, I love to know if there is anything else I could be trying.

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What to do on a Productive Sunday at home

Sundays in this house are either spent having a relaxing day chilling or the complete opposite where we are keeping ourselves busy. I hate feeling like I have wasted and I much prefer the feeling of achievement from a productive Sunday at home.
Personally, I get bored easily and feel the need to keep myself active and productive for the majority of the week and weekend. This got me thinking, what to do on a Sunday to stay productive.

Sunday is commonly known as a day of rest. But if you are like me having a Sunday at home still needs a few productive activities so you don’t feel like you’ve wasted a day.

So let’s talk what to do with a productive Sunday at home?

1. Having a tidy up around the house.

When you have a busy week ahead, and only the weekend to sort out your house, this may seem like an obvious one to you. However, Tidying up is really simple way to spend a productive Sunday at home! Even if you Don’t need to clean the entire house.

2. Update your planner. 📔

I know it’s the weekend and you may not be ready to face the upcoming Monday yet but one thing you could do right now is stay organised and prepared by updating your planner. Familiarise yourself with what to expect from the next week.

3. Spend some time on your self-care. 🛁

Self-care is so important, we should always make time for self-care. I wrote a post about why it is so important, here.

Making sure that you are allowing time to spend on you is something that seems hard when you are having a busy day! So Self-Care Sunday is perfect for you! Looking after yourself is the most productive thing you could do.

4. Take some time to charge your batteries. 🔋

Similar to ensure that your looking after yourself with self-care, nothing beats a day of relaxation. This is a reminder to you that taking a day off and giving yourself a break is one of the most productive things that you can do for yourself. Recharging isn’t just about napping or sleeping. It’s taking time to ensure your OK.
Recharging your energy to be able to focus and prevent you from burning out.

5. Plan your meals for the upcoming week. 🍝

I have a love-hate relationship with meal planning. We tend to plan the meals for the week for something to change or happen. So we no longer say what day we’re going to eat what.
however, we now ensure we plan at least 6 meal ideas for the week and write a shopping list of what we need so that we can buy this in the weekly shop.

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6. Set some new goals.

I say this a lot, but I do really mean it. Goal setting is the most productive and simplest way to work towards your dreams.
breaking your dreams into workable stepping stones.
by writing your goals for the week on a regular day such as Sunday will help you monitor your progress and will keep you from feeling disheartened if a goal is taking a while to achieve.

7. Make your bedding. 🛏

Washing and freshen up your bedding on a Sunday night ready for a cosy sleep. Your be completely well-rested for any Monday madness. Plus it will keep you on top of changing and making your bed regularly.

8. Read a book. 📖

I hear you saying it. “How on earth is this productive Alexa”. To be productive means you do a lot — you create or produce large amounts of something. Right?
The feeling of being productive is the ability to achieve a positive amount of work or activities that make you feel accomplished. So by either reading, a chapter on a kindle or paperback is a step closer to your goal of finishing a book! Do it.

9. Check your to-do lists.

When it comes to what to do on a Sunday, being able to complete a todo list is a pretty good one to achieve.

Is there anything you can accomplish on your to-do list that you can do? Get it done.

I continuously have a rather long to-do list to complete. Using a notebook filled with a continuous list of everything I need to do. I literally list everything so I don’t ever forget to do something like one of my main ways to stay organised. By completing items off my todo list it leaves me feeling accomplished and that I have been productive.

10. Phone your loved ones.

For a perfect productive Sunday at home do something that is going to improve your happiness and Keep in contact with loved ones and phone someone that you have spoken to in a while. Stopping you from losing touch all together.

Life gets so busy sometimes. It is so easy to let time pass and not speak to our loved ones as much as we should! Sometimes we can feel achieved and reconnected with a simple phone call.

11. Do some exercise / Go for a walk. 🚶🏼‍♀️

Get outside into the fresh air. Treating your body to some healthy exercise is a fun and refreshing thing to do. Keeping you fit and your adrenaline gets pumping. Leading to you feeling more motivated.

