Mental health week – Talking body image

If you didn’t already know. It’s mental health awareness week. This year’s theme is all about body image. You can read more about the Mental Health Foundation here

Body Image

What is mental health?

Mental health has always been something that is really close to my heart as I face my own struggles and challenges alongside many of my friends and family. Mental health is defined as a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being. Did you know that one in four adults in the UK are likely to have a mental health problem at some stage in their lifetime, that’s what the experts say. That’s a lot of people. So not one of us should ever feel that we are alone or no one will understand, there will always be someone that will understand how you are feeling and may be experiencing the same things.

My battle with negative body image

It is crazy to think that finally in 2019 the world is finally acknowledging that not everyone is a size zero picture perfect model. Magazines and companies are finally beginning to embrace our curves and imperfections. No longer do we have to flip through magazines to think we could never get away with their image, because it’s being broadcast more and more to embrace yourself.

But let’s face it. It hasn’t always been this way! My school years were a prime example. I grew up with twisted hips which meant I walked differently to everyone else. I needed corrective surgery to set my legs straight, but now when I look back was the surgery more a cosmetic thing? So I could be the norm.

Not just my legs, I’ve never been stick thin whether and I have always struggled to keep weight off. I get anxiety when I get dressed in the morning because I want to look perfect all the time. It’s so much pressure. Nothing ever feels just right.

It is so important that as individuals we talk to each other more than we are now. I am not gonna lie it is not always easy to open up, but it is so worth it. I often can’t bring myself to share my own negativity but one thing I do know, I am not the only one who hates her curves and wishes that I could have better skin. There’s always been so much judgement in this world. It is so easy to let negativity win and then we become depressed, lonely, and affected by the perfect image instead of embracing who we are and what we have. Anyone who tells you that they are 100% happy with their own body image, they are lying. There’s nothing wrong in trying to improve ourselves, buying new clothes and improving the way we look as long as it is you that is happy with yourself, and that you are improving for no one other than yourself.

This is me, I am not perfect, I’m not skinny, I love to hide behind my make up. But it is me, and there is only one me.

What we can do to be more body positive?

Remember that not everybody is the same

It is time to stop comparing yourself to other people. Each and every one of us has our whether insecurities but it’s time to embrace yourself and learn to be unique in a positive manner.

acknowledge yourself and any low self esteem you have

It’s not always easy and like I just said we are all different and we deal with things in different ways but this is such an important step in a journey to being body positive and learning your own self-worth.

Face your biggest critic. Yourself.

My dad has always had a famous quote to me, ‘you are your worst enemy’ and do you know what? he is right. It is natrual that you are your worst critique, so its important to learn to stop being so hard on yourself, and I know myself how hard of a challenge that really is.

Realise how beautiful you really are

Write a list of positive things that you like about yourself and whenever you are feeling low, read your list and remember why you love yourself

Practice self care

It’s so important that we look after the most important person in your life. Yourself. There is one you and you need to take care of you. whether it is being more healthy to have a little pamper evening, make sure you are doing things for you.

Set yourself reasonable targets

Don’t set yourself goals that you know you are not going to be able to stick too. If you set yourself unrealistic targets then you are allowing yourself opportunities to be negative.

I would love to hear your thoughts and feelings on body image and how this affects you, how do you keep yourself positive when you dont feel so confident?

Sunshine Blogger Award

It’s wednesday so firstly, Happy hump day everyone! You are now half way through the week atleast!! I am so excited to have been nominated by such a supportive blogger, Latisha with her blog renewinspiration, for the Sunshine Blogger Award.

Rules for the Sunshine Blogger Award

• Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to their blogging site.
• List the Sunshine Blogger Award rules and display the logo on your site.
• Answer the Sunshine Blogger Award questions.
• Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions.
• Notify the nominees about their nominations by commenting on one of their blog posts.

Questions asked by Latisha

What do you enjoy about writing and/or blogging?

There is so much that I actually enjoy about blogging. I really enjoy writing content that means things to me, especially when I feel like my creative voice is being heard. Another thing, the blogging community is such a supportive and amazing world, and its a community I am proud to be apart of.

Do you enjoy journaling in your spare time? Why or why not?

Yes! I am a big journal fan, I love keeping a Bujo when I can (Bullet Journal) and I keep a happy planner with My daily activities and memories.

What’s your favourite book you’ve ever read?

Oh I love reading so much, how could I possibly answer this question… My most recent fravourite has to be lauren graham’s ‘In conclusion, Dont worry about it’, Its a brilliant read.

What’s your favourite inspirational quote?

