How I beat writer’s​ block as a blogger

When you first start your blog, I bet you any money your mind had been filled with countless amount of ideas and expectations for what the blog is going to be like. Your enthusiasm at this point was at its very peak. I’m describing myself here that is exactly what I was like. I had a thousand and one ideas for what my space on the web was going to look like! and I knew exactly what I was gonna be posting, Well Kind of I did make the mistake of not keeping notes in the beginning, but I have learnt from that! believe me!

When it comes to running a blog it definitely brings you new challenges and obstacles to overcome. Honestly Becoming a blogger can be a pretty tough world to Step in to at times, but no matter what those challenges are it’s an amazing passion that many of us share. However just life so many things in life it can be pretty difficult to be 100% motivated and engaged at all times, right? For a blogger we call this writers block, or as I put it ‘no mojojo’ and it’s not really the most ideal feeling to encounter for yourself or your writing.

So it is really not always easy to have a constant flow of words, and this makes creating decent content extremely hard. I have not met a single blogger or writer yet that has said they have never encounted writers block! It seems to be a demon for everyone one! and worst yet, you never quite know when that demon is gonna creep up on you.

So what can you do to beat the beast? I have listed my ways of overcoming writers blog and keeping my content coming!

Take breaks

It’s so important to know when to take a moment away from the screen, even better get out of the house if you can. The more time you spend living the more you will find things to write about. Seriously! with every experience you encounter your ideas will blossom naturally.

Jot ideas down

That’s right! Grab a pen, find a notebook and sit and jot down all the ideas for blog posts you can possibly think of. No idea is too small!

It’s adamant that you will come up with ideas when you least expect it. So where possible write it down as soon as possible and if your out? I find useful is having an electronic notebook on my phone. I use OneNote and then copy it in to an actual notebook later.

Read more blogs and do some research

Connecting with bloggers, engaging with the blogging community and reading the content that is already out there is honestly such an amazing way of finding inspiration for yourself when your feeling a bit stuck for blog posts. Do as much research as you can about a subject and be inspired just by visiting you friends pages. It’s such a simple method of finding inspiration.

Oh! And definitely check out Pinterest for ideas. There are so many people out there sharing their blog post ideas that can really help guide you when your completely stuck.

Don’t force it!

This may sound a bit daft but I honestly believe you shouldn’t be forcing your content. Do not get to worried about how long it has been since you last hit publish. It is so much more important to make sure that you are writing about things that makes you passionate in life. When you have something you will just know because your feel so confident in your work.

Keep positive and never give up.

Struggling for ideas, not feeling motivated, having little plan can be so disheartening and if you let it can take control, so think about the reason you first started writing, the first ever blog post that you sent available to the world to see. Why did you do that? Its so useful and inspiring to remember the reason you started doing what you do! You can inspire yourself even more to be as amazing as you are.

So…

No matter where you are in the writers slump don’t ever give up. Take care of yourself before you continue to work on your blog space.

I would love to hear your ideas about how you keep yourself motivated and inspired as well as how you beat writers block. Leave your comments below.

Why I blog?

Hey everyone. I’ve seen lately a lot of bloggers talking about why they blog. So I thought it would be a good opportunity for a blog post about what has inspired me and why I’m part of the blogging community.

My first time…

My passion for blogs started back When I was in college and studying A level photography, during my studies I came across a photographer/Blogger on the blogger website called Katie running the blog colormekatie

I was really inspired by katie at the time and based some of my photography finals on inspiration from her work, within a few weeks I began a blog for my photography studies and ran this as a hobby. I stopped that back ages ago.

I remembered a few years ago how much I enjoyed the blogging side of photography and it got me researching other bloggers before I eventually took the leap and opened my AlexCsparkles blog, which I later turned to AlexaJade domain. But we’re in the same place.

One of the things that got me back into blogging is having the space to be creative, and a space to share all my thoughts and leave my own footprint on the massive world of the web. Which I think I am achieving slowly, anyway

 








How I blog…

Although I had experimented with other blogging platforms in the past I had chosen WordPress for my blogging adventure as I knew straight away that I was gonna self host, no question about it. The reason I prefer self hosting my blog is I feel there is so much more freedom in the way I run and use my blog. It does mean I am paying for hosting, as well as my domain and varies securities and extras. But it has been worth every penny so far.

I wouldn’t be anywhere if it wasn’t for my MacBook and iPad as I’m constantly on them doing something towards the blog in some kinda way.