12. Declutter an area that you have been avoiding.

It’s time to declutter a room or area that’s starting to look a bit packed. We all have areas in the house that become a dumping ground for things that shouldn’t be there. Having a re-organise and declutter an area that has become hectic is a productive thing to do regularly and keeps it from becoming a massive job.

13. Reorganise and freshen up your workplace.

If you are like me and working from home, your work area should be your place of serenity. Even if you don’t work 24/7 from home, have a clear tidy area, somewhere that you aren’t going to avoid will help keep your work to a good standard, as well as the achieving feeling of content with your area.

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14. Set yourself some goals for the week.

Setting your goals is one of the best ways to stay productive and organised. By setting weekly goals, you are focusing on smaller milestones working towards an overall big goal. Which is how people achieve their dreams, by working there way there where they can.

Using your Sunday to write out what it is you want to be able to achieve for the upcoming week keeps you on track and motivated.

15. Rearrange the furniture. 🛋

Spend some time focusing on your mental wellbeing. Keep your home fresh and have a change around everyone and then. It’s a fabulous way of keeping your house the way you want it. Your feel like you have achieved climbing a mountain once you have moved some furniture around. Trust me there. (lifting a sofa is not easy).

16. Reorder and cull your cupboards of any out of date stuff.

How often do you buy something in the shopping with the full intentions of it being used that week? Then 6 months down the line it is still in the cupboard untouched? The chances are you have more than one item in your cupboards that have gone past there best dates and there waiting to be chucked.
going through the cupboard to cull the expired and familiarise yourself with its contents is a really productive thing to spend an hour doing when you get a chance. No one likes unnecessary amounts of clutter in their lives.

17. Get your laundry done. 🧺

when it comes to laundry, I swear we have a love hate relationship with the washing basket. I love the feeling of completion when all of the washing is done and put away. But hate actually having to do it. We seem to go through so much washing on a weekly basis! So if you have nothing else to do on your Sunday. Get caught up so you don’t have to worry about it again, well for a little while anyway.

18. Make sure you are prepared for your Monday morning.

Monday morning madness. Everything is hectic, and organisation can fly out of the window when you need it to the least.
keeping yourself organised by preparing everything that you need to make your Monday run smoothly. It does not matter what it is you do to prepare, whether it’s making lunch for the day, organising your bag or work, it will keep you ahead of the game.

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19. Spend some time catching up on your hobbies and interests. 🎨

Life gets hectic. There is no denying that. One of the best productive things that you can do for you is to spend some quality time on your hobbies. Is there anything that you have started and now got round to finishing yet? Or maybe you haven’t enjoyed your hobby in so long you’ve pretty much forgotten that it exists. Taking time to catch up, lifts your mood and your Sunday.

20. Create/update your vision board.

I love vision boards. Honestly. I am always mentioning them when it comes to setting goals and wanting to achieve things. If you haven’t created one for you now spend some time to create one. The vision board will act as a continuous reminder to what you are working towards and what your dreams are. What could be more productive?

since our dreams and goals change from time to time, make sure if you use a vision board that you take the time to update it and admire it.

21. Write down some positive affirmations

remember I spoke earlier about productivity being a feeling as well as an achievement of quantity. Positive affirmations are amazing at keeping your spirits up and reminding you why you should love yourself and how.
writing down new affirmations on a regular basis keeps your spirits up and prepares you for when you need reminders.

22. Check in with your finances

I would definitely call this productive. Not the most enjoyable or fun, but definitely productive and responsible.
especially if you are running a business and keeping track of your financial statements for taxes. Spending free time on this regularly will save you having to do this all at once in the future.

23. Sort through old photos. 📸

get your photos organised. Take the time to go through them and reminisce about the holidays you have taken and dream about yourself jumping on a plane to the next holiday!

