In case you missed it, back in December I posted my first meet the blogger segment with SarahTradeMark. In this ‘Meet the blogger’ I am talking about the wonderful Jack Deyes. Jack is a lifestyle blogger who is very passionate about the blogging community.
My favourite post from Jack…
Jack has written an open post on his own experiences with autism. ‘I have autism’. Jack really goes into detail about his autism, and how it affects him on a day to day basis. I feel that anyone who reads this post will gain more of an understanding of autism.
I started my blog because I wanted something that I would see my self doing for a long time. Down to me reading loads of blogs like I do today blogging seemed like the perfect thing to do
What advice would you give to the new bloggers out there?
Keep up the outstanding work on your blog and blog posts. The work you are putting in is absolutely incredible. Make sure you make your blog you’re own and don’t let anyone tell you how you should be running your blog. After all, you made your blog for you and should continue to be that way. Also sometimes you may feel like giving up but don’t give up because your blog is amazing and so are and I believe you. When you feel lost in the blogging community or something towards your blog talk to a blogger because at the end of the day you’re apart of this blogging community and we all help and support one another and that includes you.
Where do you see your blog in 5 years time?
I hope to see it continue to grow and have even more fun posts on there for people to read.
I really appreciate Jack taking part in my Meeting the bloggers’ segment. If you would like to take part, send me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
What is January other than an opportunity to start afresh! It is the time of year, that we are all praying for a fresh new start. We have the opportunity to leave any negative thoughts, feelings and experiences in 2019 behind. My biggest new years resolution for this year is CONFIDENCE. One of the biggest things for me, and I know so many others.
we’re officially 5 days into January! the big 2020. I’m currently filled with positive vibes and a hell of a lot of motivation. I can’t wait to see what this year brings. I know a lot of things are happening this year for us both. So, I’m hoping to keep this up all of 2020! this is why confidence is so important to me right now.
So why is confidence so important?
Confidence has a massive impact on our happiness, and mental health. To be honest, though it’s a sucky business, honestly, it is. It comes and goes and sometimes is never there when we really need it. Some are lucky, their natural persona is full of confidence with no issues, but it is not as easy for all of us.
So what should we be considering in order to make 2020 the most confident year for us all?
There are so many things that we can work on to help make this year go the way that we want it too. Confidence can affect the way we do things in life. I personally allow my anxiety and lack of confidence to win so often.
So today I am talking things to focus on that can help us build our confidence.
Remember your worth
This is something that is so important to each and every one of us, yet it’s also easy to forget. Now listen, You are amazing and you are beautiful. Everything about you is unique! and there is no other person on this planet that is an exact model of you! So take an opportunity to realise how valuable you really are!
Why don’t you try to make a list of things that you love about yourself! and write down exactly why you are an awesome person. Even if it includes things that appear to be silly like you like your hair or something like that. These things aren’t actually silly, there just as important to remember. Look at the list every time you feel unconfident about yourself! and let the positive vibes work its magic.
Fake it till you make it?
This is a well-known phrase, and I do agree sometimes we do just need to fake it, literally. I am not telling you to fake who you are, definitely not.
Learning to be confident by practising confidence even when you do not feel it. It isn’t impossible, and nothing is. I believe the more you fake it the more you believe in your own confidence. I also believe in growing genuine confidence! that is a key thing. We are just learning how to get there.
Find your thing and pride your self on that.
We all have something, your thing could be anything… For example Blogging, social media, craft, athletics, fashion, makeup or music, It really doesn’t matter what it is. The fact is you have a thing that you are passionate about in life. and that thing makes you awesome! you could be a beginner but you are still rocking it! I know it for sure!
Finding what you are passionate about and using that to help your confidence grow. Whilst showing off your amazing talents. We all have something that not everyone will be into or good at. It is one of the unique traits we have. We can be confident at things that others won’t be.
So whatever it is you have. USE IT. Be confident in what you are doing, and rock it like you want to.
Record your progress.
Remember the last time you looked at photos of yourself from a long time ago? and Sitting there, reminiscing about how life was then to how it is now? Do you remember how good it felt? Seeing change? Your progression is an amazing feeling and can grow confidence in your work and abilities. You are also giving yourself the opportunity to improve. Recording your progression in tasks, and life can really help. Being able to see how far you have come, and what you need to do to go further.
whether it is taking photos of your work. or recording data of what you have done! having it led out in front of you can make a massive difference to how you see your own work.
Visualize yourself as the confident person you want to be.
it is no surprise, that sometimes in life we need to just take a break. We should use this time to imagine exactly what it is you want. Growing up and experience new things, impacts our decisions. Its how we choose to act on these decisions that get us to where we want to be. Feeling unconfident can stop us from moving forward and reaching where we want to be. For example not having the confidence to attend an interview for your dream job. So what can we do about it?
Take the time to plan what it is you want out of life. Visualise exactly what you want and how you are going to get there. We may still have obstacles to face but we can plan how we are going to deal with these.
Now tell yourself that you can do this! you are confident enough! Focus on your goals and go get them. I would suggest creating something like a mood board. Focusing on what you want to achieve. You could create a mood board for any of your goals. Organisational skills can help your confidence whilst working on goals because you will feel more confidently prepared to face anything.
Doing things that scare you can build your confidence.
This may sound like an odd thing to say. In other words, why would you naturally put yourself in a position that you don’t want to be in, why? Because for each fear you conquer the adrenaline and positivity that this leads to that proud achievement feeling. The feeling of you did it, it’s amazing and leads to your confidence blaring. Your confidence will naturally grow by you achieving things that are outside your comfort zone. It could be something small, but regularly finding things that are outside of your comfort you can grow your confidence.
Treat yourself to build your confidence.
Have you ever stood in the mirror having brought yourself new clothing and felt really positive? Just by treating yourself and looking after your image and mental health, you already feel a bit more confident. Treating yourself shouldn’t be considered as naughty! It is needed, so you are looking out for yourself.
keeping reasonable goals.
One massive thing that affects each and every one of our confidence levels is a failure. When we fail, we lose confidence in ourself and our abilities. It honestly happens to us all. We all have aspirations and dreams that we want to reach, but we set our goals too high!
we need to break our dreams down into smaller goals, they need to be achievable. Goals that are too hard to become overwhelming and leads to the risk of becoming overwhelmed. Basically it all gets too much. we need to set ourselves reasonable goals and that we know are achievable. Protecting our confidence and make our dreams a possibility.
like I mentioned at the start of this post, confidence is a tricky and hard business. I promise you that I will be taking these steps this year to increase my own confidence. I believe the more my confidence grows, the more I will grow, mentally. So, what do you think? do you have any other ideas that will help our confidence grow?
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