How getting a pet has had a positive impact on my mental health.

I previously wrote a post looking back on 2019 here. One of the best things that had happened was bringing Bella home. She had her 6 month birthday on the 25th December, and by then she had been in our life over 4 months. So today I am talking our pet Bella and how she has improved my mental health and Emma’s.

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We had talked for absolute months about how we needed and wanted a puppy in our life’s, but it was something that we were going to do when we got our own place. However, we decided in the summer that we couldn’t wait for any longer. Especially having puppy sat for a beautiful pup for a friend. It wasn’t until we actually got Bella that we realised how much of a big difference to us she had made.

Bella is a Jackawawa. We have had her with us since she was 8 weeks old. In fact, I am pretty sure she may have even been slightly younger than 8 weeks. when we first brought Bella home, she was TINY. I literally mean the size of a sky TV remote.

Having a pet can boost your confidence and reduce anxiety.

From the day we brought Bella home with us our life’s changed straight away. She is our little fur baby. Both mine and Emma’s anxieties started decreasing majorly. We had a new and positive focus, and it is still like that to this day.
When I am feeling stressed or anxious for whatever reason, Bella comes and gives cuddles and licks my face making me laugh. It must be true that a pet really does feel our emotions and tensions.

A pet is not just a pet, they are family.

Just like other fur baby mummies and daddies, she is part of our family. Bella is not just a pet to us.
We know we are not alone either. I see so many people treat their pets as if they are human! Honestly.
I am definitely not ashamed to admit, we are there with them.

Positive memories with your pet.

So many photos have been taken and so many memories have already been made. We haven’t even reached a year yet. Her first feed with us, Her first trip into the garden, Her being a manic, her first bath and so many more.

All of these memories are special. We have taken so many photos! Bella even has her own Instagram page here.

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Pets help routine.

Almost like owning an alarm clock. Having a pet definitely changes and defines your routine. When they wake up, it is pretty certain they will wanna wake you up too. Your pet doesn’t care what time it is or if you want to laze in bed that day because they need to get up and get outside to do their business. Especially with dogs.
Dogs and other pets seem to have this ability to know their own routine inside out! they know exactly when it is their dinner time and when you are going out and coming back. Almost like they can read your mind. Since we got Bella we wake up a lot earlier most days to make sure she’s ok.

They just bring natural happiness.

I honestly just have to look at Bella, and I find myself smiling. Her little face. Her cheeky attitude. I absolutely adore her. Which, just makes me feel so much happiness. She is totally our baby girl, and she is precious to us. I would honestly say that she just naturally ups are mood, making us feel happier on a daily basis. Which is so good for your mental health!

Everything that I have written here today is my own personal opinions and experiences, so I would love to know if you agree or feel the same when it comes to pets. Leave a comment below.

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Selfie Queen? is it such a bad thing? Reasons to Love your selfie.

It once truly annoyed me to the core hearing a comment of “I don’t think your shy look at all the selfies you take” HAH! What a thing to say? To be honest, at the time I almost wanted to scream back at them, you clearly don’t know me very well. I started questioning how they got that from a selfie?
I actually have anxiety and a severe lack of self-confidence in reality, and it is something that I am constantly working on! but on the upside, at least I must hide it well.

Anyway, it did get me thinking. In this day and age, all of us take Selfies. Is it wrong to believe that we are benefiting from taking a picture? Not just for the laughs and the giggles.

A reason to grow your confidence with a selfie.

How many pictures did you take, 5? 10? 100? but when we have shot it! oh, it is a fantastic feeling! A good selfie, a decent picture of ourselves. Suddenly our inner confidence is singing! we feel a buzz and we are smiling because we look great! and its Instagram ready! What a reason to smile.
My birthday was Monday, and I went out shopping, came home with some pretty lush new clothes! A new cardigan I received for a gift, Fabulous tops and some really cute new shoes. I had been so excited to start wearing the new things I had, that I automatically was taking pictures to share! my new clothes, the confidence! I wanted to show it off. I felt confident.

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OH! and I got my nose pierced!

Confidence is a big thing for me this year as I continue to challenge myself in order to grow. I wrote a post on confidence-boosting here.

Realise how you have changed

With absolute thousands of photos on my phone, I am often having a flick back through them. Looking at memories, reminiscing on the good times. Seeing how I have changed throughout the years.