Find a way of storing your photos that works for you and organise them for ease.

24. Enjoy a family roast dinner.

Sunday! Roast dinner day! Enjoy your dinner with your family or friends and not only are you filling yourself with vegetables which is good for you, your taking time with your loved ones. Time is precious and should never be taken for granted.

25. Get an early night!

the most productive thing you can do on a Sunday out of all of these activities. Getting an early night ensuring your fully rested and recharged ready for Monday madness.

I’d love to hear what you get up to on a Sunday.

How do you spend your Sundays? are you spontaneous or do you have a Sunday routine! Let me know in the comments below.

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What are the benefits of wearing a face mask for the ‘new normal’

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Can you believe how this year had literally been flying by considering 2020 has been a year of worldwide madness, to put it nicely? and of course, the hottest topic of 2020 has been the Coronavirus and the global pandemic that the coronavirus has caused. From being in complete lockdown to only being allowed to enter a shop wearing a face covering. So how appropriate to be talking about the benefits of wearing a face mask! since we all have to do it right now.

Today I am partnering with bitmore.co.uk and their Armor London beautifully designed face mask coverings. There are so many benefits of wearing a face covering. Especially since it is part of the ‘new normal’ life that we are all experiencing right now.

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I thought that this would be a brilliant chance to review something that is highly spoken about as well as argued about right now.

So, What did I think of the masks?

As we headed out for a morning at the arcades, I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to test the masks out properly. So I can assure you guys that before writing this post, I have tested the Armor London masks fully.

Honestly, I have been so impressed with these masks that I have been sent, the material is so comfortable. The camafolague pink mask is a cotton material that feels quite soft and really didn’t feel too heavy or restricting.

My favourite mask is the Dusky pink colour made from hemp materials. This mask is again ever so breathable. It didn’t irritate my face at all, and I even forgot it was there after a while.

The fit feels snug to the face but ever so breathable. It is actually the only mask that I have had so far that I haven’t had anxiety with halfway around a store. Which is a massive thing for me, and is really helping my confidence when it comes to face mask-wearing.

The masks are brilliant colours, with quite a beautiful range of colours and styles, as well as a range for children.

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What are the benefits of wearing a face mask?

Some of the major questions on everybody’s lips are what are the benefits of wearing a facemask. Should they really be wearing one and where?

There are many benefits of wearing a face mask. The reasons for wearing them are for our own benefit as well as other people. Although the face mask may not fully beneficial to the person wearing the mask, there is some protection as well as being a requirement to wear to ensure the safety of others.

Wearing a mask helps protect you and others from contracting germs.

The main reason behind wearing a face covering is to prevent the spread of the tiny particles that come from your mouth and nose whilst out and about in the community. Although a face mask alone has not been proven to be completely affective, alongside other methods a facemark is said to be the most effective method of prevention.

You may not realise that you are contagious.

If you were to contract the coronavirus, you may not realise that you have been affected for up to 2 weeks, before you begin to show symptoms. So imagine if you were positive for the Coronavirus and didn’t realise, for 2 weeks you then see 10 people, they then see 10 other people, and that happened every day for the 2 weeks that you do not realise you are contagious to others. The world would be heading back to lockdown again. Not that the world has fully recovered in the first place.

Face masks help the economy recover.

With everything that has happened this year, the business world has taken a really big hit. The idea of protecting the community and supporting the return to business as well as education, so that we are not suffering in the future to come.

There is very little alternative to face coverings.

Wether we like it or not, there are very little alternatives to wearing a face covering, and being vigilant when it comes to social distancing. Although there are many debates about the benefits of wearing a face mask, and if they are actually useful or not. There is no cure/vaccination to beat the covid-19 virus.

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What else can you do to prevent spreading or contracting the virus?

Washing your hands frequently.

Good old soap and water, you cant beat it. Washing your hands regularly, especially having touched items from outside of your house setting with soap and water kills bacteria that lingers on your hands. You should wash your hands for at least 20 seconds, ensuring your rub in-between all of your fingers and above your wrist.