Blogging is a real hobby…

I think when you have a natural love and passion for something you automatically give your all to this without question, there’s no postponement or fear. Just leaps of faith all round. If your hobbies bie is painting then you would need to buy paints and art supplies. So what’s the differnce when your hobby is blogging there is no difference. Minnie I’m saying that and have a million other hobbies in the background as well, so a lot of my money goes on hobbies.

The community is so amazing …

The blogging community is amazing, and I’ve never seen such a big community anywhere else. I have joined various Facebook groups that have provided support and chat for the past few months, however when I think of blogging community I altomatically go straight to twitter where I have made so many friends, been inspired by so many, and spend a lot of my time lately.

When I’m chatting to other people about blogging it’s really easy to build connections with them. The community is probably one of my favourite things, because I have just learnt so much through other bloggers, it’s unreal.

With such a supportive and respectful community my confidence has grown so much.

Blogging has given me so many goals to reach…

A bit like when I was talking about blogging being a hobby. When your doing something it kinda becomes human nature to improve on what your doing. So I’m the same when it comes to my blog.

The truth about the love triangle

We now live in a day and age of woman empowerment and how we should be striving to be a better person. In the past few years, I can finally say that I am so happy, I have a perfect life, with the perfect woman. I feel grateful to say that I have found my fairy tale ending. To be honest, if none of this had happened, we would never have found each other. So Im grateful for this.
But life has not always been so perfect.

I remember the day it all started as if it was yesterday. My phone went off. It was early and way before my shift at work was due to start. We arranged to meet at the back of my work. This would be my first encounter with her. That morning I went into my sleeping parent’s room and said I needed to leave for work early. I was going to buy some paracetamol for a headache before work. This was my first lie told to my parents, and it wasn’t the last.

A year must of arguments and confusion had gone by before I found out the truth. I wasn’t the only girl in her life. I felt humiliated, I felt hurt. I was still so young, and very nieve, at the age of 19. It is not something you wanna hear at that point, but really a teen, still a child, whether you can legally drink or not. I felt like I was mature enough to hold my own decisions and I was so wrong. Why didn’t I walk away that day?
Instead I let myself become more and more involved in a web of lies, debt and complications.

When you are in a relationship you are covered by a cloud of mist, your world is perfect and they love you no matter what, and it does not matter. But the truth of it is. It was all lies. Not just from her. The family and friends. They were all speaking constant lies for her. But why?

It took me years and years to understand where I was. I was falling deeper and deeper into a web of lies, lying to myself saying that everything was ok, and I was fine, I wasn’t. I wish I had listened to the words from my own family and friends telling me to get out. I can tell you now, when your stuck in a hole, you will not listen, because of the fear. There is so much fear behind everything. I would have saved myself some friendships and been a lot happier from walking away, but it just was not happening. But who knows. Like I said I wouldn’t be where I am today if I did. Instead, I was to busy listening to instructions from her, following whatever she said, being twisted to keep as a dirty little secret, and not understanding or valuing myself or my own worth.

I even went away to work. 2 years in a different part of the country. I admit at first this was my way of getting away, escaping. I was gonna stand on my own 2 feet finally. That didn’t work either. Little did I know, my phone would be my worst enemy for being kept, and still controlled. Instead, we ended up living together, a few years later and it only lasted 9 months. it got worse and worse. Until one day the plaster finally got ripped off, and I was finally away.

Now that time has passed, I am more than honest with myself, I made so many mistakes and told so many lies but it wasn’t my fault. I know that now. I was being controlled. A narcissist. Wow, that’s a strong word but when I looked up the definition it was all there. All the controlling behavoiurs, the minipulating, the lies told, and the money grabbing.
There were so many things happening that shouldn’t have been. I tried dropping her in it so many times because I thought it would set us free. It wasn’t us that I wanted free though. It was just me.

I hope by me telling my story that it really does inspire someone else. Be different, and do not put up with the shit that another person has no right to inflict on you. You don’t deserve the abuse, to be lied to, cheated on and used for nothing more than money. Not like me.

What I’ve learnt about blogging… So FAR.

I remember, I first started creating blog content years ago, and it was kinda this thing that I would start, stop, start and stop, and really this never went anywhere. I then started looking at other blogs and then I got so inspired, that was it, I wanted to start my own fully functioning working blog and it would work! … that was the plan and I am still working on it to this day! When I started this blog, it was a step up from the times before, I don’t actually think I realized how big of a world I was really stepping foot into. (and no I do not mean that negatively!) The addiction to blogging, The social community of bloggers, the world I was entering into, and how amazing having a blog could be. How Having a blog, has changed me, because it has. Since I started blogging, I have come across new opportunities, met new people and really opened up a massive door to enjoying a new aspect of me.