‘Never let the fear of striking out, keep you from playing the game’ this quote actually comes from the Cinderella story movie and has always spoken out to me. The words have always reminded me that no matter what I should not let fear win, or let confidence get in the way. Just a sweet reminder to keep fighting for what you are trying to achieve.

What is your favorite social media platform?

It has to be twitter, for conversation and Instagram to get inspiration and keep up to date with photos, I do use Facebook but I am not a massive lover like I used to be.

Have you ever written a book? If so, what is the title of it?

No I have never written a book, but at the moment, if I could, I would. I am pretty certain I could write a book on my past experiences, even I know that would be hilareous reading.

Do you visit your local zoo? If so, what is your favourite animal?

YES! I love Zoos, All of them! but of course I have a Marwell Zoo (which is our local one) annual pass, and we go as much as humanly possible! My favourite animal has always been the flamingos, but really I love all animals.

Where would you like to travel if money was not an issue?

America! straight away, do not even need to think about that one! I would have to travel around all of the states though!

What’s your favourite sport to watch and/or play?

EEP, So to be honest. I am not the biggest sports lover or watcher. At a push, I like to watch the Gymnastics but I wouldn’t go out of my way to watch it.

Do you like to volunteer at your local soup kitchen or donate money to local charities?

I try to be charitable where ever I possibly can, A few years ago I abseiled down the Spinikar tower, in Portsmouth, to raise money for Autism Hampshire UK. I also visit local charity shops, and donate to whatever I can when I can, but theres always more I could do, I admit that.

Who supports your writing and/or blogging efforts?

My social following is still growing but I would like to think all my friends and family but I would love to know who supports me in my writing and blogging efforts Just as I would support any of them.

Questions for my Nominees

  • What made you start your blog and what do you enjoy most about blogging?
  • where is your workspace?
  • What’s your main goal to achieve in the next 5 years of your life?
  • What is your favourite place to visit?
  • If you could start a course in anything right now, what would it be?
  • What’s your favourite Disney character and why?
  • What’s your favourite social media platform?
  • when you were a child, What would your dream job be?
  • Who inspires you most in life?
  • If you won the lottery, what would be the first thing you do?
  • If you could give your life a musical title, what would you call your musical?

My Sunshine Blogger Award Nominees

So if you could please just take a moment to support these wonderful bloggers by visiting their websites and commenting on some of their blog posts that would be just fab! after all, we are all here to support each other!

Thank you again to Latisha for nominating me for the Sunshine Blogger Award! it has definitely made my day today. Hopefully, my nominees can have a smile shared also!

How being ill effects mental health

I would generally describe my personality as a goal getter, as a bubbly one, as a person who tries to carry on no matter what, I am always setting new goals and striving to be the best me I can, even when I feel down and panic. That was until the last few months, this really has not been easy. I wanted to share how being ill and having chronic pain has taken a toll on me and my mind. So this is not going to be one of my usual positive posts! because sometimes it doesn’t matter how much energy you put into a feel-good attitude it doesn’t always work as well as I would like it too.

2 months ago I thought I had a bug. that’s it, I remember phoning into work that morning feeling like I almost had a hangover without even touching a drop of drink. My stomach had started hurting and I was being sick constantly. But after a few days of constant pain and feeling rubbish, led to a trip to the hospital. It is now nearly May, and I have been off work the whole time. I feel chronically bored as well as poorly.

I have suffered from bad anxiety over the past few years but the last 2 months have been so much worse, I’m constantly worrying about myself, about my job, about what people are thinking of me, how I look, everything. It is really easy for myself to forget how to breathe and be calm. I am so good at getting myself in a tizzy, but then again it wouldn’t even be me if I wasn’t stressing over something.
It feels as if being ill has caused a spiral of mental health issues getting worse, and then it leads to what did I ever do to deserve this? Hmm.
Ironically the joke of a voodoo doll that may be somewhere is becoming more and less of a joke! I think I better do some research into that hey!

We are very lucky in this country to have such an amazing NHS that we don’t even pay for, but I do wish they would be able to sort me out a lot quicker! There is so much waiting involved when your undergoing investigation for something being wrong with you. The waiting is the draining part. I feel so emotionally drained. I suppose they call it a patient for a reason hey?

My energy is poor, my concentration is pretty non existant, and as for enthusiasm, well there is none.

There are plenty of good things in the works for the future and I know that so it is nothing to do with my life or lifestyle, it genuinely is about the constant illness and chronic pain that is making me so much worse. Anxiety is a major ware on someone, and I really do wish that others would also understand how just because someone can look OK, does not mean their mental health is.