Use anti bacterial gel.

The use of hand sanitiser gel is a way of cleansing your hands as much as possible if you are in a situation where you are unable to use soap and water. It is highly recommended that as soon as you return to a setting where you are able to wash your hands, you do so.

Continue to adhere to social distancing measures.

However much the lockdown regulations have eased, we are not back to how life was in the slightest. Instead, life is turning to the ‘new normal’ (not that we are sure what exactly normal is yet!). The virus still exists and we should be remaining to stay vigilant as the virus is still catchable. You can do this by trying to stay at least 2 metres away from anyone you do not live with or anyone who is not in your support bubble. Although it may feel like at times that some have started to get bored of the mention of COVID, this should not stop you from ensuring your safety.

Catch it and bin it!

I personally feel like this is quite an obvious thing to say! but yanno… No matter where you are if you feel the need to cough or sneeze you should ensure that you are covering your mouth and nose with a tissue or your sleeve (not your hands). Single-use tissues are the safest, as you are able to bin these immediately and wash your hands after.

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30 Creative uses for your empty notebooks!

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Does anyone else get that super satisfying feeling when you buy a new notebook? its so clean and exciting. I don’t really know how I became so obsessed with notebooks but I really do love buying notebooks!

There really is something exciting about having an empty notebook though. A blank canvas for your creative thoughts, keeping organised and just having fun in. I generally keep a notebook for everything I can.

I have been so excited to work with Old English Company. They kindly offered to send me a personalised notebook over to try out, (How cool is this! Personalised stationery!) When it came to actually choosing a colour and design it was so difficult to choose, they have so many brilliant designs.

Fancy buying your own personalised notebook from the Old English Company? You can receive 15% off of your order with code: OESPECBR15

After finally coming to a decision I choose a blush pink ‘My brain has too many tabs open’ Notebook. With ‘AlexaJade’ of course.

So to show off my beautiful Old English Company notebook I thought I would write about what you can do with your empty notebooks.

Things you can do with your empty notebooks…

1. To-do lists

Starting out with quite an obvious idea and something I’m honestly obsessed with, lists. I literally love to keep a book filled with everything that I need to do.

Something I do when I keep my book of lists of what I need to do codes each item with a symbol based on the priority of how important it is, (whether it needs to be done sooner than anything else).

2. Journal

What better to fill up empty notebooks with your personal memos. Documenting your life and expressing your feelings on a daily basis. I love keeping journals, I haven’t actually written in one for a little while, but I go in phases of keeping one and going back to it whenever I have a lot of my mind. Keeping a journal is so good for your mental health as well.

4. Gratitude log

Keep a notebook filled with everything you have been grateful in life. Every time your feeling grateful write the date is and what it is that made you feel this way.
Sometimes we naturally forget the things that we should be grateful for, so reminding ourself to be thankful is such a beautiful thing.

5. Sketches/doodles/art

Grab a notebook and a pen, and just start doodling away. Doodles are such a therapeutic activity for when you are feeling stressed and anxious. I’m always finding myself absent-minded and just filling a page of random doodles and drawings. It’s something that makes me giggle when you look back and you randomly see a doodle of something that makes you smile or laugh.

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6. Bullet journal

If you read my recent post on finding the right planner for you, you will already know how much I think bullet journals are a good idea. And you really can use any empty notebook to do this with!

7. Goal tracker

A book filled with goals and milestones is a great way to stay inspired and on track of what you want to achieve out of life. Keeping goals is a brilliant idea when you are in the middle of a project, especially one that takes a lot of work. Goals help you stay motivated and accomplished as you achieve them. It is always rewarding seeing how your progressing.

8. Meal planner

Having a Meal planner is a brilliant idea for keeping organised when it comes to food shopping and what to have for dinner each week. As well as being a great way of inspiring yourself with different meals, when you can’t think what you want to eat!