If you realise how much you have changed over the years it really can be inspiring. To see how far you have come, how your looks have changed! maybe its a really bad hair picture that you now keep you to remind you never to do it again! I’m sure I am not the only one to think to myself what on earth was I thinking when I tried dying my hair that stupid colour? yet alone the childish choice of tops I’ve had in the past. However, this is totally what I am on about! we improve, grow and change on a daily basis. The importance of remembering our past is so great because the past is what made us who we are today.  

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Taking a selfie is fun!

I am sorry, but taking a photo! adding a filter, maybe one that makes you look like a dog or a man! Yep, These filters exist and they are hilarious!
So many people are on Snapchat these days! the app that is completely designed for having a laugh with your friends.
Again, we’re making memories. The time that So&So texted you a funny video of them as a cat, telling you something in a squeaky voice.

More pictures with our friends.

When I was a child at school I didn’t even own a mobile phone for most of it. When I finally did get a mobile, it was a Nokia 310. Er yeah, one of those brick phones, you could play snake on, but nothing else.
Then when mobiles even did have cameras on them, they were really unclear crap photos.

These days we can take an easy and quick picture of you and your group of friends. In fact, it is the main thing to own a selfie stick for! so you can get as many of your friends or as much of the background in the picture as possible. We now have the ability to capture memories and experiences so much easier. So can you really blame anyone for wanting to record their life?

Finally, a selfie isn’t just a selfie…

A picture says 1000 words! A selfie speaks your personality and emotions all in one.
I really don’t think taking a selfie is as vain as it makes out to be!

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14 ways to say I love you without saying the words.

Valentine’s Day being a few days away now I thought it would be the perfect time to talk about ways we can show affection to are loved ones without using words. Each and every love is unique to that Couple. The way they express love through a variety of ways. Over time, we learn just about everything about that person. how they like their coffee or tea. What their favourite tv show is, where they love to spend the most time, even down to their insecurities.

Sometimes we forget that love comes in so many forms and that not every couple shows their emotions and feelings in the same way. age. I am a verbal person. I like using words to express myself. However, my significant other is not. He is more “action-oriented” when it comes to expressing his feelings. Figuring out which method your partner uses to express him/herself is helpful, but there are many small ways we show our love for each other without actually saying “I love you.”

Love is simply one of the most powerful emotions that we all feel from the minute that our lives start. love begins when we are born and love our parents, one of the many types of love that we will experience in our lives.

What is love to you? An expectation of what you need to find, an expression of how you feel or a fairy tale ending.

The world of love is such a complicated experience that we all go through, and when we find the one the words ‘I love you’ never seem enough.

How can you say I love you without actually saying the words?

There are so many ways to express your feelings and devotion to your partner. I would also say that you can express your feelings to your family and friends in some of these ways too.

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I’m lucky to be in love with my best friend

Write a list of the reasons behind your love.

It’s fair enough to be in love. But to explain why it is you are in love with that person is so valuable. Writing a list of exactly what makes your heart race when you see them, and why they matter to you so much. I’d even include the smallest things because sometimes the smallest things are hugely appreciated.

Plan a low key romantic date.

You don’t need to spend hundreds of pounds on fancy. Love is about enjoying the time together with the other person. It really is not about how much is spent. My favourite time is when I and my Emma are sat enjoying a film night together, with our favourite food. It doesn’t even need to be at the cinema.
Fairy lights, Candles, A DVD, popcorn and wine. The perfect ingredients to a romantic night in.

Make a playlist of songs with meaning.

This is like one of the cheesiest things ever, but amazing. Music speaks so much to our emotions and expresses things without needing to say them. So what better then a playlist created especially for them?

Show your love with actions, not words.

Sometimes hearing the words I love you isn’t actually enough. Saying it is one thing but proving your feelings with actions and displays of affection is a completely different ballgame. That feeling of love that rushes to your tummy as they grab you and kiss you for no reason, but that they want too.
For example, the first time Emma went to the shop without me and got me a meal deal exactly what I picked, I knew that the thought was everything. So, I say it, It is true. Actions speak louder than words.

Be the listener that they need.

Nothing speaks love more than listening. Something that may not be important to you is probably a really big deal in their eyes.