Blogging is not easy, and its not an all bliss world. So I wanted to share with you guys how much I have learnt, and what so far!

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The blogging community is massive – There is so many people out there in the world, and so many others that you can meet and become friends with. Each friend I have made from blogging has been amazing and so supportive.

Blogging is hard work – Ok so if you are thinking about starting off a blog, please do not get under the impression that its gonna be a hit success on day 1, that doesn’t really happen. Your blog is only as successful as you make it, and to make your blog really work, you need to put as much time and effort into your work as possible! I wouldn’t give up on the down days though I’ve found that at times it’s so tempting to give up! but if you give up on your dreams, they don’t happen.

Planning is important – If you are like me keeping a blog plan is important. Planning means you are able to keep up to date, remember important dates and tasks. Planning is a great way of keeping your blog going. especially when it comes to sharing your blog and gaining engagement.

You can end up thinking about your blog 24/7 – Literally, Once you start writing a blog you can end up thinking of your work constantly! It is like a full addiction, a massive passion and becomes a massive part of your life.
Now I am not just talking about the next time your gonna get to tap your fingers on the keyboard and make the next post for your readers, the more you get into your blog, the more you begin to put in, money, sweat, and tears. It is not just about the content at all, its the sharing and promoting, preparation and care.

Research is so important – I am a passionate learner! Literally. I love to learn new things, I love to be inspired by others, so that being said it probably goes in my favour when it comes to my blogging life. I’m constantly reading others blogs, pinteresting and reading about blogging, and learning off other bloggers. There is a serious legal side to some things, and I have read about how some have got themselves in trouble by doing certain things. By doing my research into what I am doing and taking interest in the other bloggers around the world, I am teaching myself more and more everyday.

Images are a pretty big deal– Although words are a massive part of blogging of course! Images are just important, and you wanna have decent images at that. There are hundreds of stock images sites, that allow you to use their images for free.
But taking your own images is fun, gives your blog a unique creative twist, and definitely gives it that personal touch of your personality.

Canava is a great app for images!

Security and Backups – If you’ve read my previous posts, you may have been reading when I nearly lost my blog. Oh my GOD. My biggest blogging Fail (you can read that here) That day was awful. I had been having a downtime and not been checking my dashboard, my site had been attacked and taken over with a virus, I don’t know what it was but I never even knew a website could be attacked with such things till that day, and so straight away I learnt the importance of backing up your work! Every single month!

Scheduling posts is a blogging GOD – When I am feeling particularly creative and inspired one day I am able to write a couple of blog posts in a few hours, and schedule them to come out online at different times. which is such a good thing as I can organize my blog better then I can organize myself sometimes?

It’s a competitive world – Have you ever heard the phrase its a dog eat dog world? hmm? I suppose a bloggers world is the same, in some ways! Each blogger has very similar goals to yours! you need to try and remember that! because you should never let a negative hit put you down on your own work!

Is there anything you have learnt since you started a blog? Like I mentioned earlier! I love to learn off others! so leave me a comment below with something you have learnt 🙂

35 things that make me happy!

So the best thing about the blogging community has to be being inspired by other amazing bloggers. Like Mxrshmarshmellows blog. Who just created a very similar post. It really made me question what makes me happy and got me thinking.

So I though it would be great to share what makes me happy with you guys.

  1. My Emmy.
  2. Bright colours and lots of pink.
  3. Coffee (I literally just got some llama love vanilla)
  4. Make up. Even when staying in.
  5. Paper craft. Whatever I can get my hands on.
  6. Seeing my friends and family.
  7. Music.
  8. Camembert days.
  9. Happy planners.
  10. Disney anything. Have I mentioned that I love Disney???
  11. Matching socks. Actually cute socks. I mean any socks.
  12. Glitter. A lot of glitter.
  13. Friends. The tv show.
  14. Going to the zoo.
  15. Flowers around me.
  16. Taking lots of photos.
  17. Unicorns
  18. Primark hauls. Probably shopping in general.
  19. Watching musicals.
  20. Receiving happy mail.
  21. Spending days just watching films.
  22. Writing my blog.
  23. Reading books.
  24. My love for all animals.
  25. Pinterest.
  26. Wearing oversized hoodies.
  27. Adult colouring books.
  28. Giving gifts to my favourite people.
  29. Pretty mugs. I’m addicted to mugs.
  30. Daddy daughter days.
  31. Summer and being in the sun.
  32. Adventures to new places.
  33. Overspending on stationary and notebooks.
  34. Blossom trees.
  35. Making new friends.

I’d love to know what makes you happy? Leave a comment below telling me.