9. Letters book

This one is perfect for those soppy couples out there. Even the not so mushy couples might enjoy this. Writing dated letters in a book to each other and then looking back on these in years to come. Writing happy messages of love, memories and feelings. Sometimes you can write down more than you can say, so a letters book is absolutely perfect for this!

10. Positivity

Keeping a book of positivity is a brilliant idea to keep a positive mindset. By writing things such as positive affirmations. Have a look back at your positivity when you are feeling down, and remind yourself of all the lovely things about you, including everything you like, and what makes you happy.

11. Handwriting practice

It took me ages to get my handwriting neat and readable, I found using a spare notebook to practise my penmanship skills, so helpful.
It is a very simple idea however so useful for improving your handwriting skills.

12. Event planning

Planning an event keeping notes, ideas, and plans. I found this so helpful when I was planning surprise parties. I made lists of everything I needed to do, everything I needed to buy and who I was going to invite.

13. Budgeting

A subject I hate, well hate is a strong word. Highly dislike. Budgeting is something that we all need to do to be able to keep on top of our finances. Giving us the ability to enjoy our money as well as being able to afford our monthly bills.

14. Blogging notes

Calling all blogger friends out there! This is one for you. Keeping a blogging notebook is so helpful, in fact, I go through so many notebooks making blogging notes, including post ideas, post planning, specific blog to-do lists, keeping stat records, resources reminders and notes when researching and learning.

Want to know more about blogging, how about checking my post on how to start your own blog, here.

15. Random thoughts

Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night thinking something, then it stops you sleeping so you go to add a note on your phone… then your brain starts waking up and getting distracted so your planning on your phone now instead of going back to sleep? Well, I couldn’t tell you how many times I have. Keeping a notebook by you is not only a way of making sure you actually see the note you’ve made yourself (instead of it being hidden on your phone to suddenly remember by the time it’s too late) but it is also a way of ensuring that your not distracted and you can concentrate on getting back to that beauty sleep.

16. Learning a new language

Thinking you need a new hobby? How about grabbing a notebook and writing our words and phrases in a different language so you can become a multilingual pro.

17. Writing a story/Poems or song lyrics

Use a blank notebook to completely get creative and plot and write a novel. Who knows you could be writing the next award-winning story. Or if story writing isn’t quite your thing, a book of poems or song lyrics. Whatever you decide, your definitely fill your notebooks up with these options.

Want to improve your writing skills, read how I’ve been improving mine, here.

18. Travel journal

Are you a lover of travelling? Why not start a journal of where you have been, what you have done whilst travelling and what you loved, disliked about the trip.

19. Recording your progress

Working on projects. You could use this space to record what is going well, what isn’t working so much and how you think you could improve. It’s quite rewarding to keep record of your progress in anything. Since you can look back and see how much you have grown.

20. Christmas planning

This is something that I love to do every year! Christmas is such a hectic time and so having a dedicated place to plan is a must for me. As well as being a brilliant use for an empty notebook, or section of a project book! I honestly end up writing out so many lists, including ideas for Christmas, shopping lists, what we actually brought and for who, as well as the food planning. Honestly one of the best ways to get your Christmas period as organised as possible!

21. Vision board in a book

I love vision boards, they are so much fun to create, and so very useful to keep. One idea for using your empty notebooks is to keep an ongoing vision board in one of your notebooks. Filling the pages with inspiring things that you would like to achieve as well as being a positive source to look through.

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22. Passwords

How many times have you gone to log in somewhere and you have had to reset your password? I know sometimes there are apps and ways to save these digitally, however, it is not always the most reliable way of storing thing, as there is always a risk of losing your saved information.

23. Special memories

Journalling daily is not for everyone. Sometimes life just doesn’t give us the time to sit and write when we would like to, but keeping a book of special memories is a good way to keep down the special things that you want to remember in the years to come. Using your notebook you could spare a page per special day.