Being heard is so important. I would actually say that listening and hearing are slightly different. You listened to there day at work, they had a crap day. But did you hear what was said? The emotions? The feelings? Making them feel like what they are talking about matters means a lot. Feeling unheard can lead to feeling lonely and negative. This could simply ruin a relationship and quickly.

Make a sentiment of love book or box.

I love these and as a scrapbooker, I totally am a sentimental hoarder! Well, What I mean is a hoarder of the sentimental things! Does that make sense? Hm. In my boxes, I keep all the silly things, that aren’t actually silly to me. Tickets from places we have been together. Things like that. You could put whatever in your that reminds you of them. Then take the time to look at it together.

Switch off and be totally there.

We can all admit that our devices really can get in the way of reality in this day and age. Since smartphones and apps were created we spend more time using those, then we do each other. Spend a few hours together with your phones and tablets out of your hands! or even off! Enjoy just the time together without being disturbed!

Pay attention to them.

There’s nothing worse than feeling like your efforts are being wasted and going unnoticed. Ensuring your paying attention shows your love for someone. Just by noticing the little things sometimes, like when they have done something slightly different to normal can go so noticed. Ironically.

Make them your first priority

Whether it’s the beginning of a relationship still in the phase of bonding Or a fully committed relationship where your living together, and Have married. Feeling that persons number one priority is such an amazing feeling, it is unreal.

I once wrote a post about being in a love triangle here. Nobody ever wants to feel second-best in life.

Flirt

The rushing emotions that we feel when the one we love flirts with us are so amazing. Butterflies rushing to our tummies, and let’s be blunt. The automatic horniest feelings. Your excitement, because you are feeling sexy, and loved. Flirting is the most visual way to show your love to another. it doesn’t matter how long you have been together. Every person enjoys a good flirt.

Be willing to compromise.

A true relationship has compromises, and the willingness to compromise. It is not all the time that you are going to agree with your loved ones. By showing the willingness to compromise in different situations shows the ability to understand that person. Compromises can be small or large, but they do make a massive difference in every relationship.

Appreciate them.

To be honest, Appreciating someone is similar to paying attention to them, but also very different.
Have you ever put so much effort in something, that you are so proud of. Then you feel knocked down just by having your efforts ignored. Remember that feeling? Why it upset you? why you didn’t feel like it was fair. Maybe you felt ignored and unworthy. This is the feeling of being unappreciated! And let us be honest, It SUCKS. It is the exact feeling that you are giving to your loved ones when you don’t appreciate them. Something big to think about there, hey?

Leave them happy notes to find

This may be cheesy! You can call me soppy. Being proud to admit that I am a romance lover.

It can’t be helped, I enjoy leaving Emma random notes telling her that I am thinking of her, or little jokes, or even love messages around the house. I even used to leave them in her lunch box. Just something to show my feelings, and make her smile.

Write a list of reasons why you love them.

Get a pen and paper and write a list of as many as you like. Write all the reasons down that makes you feel the way to do. Like the way they smile, the way they do certain things. Etc.
Knowing the reasons why they feel the way they do make those reasons even more special.

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January 2020 – wrapping up the month.

January is known for being the longest month of the year. The excitement of Christmas and then the January sales. Then there are all the January bills. Bigger bills than other months. So we pretty much go all of January skint. Every single year.

This January has been no different for us. We have spent most of the month completely skint. Which is no fun at all? However, even though January has been a month with no money, Emma and I have had the busiest month ever. Therefore it is the first time January has ever flown by. For me anyway.

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BIG news

At the beginning of this month, we began a scary and incredible journey! It started off by house hunting.
We have known for a long time now that this would be coming up this year, that we would be finding our own place to live. Unfortunately, there is no option to stay where we are. We currently live on a farm that is being sold for housing. Really sad, because this place is beautiful and I love living here.
It’s absolutely horrible watching the builders tear up the grounds which has already been happening for months.

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So at the beginning of this month, I and Emma set off to a couple of estate agents. Before we knew it the whole week was booked with appointments to see varies different houses. By the end of the week, we were knackered. but we had decided there was 1 specifically we wanted a second viewing on.

It is the house we have chosen. It really is beautiful, inside and out. The seller wants a quick sale as well. The house has only been lived in for 6 months. Meaning its pretty brand new. especially being a new build.