Thinking about the ’90s

I was born in 1992, therefore I am a 90s Child and the ’90s were the best, so when I found this on thesmurfygamersblog and literally within minutes I was remanicing, I knew I needed to do a similar post, this tag is because I still love the ’90s now!

So here are the questions! and they are fab!

1. Favorite Disney Film?

Seriously? Im not sure I can answer this question, Only because I love all disney films and characters so it is impossible for me to pick!

2. Favorite Music Artist?

Ok it has to be the spice girls! They were still at the top as I was growing up! and I loved all their songs! I even still own their video somewhere at the parents house.

3. Favorite Sweets?

My Favourite sweets was Rainbow Drops, those little colourful almost like rice crispie things.

4. Favorite Game? ( Board game/school game)

Buckaroooooooo!

5. Favorite McDonald’s ‘Happy Meal’ Toy?

The TY bears, all the different animals you could get, I had a mini lobster for ages in my school backpack!

6. Favorite Book?

This is a toss between the Tracy beaker series and The Princess Diaries books.

7. Favorite Clothing Store?

GAP

8. Favorite TV Show?

Sabrina The Teenage Witch!

9. What Show Would You Watch After School?

All of CBBC. Goosebumps!

10. What was Your Favorite 90s Game Show?

I actually don’t think I had one?

11. Did You Own A Virtual Pet?

Yes! of course, who didn’t have a Tamagotchi as a kid?

12. Favorite Video Game And System To Play On?

I didn’t really play many video games/systems! But I did have the Pokemon Pikachu edition of the Game Boy Colour!

13. Weirdest Fashion Trend? 

those colourful bands, that had a million silly meanings, that no one really cared about. They were just pretty, lets face it.

14. Favorite Toy?

My Betty Spaghetti collection, and Polly Pockets!

15. Favorite Nickelodeon Show?

Rugrats!!… and it still is!

I could write so much more that I loved about the ’90s, Like Groovy Chick bedding, mood rings, and Kennan and Kel runs.

What do you guys remember about the ’90s? What were your favourite things?

7 must have apps for bloggers

Generally,  we spend so much time using our mobile phones. Phones are not just phones anymore, they are more like mini personal assistants. As a blogger, if we are not tied to the computer the chances are we’re steaming from the iPad or phone, or maybe that is just me?  Whether it is checking social media, reading through a million emails,  which I as a person can be quite bad at doing, It is probable that it is blog related in some form. 

So what apps are best for blogging? Well, these are my top 7 personal preference, these apps I connect to me promoting and building my blog. 

Canava

This had to be my first mention, because Canava has literally become my favourite app for making blog graphics and logos! I also find it useful for some of my other hobbies (I’ve recently been using Canava to make labels for penpaling) Canava is great and has a wide range of stock photos that you can use and include on your blog, and their is a free version. It is deffintly worth checking this one out.

Twitter

Have I mentioned how much I have fallen in love with Twitter recently? I use this alot more then I do facebook, and I have met so many friends and learnt so much through the blogging community just by being on twitter. not only the massive community and support that being on twitter has given me though, Twitter is great for promoting your work.

This graphic also made on Canva!

BlogLovin

I am still a new user to Blog Lovin! but I am loving this more and more everyday!

Pinterest

I am often saying ‘Pinterest is life’ Im constantly inspired by others, and I am able to share my own pins promoting my ideas with links to my blog, Its a social platform heaven. I would suggest to any new blogger to take a look into pinterest in a heartbeat.

WordPress

Depending on your blogger platform you should definitely have your blogging app installed to your devices, this will keep you up to date with your blog constantly, and does not really need a big explanation for being a top app.

OneNote

When I do not have one of my many note books to score down my thoughts and blog ideas for later, Im using OneNote? Now Why would someone who owns a million notebooks need a digital one?
I have One Note installed on all devices, I keep digital back ups of most of my notes, and I always try to use One Note when Im out somewhere where I don’t have access to a pen and paper, After all you never know when your gonna have a brain wave. If your not a massive stationary fan, then you definitely need to consider OneNote for blog planning.

Hoote Suite

Finally Hoote Suite, This is a great app for scheduling content to multiple social media accounts. I’m also a fan of the calendar view that this app had to show when your posts are scheduled for!

What apps do you use to keep your blog on its toes?

10 reasons to love April

Since I have been feeling really down with the constant illness and chronic pain lately, I thought it was about time to give some reasons to feel a bit happier, so today I am an irritated girl who is trying to be a little bit more positive this month!
Admittedly it has been a really rubbish time, and it feels like our main adventures out lately are to hospitals and DR’s surgeries until we find out 100% what the heck is up with me… Anyway, I am not moaning I am being positive and since we are still at the beginning of April (pretty much anyway) I wanted to share with you guys 10 reasons why you should appreciate this fabulous month!