24. Shopping lists

Shopping lists are so handy when it comes to shopping. On the times that we haven’t bothered to write a list were left with a mess of buying things we don’t need, and things we don’t use. Wasting more money then we need to. So not only does writing a shopping list make uses for filling up notebooks, it helps you stay organised with the weekly shop.

25. Recording your dreams

Recording dreams is such a cute idea, sometimes our dreams tell us things that we don’t know, but our subconscious is letting us know. Writing our dreams down provides so many benefits to us. Benefits such as Reducing stress, helping us to solve problems, produce amazing ideas and learn from our mistakes.

26. Trackers

Pretty much like bullet journalling but just plain and simple trackers. you could design a tracker for anything. From tracking your habits, periods, to activities you have done. I have a book and a film tracker in my bullet journal.

27. Recipes

I love recipe books, however, I hate clutter. I like to keep all of my favourite recipes in one notebook. It is a much more convenient way, then keeping a recipe book and having to flick for all the recipes you’re never even gonna try to find the one recipe you want.

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28. Health log

Keep track of what’s going on with you. A personal notebook that no one else has to see but is so good for keeping records of things you might need to look back at later. Such as when you have your periods, you can use the record to be able to work out your ovulation as well as notice any changes.
Another good thing about keeping a health record is if you are suffering from any kind of illness, you can keep a pain record or a sickness record, that may be useful to show to the medical professionals.

29. Inspiration journal

Keep track of the things that inspire you, whether it is pictures, words, quotes. Anything that makes you feel motivated and inspired. Almost like keeping a vision board in a book. Which vision boards are really great for keeping yourself positive.

30. Crafts and projects to try.

Another new idea for a craft or project? Jot it down in your notebook, with what equipment you need to complete the project. So it is almost like a craft planner. Which is ideal for when you are stuck for something to do. Brilliant for having an ongoing list for what you are going to make. Which as a crafter myself, I get so many crazy ideas of what I am going to make, so keeping lists of projects is a brilliant thing!

How about finding ways to stay creative with my post ways to stay creative indoors, here.

What do you use your notebooks for?

I would love to hear what it is you use your notebooks for? Do you have any random uses for your favourite notepads? and better yet, do you have notebooks that are just too pretty to use, or maybe you are like me and have a massive pile of notebooks ready to be creative with.

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Planner goals – How to pick the right planner / Journal for you.

Good morning my lovelies, I hope you are all doing well, staying safe and positive. Can you believe how quick this year is flying by already? How are we in August right now? I swear only 5 minutes ago it was march and me and Emma were moving into our new house! 2020 has been a rollercoaster for us and we are only 8 months into the year! So today I’ve been having a massive think about my Planner. I am obsessed with Planners, Anyone else feels like choosing the right planner is such a big decision to make?

I love to stay organised so having the right type of planner is something I take seriously. To be honest, In the past few years my planning love has grown and I honestly keep a variety of organisers and journals ever year. However, choosing the ‘one’ for me really has taken some investigating. So today I thought I would share my thoughts on what I use, and what I know.

The happy planner

The happy planner

My current planner, and the one I am most in love with. This is a planner variety that I am completely obsessed by. No lie.
This year I have been using the Teresa Collins Happy Planner Be Happy Box Kit. Which is slightly different from the normal Happy planner that I use, with the vertical box layout.

The happy planner is fully functional for any person who loves decorating and pretty things. If you love using stickers and washi tape you will love this as an option to plan your life.

Tip: Buying a Happy Planner in the UK? I brought mine on Amazon, This one.

Check out my post with everything you need to know about the happy planner, here.

Erin condren life planner

Despite the news and negative press around Erin Condren this year, let’s not judge a book by its author.
The Erin Condren life planner Looks amazing and has so many options, however is a similar layout to what the happy planner is. Which you know I love.