We are hoping that we will find out a date this week, we’ve started packing, and buying new furniture. Believe me its so bloody exciting! I can not wait and neither can Emmy! I’m pretty certain once we have moved in I will do a blog post with lots of piccies.

Another thing that happened this January…

This is something that really grits my teeth. So I am taking the opportunity to name and shame on my blog.
Back in march last year we paid the deposit to our wedding venue. The Botleigh Grange Hotel. As you can see from the website they have now gone into administration. There is a news article here.

So after much back and forward, frustration and many tears on my part. We have secured a new venue for the same date! Great, right? the only thing is we have now lost £1000 on the deposit of a wedding venue we cant have.

Ironically we did receive an email from their admin team saying that they are trying to seek out a buyer and what are our intentions for keeping with the venue for our wedding date. I can assure you guys that I have emailed back demanding to be put on the creditor list.
Firstly, who in their right mind would stay with a venue at the risk of spending more money to have stolen from them, which has closed? If someone knows the logic in this please share! I myself am gobsmacked! But of course, this does leave us confused about what will happen next. They never responded to my email. Great communication. (Sorry but it is hard not to be sarcastic about this).

I am pleased that we can now move forward with the wedding planning. So we are very lucky to have been in a position where we can put a new deposit down. This does not change the upset on the bad treatment from the Botleigh Grange.

That’s enough for one month!

So that has been my January! Hectic, emotional, busy and more ups and downs than a rollercoaster. If this is what its gonna be like this year, I can’t wait to see what next month brings!

January Posts

Confidence building. How to bring confidence into your life in 2020.
What I am changing in 2020.
Meet the Blogger – Jack Deyes
Cricut Crafts – 3D flowers in 5 simple steps.
Crafter life – you know you are a crafter when…

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Crafter life – You know you are a crafter when…

When you’ve been into crafting hobbies as long as I have, there are some real tell signs that you have become a crafter. I thought that it would be a funny idea to list the signs that you know you are a passionate crafter.

You know you are a crafter when…

♡ You can’t just work on one project at any given time. You have about 10 or more on the go, but that’s ok. Your finish them all one day.

♡ When your crafting you lose all concept of time. You are literally in your own world and reality doesn’t matter.

♡ You don’t particularly like to tell anyone how much you spend on crafting supplies because you know they would not understand it’s needed not wanted.

♡ And speaking of your stash…no one needs to know just how much stuff you have. You’ve learnt how to Tetris your stash so you can fit more.

♡ You spend more time scrolling through Pinterest more than anything else.

♡ You always keep the door to your crafting space shut because, well… it’s one massive creative mess. But that’s ok it’s your creative mess and your desk is just how you like it.

♡ Trying to clean your crafting room is pretty impossible and the problem is always the size of your crafting room. You don’t have enough space and you probably never will.

♡ You own more embellishments then jewellery and you love all of them so much. So much so that your collection is still growing and your reluctance to use some things because you are waiting for the perfect project.

If that wasn’t enough, I have more…

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♡ You subscribe to crafting and homemaking magazines . . . You then scrapbook your favourite magazine pages.

♡ You believe that there’s no such thing as too much glitter. In fact, it’s everywhere. Including the floor.

♡ You don’t throw away ANY scraps. Honestly, who would do that? You might need them later.

♡ If someone asks, “Where did you get that?” and you get to say, “I made it,” You are unable to hold back the proud exciting feeling in your voice.

 ♡ You don’t understand anyone who thinks that storing their photos on their computer or on social media is “good enough.” It’s just not the same, no way.

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♡ You frequently see things at the store and think, ‘I could honestly make that myself for hardly anything’

♡ Using your favourite crafting materials to create a gift for someone else is slightly heartbreaking.

♡ Your passion for the craft is constantly growing and the list of future projects you plan to do is never-ending.

♡ Your hands are covered in cuts from blades and scold from hot glue guns, but it was worth the pain and tears.

♡ If you are a vinyl crafter. You find that you get it everywhere. Even in your hair. Or maybe it’s even stuck to your face for hours before you even realise.

♡ When you pack for a holiday, the first thing you pack is your current crafting project.

♡ you own scissors, glue, and plenty of variety of tape. Yet when someone else needs them, they’re never around.

♡ your dreams consist of craft friends. Well, my friends, I mean tools (I’m honestly hoping I am not alone)

Fact – Crafting is so good for our mental health! I wrote a post about this, here.