Summer is just around the corner!

Fresh start month – I am not 100% sure why, but I have always thought of April as a month of fresh starts, apparently, I am not the only one. we are now 4 months clear of the Christmas season and its a few months of enjoying the sun and the happy season before we prepare for cold winter months again! The first day of spring has now been and its time for a spring clean, mentally aswell.

It’s April Showers – I’m not saying that the fact it is raining a lot is amazing but, does anyone else get the drip, drip drop little April showers song go through their head constantly this month? I do! it is stuck in my head all month every time I hear someone say ‘Oh it’s raining again, April Showers’ … I must watch Bambi. I love Bambi.

The month of yellow – I literally think that one of the first things I associate April with is the colour yellow, and I am really loving this colour right now! The month of yellow, and the month of Daffodils (see what I am saying there?).

Pastels – Ok I may have already mentioned colour just now but this bit is slightly different, I love all pastel colours and there are so many new things in pastel! which I always love pastel colours! Easter spills lots of this because pastel colours do feel very springy! 🙂

Nature is coming back out – The cold winter months will soon be behind us, and already this month we have had some beautiful sunshine filled days. I have especially noticed that on the farm the wildlife is all coming out of its hiding and the deers are back running around the fields at dusk. I absoloutely love playing spot the deer.
It is not just the animals either. I LOVE blossom tree’s, and they always start blossoming this month, they make me super happy.

So Pretty!

New financial year – When life gives you lemons, make lemondae. For some people, I’ve noticed a lot of chat how April is a big money month for them, so everything is a little bit tighter! I know that this is the same for us this month! but oh well. April is the start of the new financial year, so let’s use this as a positive? New year 😉 New me kinda thing.

The clocks went forward – YES! at the end of March, our clocks went forward! now If you love summer like me its more exciting that we are gaining light and sunset is getting later, rather then thinking you lost an hour sleep that night!

Sunset on the farm

Its Chocoholic heaven – It is so hard to say no to some chocolate in April as its nearly Easter, be it a little late this year. Pretty hard to resist when you are going to slimming world! so far we’ve been pretty good! but I can not wait to get my hands on a chocolate egg!

The Sun is coming – Slowly but surely the summer period is just around the corner, and OK so we are not in summer yet! and already I have said why are people wearing shorts already? Its hardly boiling, but the sun is out, the sky is bright and peoples moods are lifting. I love this time of year when you are slowly saying goodbye woolly jumper.

Happiness – Last but not least one thing I love about April is no matter what is going on, or how rubbish and down you are feeling, April seems to bring in some happiness to the year no matter what.

What do you love about April? I would love to hear what makes you smile this month?

My Sugar & Sloth package arrived!

Does anyone else get super excited when your orders finally arrive? I am literally like a little kid that’s on a sugar rush when I know that the postie is bringing me something good. I had only been waiting a few days but I was super excited when my big box came, from Sugar & Sloth I ordered a mug, a Notebook and a Mystery box from Sugar & Sloth and I am so glad that I did…

So the best part of any parcel is the unwrapping! this box did not let me down and kept me excited as I opened to see the contents. I literally love the effort that seems to go into packing my order up from the seller, Anita Perry. I would definitely suggest following her on Instagram as well here.
The box was filled with confeti, and included a sticker and a postcard with details of the store. Nice touch.

I love how each item has so much personality! and they definitely suit my personality! The store sells Bright, colourful, cute, and unique mugs, pins, jewellery and clothes, as well as other stuff. U

Inside the mystery box which you can buy for £12 online on her store, includes an enamel pin, and a mug which you can either choose the sweary or non-sweary kind (a pretty good idea that). I don’t have a cat, and this the mug was from the mystery box! so I probably would not have picked this one myself, BUT that being said I do wish that I had a fuckton of cats so it is still a suitable mug for me! Not to mention that it is super cute!

I literally couldn’t pick my favourite item from this order if I tried! I really love the enamel pin, and It will so be going on my notice board with my seemingly growing collection on pins that we have. Stationary and mugs all in one place though? Seriously very cool items.
I especially love the Anxiety mug and notebook. I really think I need a pet Gnarl whale in my life as it is.

I can’t wait to see what Sugar and Sloth bring out in the future! I will definitely be ordering again and soon.

Do you have a favourite shop that you love to order from? where would you suggest getting a mysetry box from?