I will be honest. The main reason I have not purchased the planner is the cost. Otherwise I love checking out how people use this and decorate it on Instagram.

Bullet journaling

Bullet journaling is perfect for likeminded creative souls. You create everything. from a blank Notebook too a book filled with your own designs, trackers and notes. Bullet journals are a brilliant way to stay on top of everything! Plan your month, week, and day in one place whilst adding in trackers for your habits, period cycles, water consumption. Anything.

You will need a dotted notebook layout like this one, here. Which I use and it’s one of the cheapest I’ve found so far.

Looking for ways to stay creative? Try this post, here.

Digital planning

Digital planning is an awesome concept. I love the freedom to be able to access your planner anywhere. You can start digital planning by downloading the Good notes app and downloading a planner file through Etsy or a free website. There are so many out there to choose from.
you could even design your own if you know how.however, if you don’t know how to create one there are tutorials out there that will show you.

Digital planner
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A specialised planner

A specialised planner is what I describe as an organiser for something specific like fitness, wedding, baby, travel, budgeting etc. There is even a Christmas one out there! How cute is that?
These a brilliant for really being able to plan in detail with certain things. Sometimes having extra room to add more detail about something specific you are planning is so useful. Especially if you love writing lists, like me.

Smash journalling

Smash journaling is a form of using art to express your feelings on a daily basis. You can do this in different ways as well. One option is to journal you day and feeling to them cover the writing in art. A way of relief for fustration. Your not completely destroying the words. Your adding to the words creatively by adding art on top of them.

Project life

I disputed including this one. But I do love project life. However, Although it is a form scrapbooking I also see it as a massive form of journaling because of the usage of images and writing to document your year. It’s such a creative way or keeping memories, thoughts, feelings, notes and anything else all in one place.

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Sustainable living: where to start.

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Can you imagine a life with no earth to stand on? well, let’s be straight, you would not be able to, because without earth there would be no us. In this post, I really want to focus on the benefits of sustainable living and how living a sustainable life can help save our planet.

In the past few years, Global warming has become a greater concern for all of us and has become one of the most talked-about subjects. But are we really talking about it enough?
I believe it is about time that we honestly ask ourselves, are we guilty of not appreciating what we have? the most important thing in our lives, Our planet!

Should we not be taking the time in our lives to appreciate exactly what the world has to offer. that means appreciating the birds tweeting, the flowers growing outside, the trees providing us with oxygen, the materials to create buildings for us to live in, the materials made from natural products… sand, soil, wood, water. All these things that make the world what it is. even down to that magazine, or paper you like to buy from the shop, have you stopped to think what the earth has given to make it possible for it to?

So by being appreciative of what we have, you are actually gaining by thinking about the waste and harm we are causing to our planet. There are so many different ways that you can do small things, towards living sustainably, that in the long run will be saving our planet, So why are we not doing them? Is it just us humans being lazy?

what does it mean to be sustainable?

Sustainability in the last few years as it has become a hot topic absolutely everywhere. Also known as eco friendly lifestyle. I decided to have a look at the oxford dictionary website who says Sustainable means conserving an ecological balance by avoiding depletion of natural resources.

The world we currently live in is unsustainable, There is no other way of putting it. There is an extreme imbalance between overexploitation and insecurity all over the world. As a result of this, the environment, local communities and our mental wellbeing are suffering.

So. Sustainable living. What can you do to start living sustainably?

1. Using Reusable metal or paper straws.

Sustainable living gives us the ability to save the future of our planet. Especially by reducing the amount of plastic wastage.
Most venues won’t even supply plastic straws in their bars and restaurants. In fact, they have changed to paper straws. Plastic straws really have damaged our oceans and earth. Like many things, the plastic causes harm to our wildlife.
my vote is on metal/stainless steel reusable straws. Carry these in your handbag for when your out and about.

2. Use travel mugs to buy your coffee.

This is probably one of my most favourite things. I love reusable cups and mugs. Coffee shops such as Starbucks and costa as well as many others even offer you a discount on their beverages for using a reusable mug.

