Mental health week – Talking body image

If you didn’t already know. It’s mental health awareness week. This year’s theme is all about body image. You can read more about the Mental Health Foundation here

Body Image

What is mental health?

Mental health has always been something that is really close to my heart as I face my own struggles and challenges alongside many of my friends and family. Mental health is defined as a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being. Did you know that one in four adults in the UK are likely to have a mental health problem at some stage in their lifetime, that’s what the experts say. That’s a lot of people. So not one of us should ever feel that we are alone or no one will understand, there will always be someone that will understand how you are feeling and may be experiencing the same things.

My battle with negative body image

It is crazy to think that finally in 2019 the world is finally acknowledging that not everyone is a size zero picture perfect model. Magazines and companies are finally beginning to embrace our curves and imperfections. No longer do we have to flip through magazines to think we could never get away with their image, because it’s being broadcast more and more to embrace yourself.

But let’s face it. It hasn’t always been this way! My school years were a prime example. I grew up with twisted hips which meant I walked differently to everyone else. I needed corrective surgery to set my legs straight, but now when I look back was the surgery more a cosmetic thing? So I could be the norm.

Not just my legs, I’ve never been stick thin whether and I have always struggled to keep weight off. I get anxiety when I get dressed in the morning because I want to look perfect all the time. It’s so much pressure. Nothing ever feels just right.

It is so important that as individuals we talk to each other more than we are now. I am not gonna lie it is not always easy to open up, but it is so worth it. I often can’t bring myself to share my own negativity but one thing I do know, I am not the only one who hates her curves and wishes that I could have better skin. There’s always been so much judgement in this world. It is so easy to let negativity win and then we become depressed, lonely, and affected by the perfect image instead of embracing who we are and what we have. Anyone who tells you that they are 100% happy with their own body image, they are lying. There’s nothing wrong in trying to improve ourselves, buying new clothes and improving the way we look as long as it is you that is happy with yourself, and that you are improving for no one other than yourself.

This is me, I am not perfect, I’m not skinny, I love to hide behind my make up. But it is me, and there is only one me.

What we can do to be more body positive?

Remember that not everybody is the same

It is time to stop comparing yourself to other people. Each and every one of us has our whether insecurities but it’s time to embrace yourself and learn to be unique in a positive manner.

acknowledge yourself and any low self esteem you have

It’s not always easy and like I just said we are all different and we deal with things in different ways but this is such an important step in a journey to being body positive and learning your own self-worth.

Face your biggest critic. Yourself.

My dad has always had a famous quote to me, ‘you are your worst enemy’ and do you know what? he is right. It is natrual that you are your worst critique, so its important to learn to stop being so hard on yourself, and I know myself how hard of a challenge that really is.

Realise how beautiful you really are

Write a list of positive things that you like about yourself and whenever you are feeling low, read your list and remember why you love yourself

Practice self care

It’s so important that we look after the most important person in your life. Yourself. There is one you and you need to take care of you. whether it is being more healthy to have a little pamper evening, make sure you are doing things for you.

Set yourself reasonable targets

Don’t set yourself goals that you know you are not going to be able to stick too. If you set yourself unrealistic targets then you are allowing yourself opportunities to be negative.

I would love to hear your thoughts and feelings on body image and how this affects you, how do you keep yourself positive when you dont feel so confident?

3 Comments

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    Daisy
    May 19, 2019 / 11:41 pm

    This is such a necessary post and one I’ve really needed so a huge thank you for that. I like the list of positive things idea as self-love is so important and we always need a little reminder. I totally agree with waking up and getting dressed and just not reaching “perfection” and it’s just too much sometimes. This idea of “perfect” is getting less and less attainable as it’s just not real most of the time and you’re just left forcing yourself to be something you’re not and then just left miserable.

    Like I said, such a great post and I’ll definitely be returning here when I need these wise words drummed into me again.

    You’re absolutely beautiful too, btw! x

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    Bexa
    May 20, 2019 / 3:02 pm

    These are brilliant tips, thanks for sharing Alexa! It’s so true, we are our own harshest critics and give ourselves such a hard time sometimes. Like you say, it is so important not to compare ourselves to others and make sure we take time for self-care. Pamper evenings are my favourite and always make me feel better afterwards 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing such an encouraging and positive post, great photo too, you look lovely! <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

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    Jenny
    May 27, 2019 / 11:12 am

    Body image is something I’ve massively struggled with since I was about 17/18 and developed body dysmorphia. So this year’s mental health aware week topic really resonated with me. Really great tips for improving body confidence. It’s not easy and usually a long journey but there are lots of little things we can do to help ourselves!

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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