If you are a crafter or have a passion for arts etc. Let me know in the comments what else gives us away.
Also, be sure to check out my Instagram corner for craft here.

Cricut crafts – 3D flowers in 5 simple steps.

I am really excited to be sharing my first of hopefully many more craft how-to posts, especially when it comes to the Cricut. I recently shared an Instagram post of a shadow box I had filled with 3D flowers, and a few people have inspired me to write by asking how to make these.

You may of reading my post recently about my excitement of being brought the Cricut explore air 2 recently, why I think the Cricut is any crafters best friend.
my opinion is still so strong on how much I love this crazy crafty machine.

Since I have been playing around in the world of Cricut I have absolutely loved creating shadow boxes full of colourful 3D flowers. As much as I love playing with vinyl, this is one of my favourite projects to do. These flowers are so very simple to make.

What you will need:

  • Card stock
  • hot glue gun
  • Your Cricut
  • tweezers

The time needed to make:

depending on how many flowers you are intended in to make. I would allow a few hours for this project. Individually each flower takes approximately 5 minutes.

Step one:

Cricut mat, 3D flowers

You will need to print your flower swirls from the Cricut projects. You can use the flowers guide that’s available in the projects here. I have opted to only print this one of the three in the project as it makes rose flowers, which is my favourite. For this shadow box, I have used A4 card stock, and fitted 6 swirls to a sheet, this did result in the flowers being quite small, however, you can make these any size that you like. Why not try experimenting with sizes?
If you don’t own a Cricut you could try making a stencil and cutting these out with scissors, unfortunately, it will take some time though.

Step two:

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Remove the excess paper from your rose swirls. So that you are left with just the cut-outs… now it’s time to turn the swirls into flowers! I keep a craft knife by me ready to cut anything that may not have cut completely with the Cricut. It depends on the thickness of the card most of the time.

Step three:

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I prefer to use slim tweezers to start turning. Grasp these to the very end of the swirl. (Leaving the centre bit for last) twist the card around the tweezers basically rolling up the card until you read the end.

Step four:

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Once you have finished turning your swirls, You will need to position the centre at the top so that you can secure your flower together.

Step five:

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Add a pea-size amount of hot glue to the bottom of your flower and press this down with your fingers for about 20 seconds…

My top advice would be to be careful with your fingers. I have burnt my fingers making roses many times.

What to do with them…

there are plenty of things you can use these beautiful flowers for. As I mentioned before my favourite is a shadow box, and then vinyl on the glass. But you could also use these to decorate the outside of frames and mirrors.

I have recently started an Instagram page for me to share all my crafty shenanigans on called crafty hearts corner, so if you would like to see more of what I am up too with craft, give this a follow.

Meet the blogger – Jack Deyes

In case you missed it, back in December I posted my first meet the blogger segment with SarahTradeMark.
In this ‘Meet the blogger’ I am talking about the wonderful Jack Deyes. Jack is a lifestyle blogger who is very passionate about the blogging community.

My favourite post from Jack…

Jack has written an open post on his own experiences with autism. ‘I have autism’. Jack really goes into detail about his autism, and how it affects him on a day to day basis. I feel that anyone who reads this post will gain more of an understanding of autism.

If you would like to follow Jack on Social Media he is on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

Here are the questions I asked blogger Jack

What Made You Start blogging?

I started my blog because I wanted something that I would see my self doing for a long time. Down to me reading loads of blogs like I do today blogging seemed like the perfect thing to do

What advice would you give to the new bloggers out there?

Keep up the outstanding work on your blog and blog posts. The work you are putting in is absolutely incredible. Make sure you make your blog you’re own and don’t let anyone tell you how you should be running your blog. After all, you made your blog for you and should continue to be that way. Also sometimes you may feel like giving up but don’t give up because your blog is amazing and so are and I believe you. When you feel lost in the blogging community or something towards your blog talk to a blogger because at the end of the day you’re apart of this blogging community and we all help and support one another and that includes you.

Where do you see your blog in 5 years time?

I hope to see it continue to grow and have even more fun posts on there for people to read. 

I really appreciate Jack taking part in my Meeting the bloggers’ segment.
If you would like to take part, send me an email to thealexajadeblog@gmail.com