I have also found that by carrying a plastic and reusable bottle is not only helps living sustainably. I drink so much more water! so my hydration has improved so much.

3. Stop throwing out old and unusable clothes and start using these as clothes/rags insted of buying new.

I’m not gonna lie. I wish I had thought of this myself. It was suggested to me by a friend on Facebook and so I tried it. I actually found this brilliant. Saving money on clothes and rags you’d normally get small usage out of. And using old clothes cut up as an alternative. Brilliant.

4. Start purchasing fair-trade labelled, or organic products.

most if not all shops have fair trade and organic options. Coop is well known as one of the major supermarkets who support this.

What is fair trade? Well, it is actually an arrangement designed to help and support the producers in developing countries achieve sustainable and equitable trade relationships. Basically keeping the whole economy going!

5. Replace dryer sheets with reusable tumble balls. OR use a clothesline.

I’m not suggesting that you can’t use your tumble dryer. However, by using a washing line in the summer, and by drying some clothes on a household dryer rack can save so much usage. Which is so much healthier for our beautiful planet.

The Eco egg is absolutely brilliant. Leaving clothes soft and fresh. You can get one, here.

6. Switch to energy-efficient lights.

Sometimes with living sustainably its only small changes, you need to make to help make a difference, Energy-efficient lights not only helps with saving the planet! but they also make a difference in your electric bill! These are awesome.

I recently brought these. Which are so bright and clear. Yet still eco friendly!

Sustainable living green plant on white wooden table
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7. Start using rechargeable batteries.

All those devices you have that need batteries in. Your always having to buy new anyway so why not save yourself money by investing in a rechargeable battery charger!

By having rechargeable batteries your decreasing the wastage you normally create with not needing to dispose of one life batteries.

8. Reuse your carrier bags or switch to long-life bags.

I get it. Sustainable living. But Sometimes you get into a shop and you have completely forgotten to bring your shopper bags with you! Ugh, the frustration because now your wasting money buying carrier bags. And there just mounting up in your cupboard because you know you don’t want to dump them. But you are not really using them again.

Using your own shopper bags isn’t just a savour when it comes to packing your shopping up and ensuring that you don’t lose it as your walking home with a hole in the bag! Cause we’ve all had that happen when you’ve had to rush around picking up the contents from a split carrier. We’re also reducing the amount of waste a carrier makes to our planet.

9. Walk to places where possible, instead of taking the car.

By getting some extra steps in and taking a walk to your local facilities instead of using a car for small journeys keeps you and our planet healthy.

Next time you are considering driving that 5-minute walk journey. Think about the fumes your car is letting out and the higher usage of petrol this trip will make.

10. Buy second hand

Second-hand buying is an amazing way to stop things from heading to the tip that still has life in them.

There Are many ways to find things to buy in second hand ways.

  • eBay
  • Local selling groups and apps
  • Facebook marketplace
  • Gumtree
  • Newspaper ads

11. Choose sustainable living beauty products

All those buds, all those make up wipes. The daily products thrown away from our Beaty routines. You can easily reduce this by using…

12. Learn how to recycle properly

Sometimes getting your head around what you can and can’t recycle had been difficult in the past. But there are so many more products that are being made with recyclable materials that most things actually can be recycled now. Living sustainably is also understanding why it is so important to look after our planet, with such things as recycling.

Always check the packaging and check with your local government website to check their rules.

13. Use washable and reusable where ever possible.

Most shops now supply refills in forms of packaging that make less damage to our environment. such as a coffee in bags, so your not collecting glass jars.

Some shops even supply cereals and other dry foods in a way that you can fill your own reusable containers so there is no wastage from a product.

Could we be doing more? What are your thoughts about living in a sustainable way.

What else can we be doing to save the world a little bit more every day? I would love to hear your thoughts below.

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